I'll post the field reports later, but somehow I have recently found myself dating (just finished #5 the other day) a girl I pulled from shopping at the mall. She is Lebanese, speaks 6 languages, and probably about an 8 in my book. Normal methods and routines worked to a point, but I'm confused because of the signals I've been getting:
-She is clearly attracted to me physically (she has said this, and on several occasions has mentioned we are hot together), but after our second date stated (shyly) that she is celibate after her past relationship. As a result, she said she wouldn't really feel comfortable kissing until about 6 dates (I kissed forehead/cheek/neck at some during our time together and got away with it so we'll see).
I have no idea how long that will last, but I think she threw out that sex wouldn't be appropriate until date #40 (wtf?). At the same time, the last time we went out and I mentioned I used to do massage, she said I should have to do one on date 45. Playing coy, I asked "Swedish or Deep tissue", and she replied with "sensual". More banter followed after that
We both like working out, and on a dinner date she lowered her voice and mentioned I should work her out "rough and hard..." I told her I'm not sure she could handle that so I would take it easy on her, but she was persistent. I lowered my voice to match and said some to build sexual tension through innuendo, then I made a joke about her innuendo... but she didn't seem to understand what innuendo meant. She also didn't get my joke about how I was going to escalate the date conversation from PG-13 to R, but maybe it was just a stupid joke.
So bottom line, I can't really tell if she just doesn't understand some of the things I'm doing when escalating, or if she is actually the one playing me. I'm not sure if I should continue pushing escalation, or if I should respect her feelings on all of it because of cultural differences. She also mentioned that she likes "cocky", but also the "nerdiness" in some of the things I say/do, further confusing me as to whether or not I should just go for it or not.
I'm in no rush to sleep with her; in fact, I actually find it refreshing that she mentioned celibacy and would rather wait. However, prior training has taught me that there still needs to be escalation for her to keep interest instead of friend zoned. I also really have no idea how to date someone for an extended period of time without sexual activity (does that sound as bad as it looks?).
Anyone have thoughts on this and/or experienced cultural ambiguity in the past?
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