So I was watching Casino Royale--after a few drinks--and one scene put me into an introspective state. It went like this:
Vesper Lynd: You're not going to let me in there, are you? You've got your armour back on. That's that.
James Bond: I have no armour left. You've stripped it from me. Whatever is left of me - whatever is left of me - whatever I am - I'm yours.
Cliffnotes to this: Bond is a cold-hearted badass who can attract any woman, actually falls in love with one, then after she betrays him he becomes a cold-hearted badass again. You know the story.
So I'm asking you guys how much distance do you keep with the women you meet, and do you ever allow your "armor" to be stripped? Do you ever expect someone you close to be a long-term thing? I'm curious, because for me:
1) I was in a serious relationship(marrying-type serious) which, after it failed, kinda jaded me on the idea of love. To hear your partner say things like "I will always love you", "You are the one for me", etc. and then suddenly one day it's simply not true, was a wakeup call. Then when I discovered PUA, and witnessed things like the "BF Destroyer" work on so many people so easily, it further reinforced that feeling.
2) Before I started really getting into PUA, I closed on a girl who I ended up casually dating. As much as I would keep that armor on in the beginning thinking it would just be a short-term fling, over time I actually started to grow feelings for her too. While I didn't let up on some of the methods I learned from PUA, I allowed the feelings I had for her to be a little more genuine. Then it ended. Difference this time, however, is that at least I wasn't totally blindsided by it because I was starting to notice the signs earlier--even as she said the same things like "I think you're the one for me". It didn't bother me much, and we're still friends, but once again it made me question the idea of real love/relationships.
3) Because of the nature of my career at the time, a level of discretion was required and helped justify the distance I had to keep. This limited how genuine I could be with some of the women I met...which was fine until some of them unintentionally became more long term interests to me.
So when do YOU feel comfortable enough to let someone in? Or do you ever really strip your armor off in this lifestyle?