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    Default Awkward situation with girl help!

    Hi guys,

    I need your opinion on this:

    So, I've met a girl a while ago. we talked a lot about everything, exchanged messages, lots of smiles, looking in each other eyes..
    I started using kino trying to escalate and was being successfull, but when for some reason I tried to hold her hand while walking after a picnic..she didnt take it and felt unconfortable.
    At that moment I've made a joke and changed her attention to another subject , but in my head I knew I was being rejected there. I understood she likes me a friend, I guess.

    I felt stupid so after that I decided to not pay her so much attention and start not spending so much time with her.I'm not being an asshole right now and I continue to be polite, but nowadays when we are together:

    I dont make any jokes; sometimes I dont answer her messages because I'm "too busy"; I dont go for picnic and coffee with her anymore; no more basically I talk to her not being rude of course but I dont care much..

    Her "holding hands rejection" and my "behaviour change" was 1 month ago. I was expecting her to miss the time we've spent together and ask me if "everything was ok", "why are you behaving different", "what I've I done" or something like that but the fact is that nothing of this happened.

    She noticed that I was behaving different but she kept sending messages and using kino for a while (and getting no response from me), but now she stopped and nowadays there are mostly small talk and awkward silences between us..

    I noticed that she is sad about the situation but she never talks about that.

    Can you guys comment this situation please?

    I think this is getting awkward but I dont want to bring the subject and talk with her about the situation because that would be stupid and I would be "needy" if I do that..

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    Default Re: Awkward situation with girl help!

    At this point, the easiest way to deal with this situation is to take it as a lesson, and move on. Honestly, this is the easiest way. That being said, the situation is still recoverable.

    You have to ramp up attraction, as to not get friend zoned here like she was doing earlier. The pull back was great on your part, it made her seek your validation and get a little flirty. Instead of brick walling her still though at that point, slowly reward her "good behavior" of trying to kino and flirty text to win you back by pulling back less and less, and being nicer to her. Slowly letting her back into the position as she was before, but now there is her flirting involved.

    Right now what you can do to change this, is become almost aloof to the whole situation that happened. Get her to try to go for your attraction again by being cool, not thinking about the awkward moments that have happened, and joke around. Be playful and attractive. Then pull back again like you did. You have to hang with her and get the attraction ramped up. Use some negative body language while you're hanging out, and pull back when you aren't hanging again. This will hopefully get her to try and validate herself, and once she does, allow her to. When a girl tries to get you and is qualifying herself, and you still continue to deny her, it kills her spirit. It's like when you play tag on the playground with girls who are slower than you. You don't just run super far ahead of them and laugh "haha bitch you'll never fuckin catch me." She knows she is slower, and also knows it's not even worth the effort once your two football fields ahead of her. You have to slow down and let her get some validation. Not continue to cold shoulder her when she's trying.


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