i have been in an open LDR for nearly 3 years with a girl from eastern europe. She has come to my country (UK) about 6 times to see me and each time we get on great. i have not gone to her country as its a dump.
the last time she was here she asked me what i want from this. i did not want to look beta so i just said we will talk about it some other time.
since then our contact on FB and skype has sometimes gone dead for weeks and weeks. i rarely initiate. Communication is very guarded / some stuff she sends/says is bordering on shit testing / jealousy game
I want to minimise contact without being too cold as I dont want to waste any more emotional energy with something that is invisible for the most part. its starting to affect my game with other local options also.
Does aloof / laconic text game work in LDR?
any help appreciated.