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    Vitamin is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Unhappy Did I blow this?

    Hi everyone I just registered here, and I really need your expertise.

    At a party about two months ago I met a girl. We immediately made a connection, she had to leave early so we just kissed and exchanged numbers. She texted me the day after and it was as if she had completely fallen in love. So we planned a date and went to a nice restaurant I didn't have the gut to invite her home after the dinner but we kissed again.

    So fast forward to this day, we have pretty much talked everyday she usually starts the conversations and often sends love emoticons. I was out of town for a month so didn't really have the opportunity to meet her. After I got home again I have twice tried to invite her out but she said that she was busy but that she would love to meet me again when her schedule wasn't this intense. So I told her that I wasn't interested in playing any games and that I enjoy her company. She told me that she wanted to meet me too, but that she had a lot of stuff to do at the moment.

    She still talks to me everyday but it's as if we are pen pals. We are both 23 years old, and she recently got out of a 4 year long relationship. What would be the right approach here?

    Appreciate all help in advance. 

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    Default Re: Did I blow this?

    Ask her why she has been more distant than initially...

    Also, have other options....

    I'm sure she's not the hottest girl in the world... there are many other just like her....

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    Vitamin is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Did I blow this?

    I have asked her about it. She got out of a bad relationship and want's to take it slow. But I really feel like she's worth investing in. I just can't figure out if she's interested. We write back and forth for hours every day. But as I said it almost feels like we're pen pals.

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    Default Re: Did I blow this?

    It seems to me you're pen pals with meagre benefits - like she can treat you as bf without having to commit to you. Stop writing to her like that. Tell her you're busy with other plans and if she wants to hang out then she's welcome to tag along to whatever plans you have. If she agrees to come out then great - kino escalate from that point until you can take the relationship to the next level. I don't see any upside to this penpal thing unless you're escalating sexually - and it sounds like you're just being her emotional bedrock, internet boyfriend/soulmate at the moment.

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    Default Re: Did I blow this?

    Quote Originally Posted by Vitamin View Post
    Hi everyone I just registered here, and I really need your expertise.

    At a party about two months ago I met a girl. We immediately made a connection, she had to leave early so we just kissed and exchanged numbers. She texted me the day after and it was as if she had completely fallen in love. So we planned a date and went to a nice restaurant I didn't have the gut to invite her home after the dinner but we kissed again.

    So fast forward to this day, we have pretty much talked everyday she usually starts the conversations and often sends love emoticons. I was out of town for a month so didn't really have the opportunity to meet her. After I got home again I have twice tried to invite her out but she said that she was busy but that she would love to meet me again when her schedule wasn't this intense. So I told her that I wasn't interested in playing any games and that I enjoy her company. She told me that she wanted to meet me too, but that she had a lot of stuff to do at the moment.

    She still talks to me everyday but it's as if we are pen pals. We are both 23 years old, and she recently got out of a 4 year long relationship. What would be the right approach here?

    Appreciate all help in advance. 
    I too was in a situation very similar to this, what I did that time was.. Started dropping the texts one by one (either not replying or replying without much thought) and then when she texts you after a short while lets say thursday.. Tell her that she should tell you a time she is free, so that you can check your schedule so that you both could meet up.

    what she sent -

    how was your day ?

    what I sent -

    madame tell me a time your free, so that I can check with the butler If I am free that time. Looking forward for company
    regards,

    - modern romeo

    ( See how it has an almost fun tone, joking, role playing thing going on.. That should spark her interest)

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    Default Re: Did I blow this?

    I think you guys hit the nail on the head. The whole problem is that at the end of January I have a business trip which means that I will be out of town for 2 months, this is just a one time thing. She knows this. If it ever will work between us I need to close her before that time.

    Sent her a message about meeting and she told med that she could meet up this friday, but that she had to go to work on saturday so it couldn't be that late. How can I add sexual tension between us during this date?

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    Default Re: Did I blow this?

    Thanks for all the help guys. Put some pressure on her and she spilled her thoughts. She said that she didn't want to be exclusive until I returned from this trip. And told me to have fun with other girls, as she couldn't promise that she wouldn't while I was gone. This is it I suppose. Time to move on. It's funny how a nice family girl is no different than club girls.

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    Default Re: Did I blow this?

    Quote Originally Posted by Vitamin View Post
    Thanks for all the help guys. Put some pressure on her and she spilled her thoughts. She said that she didn't want to be exclusive until I returned from this trip. And told me to have fun with other girls, as she couldn't promise that she wouldn't while I was gone. This is it I suppose. Time to move on. It's funny how a nice family girl is no different than club girls.
    Don't let girls trick you into thinking they are angels, they want to f as much as guys do, if not more, I know one girl who won't admit to being a whore ever and will get furious at me if i hint at the fact, yet she preaches she's a great girl and doesn't mess around even though she'll basically flirt with any guy trying to get in her pants becuase she loves the attention and she'll lie through her teeth and is shady as hell and basically playing a handful if guys and sleeps at night like a baby, all while putting up the front that she's an angel....

    Best way to not get hurt or be taken advantage of by these girls? Be alpha, being alpha puts girls on their toes and will make them more afraid of losing you or f'n up with you, thus they will respect you more. Work on yourself obviously, (better your mind, body, and have hobbies, obviously you need your own life and can't rely on women for anything), play the game, because it works.

    Those tips are pretty obvious but i'lll add my own personal 2 cents, seriously, don't let girls trick you, don't let girls make you think they're good and different from other girls so easily, thus making you put your guard down and stop gaming them...then you'll mess up and lose them. Stop thinking to yourself so quickly that "this girl is different, i'm just gonna tell her how i really feel and be myself" DO NOT do that so soon. It takes a lot of time to really know a girl so don't jump into being all lovey dovey and comfortable with her so soon, you gotta keep playing the game.

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    Default Re: Did I blow this?

    Quote Originally Posted by Bluenose10 View Post
    Don't let girls trick you into thinking they are angels, they want to f as much as guys do, if not more, I know one girl who won't admit to being a whore ever and will get furious at me if i hint at the fact, yet she preaches she's a great girl and doesn't mess around even though she'll basically flirt with any guy trying to get in her pants becuase she loves the attention and she'll lie through her teeth and is shady as hell and basically playing a handful if guys and sleeps at night like a baby, all while putting up the front that she's an angel....

    Best way to not get hurt or be taken advantage of by these girls? Be alpha, being alpha puts girls on their toes and will make them more afraid of losing you or f'n up with you, thus they will respect you more. Work on yourself obviously, (better your mind, body, and have hobbies, obviously you need your own life and can't rely on women for anything), play the game, because it works.

    Those tips are pretty obvious but i'lll add my own personal 2 cents, seriously, don't let girls trick you, don't let girls make you think they're good and different from other girls so easily, thus making you put your guard down and stop gaming them...then you'll mess up and lose them. Stop thinking to yourself so quickly that "this girl is different, i'm just gonna tell her how i really feel and be myself" DO NOT do that so soon. It takes a lot of time to really know a girl so don't jump into being all lovey dovey and comfortable with her so soon, you gotta keep playing the game.
    Bluemoon, just reading a few of your posts, you seem to be one of the guys I should listen to...

    What do you generally find out about a girl after taking that time to get to know her? That she is a "playette?" That she is selfish? What usually comes out after time? What are their true colors that they often hide at first?

    This reminds me of the time recently when a decently attractive friend of a female friend came up to me and kissed me and introduced herself.... and this might seem like a great situation, but my instincts just told me not to be attracted. She didn't seem like anything I wanted to be around.

    I think some girls are more loyal than others and this might be the difference.

    All I know is I will always sign a PRENUP!!!

    I have been talking to girls at Winghouse telling them about my real estate investing future and many of them listen very intently and tell me to let them know when I get a lot of money. It is what it is.

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    Default Re: Did I blow this?

    Redstar i don't think i need to tell you about reading women, as long as you're a good guy with a good head on your shoulders and you're not a chump and don't rationalize a girl treating you like crap....it's very easy to tell when a girl is sincere or not, girls are horrible liars in my opinion, so it's not difficult to smell a lie, then you just test them, like recently i said how a girl canceled on me last second and said she had to work, so i said ok i'll visit you at work (not like i was really going to anyway) and she said 2 lame excuses back to back beforr i could even respond so it was so obvious she was lying, later on i found out from another friend that she was hanging out with another dude at his house, owch, but this girl is an irrational whore (excuse my language but theres no other way to describe her) and she's young anyway so she has a lot of growing up to do. So now i just pay her very little interest or attention when she texts me, and i'll respond an hour or 2 later because she'll do that with me, so f her. She's gotta put the effort in if she wants to see me again. Plus i called her out on what she did that i knew she lied and hung out with another dude, she said she's sorry but she doesn't mean it, i was jusr angry and had to get it out of my system because it was bothering me. I DO NOT suggest you call out a girl you're seeing on her sluttiness if all you want to do is bang her, girls like being called sluts obviously, and if you do that they'll just open their legs for other guys more than they do for you now, assuming they still even want to hang out with you after you've called them out.

    Don't call them out on it is the smarter thing to do....its not like u would marry a promiscuous girl, I just have too much pride and can't help confronting people when they act like shitty human beings.


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