Re: How do you ask for sex?
Oh, my friend, what a feeling it is to be young and in lust! haha.
Our buddy bluenose 10 is very intelligent and has touched on a great point.
Being Higher Status (Higher Value/Higher Status, same thing)
Walking into the bar with a bunch of girls draped over you is one way to show that you're higher status, of course. It shows that you have been Preselected by a group of females, and, therefore, other females will automatically think you are not creepy, douchey, or a wimp. They will see that other females think you are valuable. And boom, there you are, High Status.
I understand that as a man who is just starting on his journey of badassery, you may not have that type of clout, just yet
But there are other ways to show you are high-status, and they do not require anybody else's help. Although, I wouldn't encourage you to go to the bar alone. Go with some of your boys, of course.
Being High Status has very little to do with how much other people value you, and a ton to do with how much you value YOURSELF. When you value yourself highly, others will as well. Other people will hold you in the same esteem you hold yourself. The previous sentence is worth rereading a couple times.
So in order to come off high status, you only need to act high status by yourself, here are a few tips:
High Status Eye Contact: When you shake a woman's hand, or speak with her, look her dead in the eye, and don't flinch.
A rule of thumb that I tend to follow- If somebody is speaking to me, I'll look them in the eye for about 2 seconds, then look away to the left or right (never downward). If I am speaking to them, I'll stare deep into their soul for about 5 seconds, then look into the distance.
Also, eye contact, in all cases, should be relaxed. Relax your face, don't get all tense and nervous.
High Status Walk: Walk just a little slower than you usually would. Walk as if you have a gun, or a 12 incher, in your pants. Walk like a GUNSLINGER. Slow and steady. Draw your body up tall.
High Status Vocal Tonality: There's a lot that goes into this one, but one quick tip is to always sound certain of yourself. Try not to trail off at the end of your sentences. This tends to happen if you say something slick, and you're not sure about it. Just own everything you say.
Check out youtube videos of George Clooney, especially how he carrys himself in the Oceans 11 films. Notice how he walks, how he talks, even in high tension situations. Emulate that.
Now, when it comes to the sexytimes, here's my advice:
You have to build that sexual tension brother.
Tease her about sexual things, but in a cool way.
Say things like "I don't think you could handle me in the sack." "Oh, you're from LA, LA chicks are soooo innocent" (can be used with any city) "Are you trying to seduce me?" (That one works wonders if she throws you a shit test) "Seriously, stop doing that, you're getting me all hot and bothered" (blame it on her)
Again it is important to OWN IT when you say these things, you can say them in a playful way (and you should) but don't raise your voice too high, and don't trail off at the end.
Say things like that. Teasing, challenging things. Let her giggle or whatever. Play with it for a minute. Then (and this is the important part) switch the conversation back to non-sexual things. You don't want to hammer on the topic of sex for too long, she'll think you're a creep.
It's good just to put it out there, then YOU be the person to change the subject. You can even tease her about it like, when you're on the subject of sex, say something like "Jeez, you girls only think about ONE thing...let's talk about something else." That's gonna make you stand out because most other guys would hold onto the subject of sex and bleed it dry of all of its tension.
So you just keep pushing and pulling and turning up the heat as the night goes on.
If you keep escalating verbally, and then start with some touching, then escalate that touching (put her hand on your leg, tell her to bite your neck while you're dancing with her), she'll be begging you to have sex with her. Problem solved.
You're a champion man, and I know if you keep going out there and trying you're going to have success. I've been where you are and I know it can get discouraging. But if you keep seeking help and taking action no matter what, you will get this skill down. Before you know it, picking up women will become second nature.
If you need any more specifics, let me know, brother.
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