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Thread: It's been a LONG 3 years

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    Default It's been a LONG 3 years

    So I first began visiting these sites out of loneliness a few years back when my ex broke up with me and my cousin referred me to a website.

    At the time I had a car, a job, music equipment and was always making music or DJing.the information I learned in just a few months helped me get my last girlfriend who I was very in love with (and vice versa). The problem is I had a drug problem she didn't know about until a couple months in and from then on it was up and down for a year or so even though I could tell we both really wanted to make it work.

    The last Sex I've had was Valentine's Day 2013 before she broke up with me. In the process of dealing with my substance abuse problem I've gained a lot of weight and lost the my creativity along with most of my equipment (my music being my primary source of confidence)

    I'm sick of how life has been the last three years. Any suggestions where to even start over again from this now much less confident state?

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    Default Re: It's been a LONG 3 years

    Quote Originally Posted by Cadnb View Post
    So I first began visiting these sites out of loneliness a few years back when my ex broke up with me and my cousin referred me to a website.

    At the time I had a car, a job, music equipment and was always making music or DJing.the information I learned in just a few months helped me get my last girlfriend who I was very in love with (and vice versa). The problem is I had a drug problem she didn't know about until a couple months in and from then on it was up and down for a year or so even though I could tell we both really wanted to make it work.

    The last Sex I've had was Valentine's Day 2013 before she broke up with me. In the process of dealing with my substance abuse problem I've gained a lot of weight and lost the my creativity along with most of my equipment (my music being my primary source of confidence)

    I'm sick of how life has been the last three years. Any suggestions where to even start over again from this now much less confident state?
    Heei man! You have to try to get your confidence back, step for step! I think that is the problem you have at the moment! When your confidence is back, then you will go to the next step!

    You have to try to play music again, maybe it isnt that good as it was but you will improve and it is somerhing you like. So you have to so this.
    further you said you gained a lot of weight, so join an gym, look for a workoutparntet so you won't stop or hire a coach! You have to change also the way how you eat!

    try to stand up straight and buy some new clothes and maybe a new hairstyle?

    These are some tips that can boost your confidence!

    cocotuiri

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    Default Re: It's been a LONG 3 years

    getting your health in line would be a great first step!

    bodybuilding dot com is running a body transformation challenge right now. there are a lot of resources over there to help someone get in shape. plus the winner of the challenge gets $100k..... no entry fee or nothing!

    good on ya for getting your life squared away!

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    Default Re: It's been a LONG 3 years

    Quote Originally Posted by Cadnb View Post
    So I first began visiting these sites out of loneliness a few years back when my ex broke up with me and my cousin referred me to a website.

    At the time I had a car, a job, music equipment and was always making music or DJing.the information I learned in just a few months helped me get my last girlfriend who I was very in love with (and vice versa). The problem is I had a drug problem she didn't know about until a couple months in and from then on it was up and down for a year or so even though I could tell we both really wanted to make it work.

    The last Sex I've had was Valentine's Day 2013 before she broke up with me. In the process of dealing with my substance abuse problem I've gained a lot of weight and lost the my creativity along with most of my equipment (my music being my primary source of confidence)

    I'm sick of how life has been the last three years. Any suggestions where to even start over again from this now much less confident state?
    Couldn't have been that close of a relationship if you were lying to her. Just saying. That's a pretty major thing to hide.

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    Default Re: It's been a LONG 3 years

    Quote Originally Posted by redstar1324 View Post
    Couldn't have been that close of a relationship if you were lying to her. Just saying. That's a pretty major thing to hide.
    He isn't asking for criticism. He is asking for tips to get his life back on track so let's give that to him!

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    Default Re: It's been a LONG 3 years

    Quote Originally Posted by cocotuiri View Post
    He isn't asking for criticism. He is asking for tips to get his life back on track so let's give that to him!
    Okay... be honest next time and maybe things would have worked out better. Join a gym, make more money.... I don't know. Can't criticism be constructive?

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    Default Re: It's been a LONG 3 years

    Quote Originally Posted by redstar1324 View Post
    Couldn't have been that close of a relationship if you were lying to her. Just saying. That's a pretty major thing to hide.
    I don't wanna get too sappy cause I'm here to try to get my balls back and move on but if I could give up nearly anything to go back and never get High that first time I would in a heartbeat. I kept it from her because I liked her so much and I wanted to quit without her knowing but it was WWWAAAAAAYYY harder and more miserable than I thought

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    Default Re: It's been a LONG 3 years

    A fitness challenge thing sounds good actually. Maybe I'll actually do it with the proper motivation I'll check it out

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    Default Re: It's been a LONG 3 years

    Quote Originally Posted by Cadnb View Post
    I don't wanna get too sappy cause I'm here to try to get my balls back and move on but if I could give up nearly anything to go back and never get High that first time I would in a heartbeat. I kept it from her because I liked her so much and I wanted to quit without her knowing but it was WWWAAAAAAYYY harder and more miserable than I thought
    Yea I have regrets about things I've done to. The last girl I talked to significantly has a dad that owns over $5.5 billion in real estate, made an offer to buy the Empire State Building in 2013, and his company makes over $500 million in profit per year. She is inheriting a lot of money when she turns 21 and at one point she told me she wanted to give me a baby.

    I messed it up by being completely and utterly retarded.

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    Default Re: It's been a LONG 3 years

    I dealt with a similar situation close to a year ago. A break-up that hit me harder than I expected, lost a lot of confidence, found myself in a real rut, etc.

    That fitness challenge sounds like a great place to start! The trick will be sticking with it and being able to continually push yourself to stay on track and then going on with it once the challenge is over. Combine it with a healthy diet and you'll start to feel awesome in no time!

    What are the reasons it's taken this long to do something about it? What is it that has kept you from taking the first step?


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