Re: Can someone help me fix this hole in my game?
Hey man, I wrote a long answer to the thread we were chatting on before, idk why it didn't post...
This gives me more details as to your problem, though.
It sounds like you're not flirting.
You're pulling facts out of her. Girls hate that.
Men love talking about facts. EX: Football stats, prices of everything, "Can you drop the front-end two inches?", "what's your favorite food?" etc.
Women on the other hand, are much more emotional. They want a man to make them feel good.
How do you do that?
Teasing her in a playful way, talking about ridiculous things, asking her silly, ludicrous questions.
Here's a good opener that I use often that serves as an example for teasing her.
Me: "Hi, my name is Jake, what's your name?" <See how easy an opener can be?
Her: "Hi, I'm Kelly." <Has no idea she's about to get her socks charmed off
Me: "Hey Kelly, I have a very important question for you."
Her: "What's that?"
Me: "What do you think is worse for you, weed or alcohol?"
Her: (She says either weed or alcohol, doesn't really matter)
Me: "Are you serious?! You are such a (pothead/alcoholic), (weed/alcohol) is so much worse for you!"
So you just playfully disagree with her, make sure all of this is said in a playful voice, with a little smirk on your face. And you can just play with that for a minute.
But you can't be ALWAYS flirty, I used to have that problem.
If you're always flirty, it just ruins the vibe, it kills the tension.
So after a little banter (like above) you can come back to getting to know her.
"If you could go one place in the world, money was no object, where would you go?"
"Oh, cool, I love traveling too, but why would you choose Ireland over ANYWHERE else in the world?"
Then take it back to something more flirty/silly
"I bet it would take about 3 velociraptors to bust through that window, what do you think?"
Then you take it back to something normal.
Then you build some tension.
"If you had to have sex in just one position for the rest of your life, what would it be?"
Go back and forth on something like that
Then you drop the subject, while accusing her of only thinking about sex! Haha, this is one gets me laughing every time.
"Jesus, girls only think about one thing...let's talk about something else."
Build more tension by putting her hands on you.
Put HER hand on YOUR leg.
Tell her to bite your neck if you're getting close, or dancing with her.
Then, playfully push her away.
This will drive her crazy.
Hope that helps, brother!
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