Re: Leave your honest and logical mind at the door?
Bluenose, my man. I totally get where you're coming from. And I've been there. That place where you feel confused because all of this advice goes against what you have been for many years of your life. People tell you that in order to find success with women, you have to stop being "nice". Even though you feel like you are an honest, caring person. And you don't want to be mean to anybody, definitely not a cute girl.
Now I'm going to tell you something that might piss you off.
The men who have come from that place where you are, that confused place where you're just starting to learn game, and you don't really know if what you're doing is right, and it feels kinda weird and strangely wrong, and you're not getting the success you want...
The guys who come from that place and eventually get to a place of true mastery, where they don't even have to work at it and women just want to ravage them, where they just breathe social influence and lust and they don't even have to try....
Those men don't feel like they have changed themselves
They feel as if they have become their true self.
They have changed their paradigms so that they more accurately depict the world around them.
They ask themselves deep, sometimes painful questions like:
Why do I want to sleep with a bunch of women in the first place?
The true, emotional answers to that question are painful to think about...
"Because all of my friends have girlfriends and I feel insecure around them because I'm single..."
"Because I feel inadequate if I don't have many sexual partners..."
"Because I feel like less of a man if I don't sleep with lots of women..."
"Because I feel like if i'm single, or if I don't have a fuckbuddy, I feel less significant."
"Because I crave the social validation..."
When I was deeply honest with myself, those are some of the answers I came up with. These are many of the same things most men struggle with.
Now I'm not saying that wanting to sleep with a lot of reasons is wrong, of course it's not! It's hard-wired into us as men! It's healthy, it's good, it's fucking fun!
What I'm saying is those REASONS need to change. And in order to do that you must change the way you look at the world so it more accurately depicts reality.
You following me here so far boss? I don't want to launch into the solution here if you're already confused...
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