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    Default The response to a woman who shit tests you day after you split check

    Great 1st date Sunday night with a woman. I kept my oversharing in check and felt very much in control of the conversation and evening. Healthy make out at the end of the night and tentative plans for Friday. So last night she texts me "Soooo I want to be honest about something blah blah I found our splitting of the bill a bit tacky. I know it's 21st century but I appreciate a romantic courtship. Do what you want with that info."

    There wasn't anything really tacky about the bill split, we both had 2-3 drinks and we split an entree at the bar. Also, the bill came and I put out my card and she offered to split and I said sure. Ie, nothing really strange about the bill split like me forcing it on her or even a discussion at the time.

    Just some background on the date, I gave her some shit for being mean but in a fun way. So for instance, she'd say something superficial and I'd tell her that's her mean line for the next hour and we'd laugh about it.

    If there's a sticky on shit tests I didn't find it searching. I'm sure this has come up a million times before and hopefully there's a great response.

    Because I want to improve, here's what I'm thinking in response:

    [let me get out in front on a redstar response] : Just give me one more chance!

    Ok serious response : "Usually women buy me drinks and food so I really never know what to do in that situation either. "

    Or how about picking on her superficiality a bit more with "Wow I'm impressed, it's usually date #3 before women come out about wanting to be lavished with money by rich guys. It's kinda a turnoff for me this early."

    Let me just say this, she's smart and a professional so I'm not sure she's going to enjoy the fun and sarcasm via text.

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    CervezaLover13 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: The response to a woman who shit tests you day after you split check

    Ok I realize I'm having a conversation with myself on this forum, but I think I've stumbled onto the perfect response to the above, which I used and got a great response back. So here it is:
    Her: [above shit test, basically chivalry blah blah even though I picked the place and you drove to me and we both drank/ate same, I wanted you to pay up cause I'm a woman]
    Me: [I let it stew for about 24 hours before I responded. This is the default when I get a text I don't care for. I do this for any shit test. Ie, she asks how tall I am on tinder, 24 hours go by, cocky funny add couple inches]
    "Usually women buy me drinks/food so I never know what to do in that situation. I actually think you're pretty cool, but is this how you treat every guy haha?"

    I adore it more every time I read it. It's cocky funny to start, then it's a bit real with the backhanded "actually think you're pretty cool", which is code for "you're being a bitch but I'm willing to let it slide". Then it continues the "how you treat every guy" flow which is a doubling down of the not to subtle way I'm telling her this is not a good way to treat a guy.

    Her "Women buy you drinks!????? What???" [ note she'd not used a single exclamation or question mark to this point ]
    "Well I mean I get splitting something after the first date maybe but I'd like to believe chivalry is not dead. "
    "I think you're pretty cool too smilyface"

    This is just a blowout win right? She's intrigued by my cocky funny intro. She's all but admitting that splitting after first date is something she's up for. Mentions chivalry again, and finishes with a compliment that I walked her into.
    Me [waited 12 hours so let her sweat that I was done for good based on my previous text]
    "Chivalry is not dead! We should do drinks at XXX"

    I felt it suitable to mention chivalry because she'd said it twice. I think there's a subtle reward for her good behavior here. Ie her first bitch message about chivalry I ignored the chivalry and picked on her bitchiness. Then when she caves to my cocky funny, I reward by hinting that I could be chivalrous in the right situation, such as drinks at XXX!

    Anyway, happy to get some input or even just throw this out there as a great response to this common bitch test. I mean if you make 10 girls split the check, I assume 2-3 will bitch test you like this. I actually believe that if the date is going well, you're touchy feely with her, and there's laughter all around, guy should just pay and assume the sale. I believe the "don't pay for girls" is more suitable advice for the pathetic guys who are on lousy dates or being used. Like the woman above could easily have just not responded to texts based on me allowing her to split the bill. The worst bitch tests are the ones you don't get a chance to crush!

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    Default Re: The response to a woman who shit tests you day after you split check

    Cervezalover13,

    You get A+'s all around. Nice job man. You stood your ground, kept it playful, and rewarded her good behavior when she finally showed it.
    After this, it's ok to show a little more interest. One big problem I had and I see many other guys having is they take the Playful + Challenging + Teasing thing to a new extreme. Your next date would be a great time to slow it down a little bit (as opposed to being super playful) and create some sexual tension between you two.
    Killed it tho, man!
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