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Thread: How do i keep it at Friends with Benifits?

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    Unhappy How do i keep it at Friends with Benifits?

    Met a girl today and she Tells me that she doesn't want to be a one time thing and wants me to keep being with her if we have sex, I Re-assured her I won't just going to forget about her, but later in the night she wanted me to let her keep my jacket, Kept asking If i could make plans for tomorrow for us. So Bros What would you guys recommend I do without breaking her heart or our friendship?

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    Default Re: How do i keep it at Friends with Benifits?

    the best thing is to be honest in these type of situations, if you want to have sex with no strings attached keeping your options open - great, tell her that, even if she does catch feelings for you she can't blame you due to the fact that you were completely honest with your motives. Who knows, maybe you'll even maybe fall head over heels for this girl (I highly recommend you don't tell her this part, false hopes are never good). The fact that she asked for your jacket is a sign that she wants evidence that you're not just going to **** her over, most likely she had someone do this to her in the past and she's very insecure and cautious now. I definitely respect you for not wanting to break her heart, not many people have empathy for others. Welcome to the forums.

    -Alergy

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    Default Re: How do i keep it at Friends with Benifits?

    Thanks Alergy,

    The way I see it, A Good Artist never destroys his canvas.

    Today I told her to slow down when she joked about me making her my girl, My best idea is to keep switching to a sexual subject every time she starts talking about her feelings about us. Im going to hang out with her and her friend tomorrow, Think its a good idea?

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    Default Re: How do i keep it at Friends with Benifits?

    I see nothing wrong with that, but sooner or later you should verbally convey your intentions

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    Default Re: How do i keep it at Friends with Benifits?

    Hey Just got back home from hanging out with this girl.

    About halfway through the evening, we are sitting in my car, looking at a viewpoint, we just had sex about 30 min before this. My hand is massaging her back and she keeps looking into my eyes. Finally she asks me the question.

    "So do you see this relationship going anywhere?"

    I looked away for about 30 sec, then turned to her and said; "I don't just jump into love, and I will be honest with you, this may not turn out to be a love relationship, but I will promise that I will always be here when you call. I will not leave you all by yourself, so relationship or not, i will always be here for you." (something along those lines)

    Worked like a charm. a minute later were making out again.

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    Default Re: How do i keep it at Friends with Benifits?

    Quote Originally Posted by JasonKovi1 View Post

    "So do you see this relationship going anywhere?"

    I looked away for about 30 sec, then turned to her and said; "I don't just jump into love, and I will be honest with you, this may not turn out to be a love relationship, but I will promise that I will always be here when you call. I will not leave you all by yourself, so relationship or not, i will always be here for you." (something along those lines)

    Worked like a charm. a minute later were making out again.
    You talked about love and always being there for her. This is just wordplay. Be honest and dump people before hurting them if your intentions are like that. The only way to keep a friends with benefits relationship going is not being friends and not having a relationship, otherwise it almost always ends badly.

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    Default Re: How do i keep it at Friends with Benifits?

    This is what I always used to do and because I believe in it it's not really lieing even though I know the turnout.
    Tell her that you need to see someone for 6 months before committing to them. That you have trust issues and just want to make sure to choose the right person. The turnout is that they never last 6 months and usually either lose interest by then or you are interested in taking it further and she's ready.

    Now if you're just trying to not see her all the time or spend all your time with her just do what women do. Tell her you want to take things slow. Yea it'll bug her, but she'll get over it. Unless she's a crazy person that will drive off a bridge with you in the car O_O (Vanilla Sky)
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: How do i keep it at Friends with Benifits?

    Thanks Batman,

    The excuse is just something to keep her from getting emotional, its easy to get her to lose interest after a while, just do all the stuff that gets you friend-zoned... Its one of the most powerful ways I get girls to become disengaged. Talk to her about your feelings, your day, don't make any sexual advances, and everything else that got you to that place in the past. (I think everyone has their custom friend-zone recipe.)

    Also, Thank you Alergy and Howlinwolf for the advice!!


    Well Lets see what new adventures today brings!

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    Default Re: How do i keep it at Friends with Benifits?

    Its best to be straightforward in these situations. Why play games when there are so many other women open to these types of situations. Don't play with the ones that don't just because you find it a challenge.


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