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    willoughbeast1 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Texting her after the 1st date? Date went good. Maybe I over gamed on text?

    Ok So I've read 2 books on texting and it helped me land this date, neither really address the step right after the in detail of what to say after the first date just briefly. Everything is about leading up to the first date and continuing onto the dates after but they kinda skip over what to say between date one and 2. My dilemma is that I had a great first date at starbucks (I could tell she was mutually interested bc she kept qualifying her self) had a good report for an hour so it wasn't to long it was brief I feel like. Set up the 2nd date like so. I wave her down quick hug completely casual. We enter starbucks
    Me "You got this right?"
    Her "I got this? You got this!"
    Me pause for about a minute
    Me "Tell you what I'll get it this time you can get it the next time." Smiling
    Her " I can get mine if you want me to."
    Me no response
    Get to the register she orders and the lady ask anything else I proceed to add mine and then pay for it reminding her shes's got me next time. Smiling
    All fun and games she was biting and laughing she actually kept bringing it up saying now you better hold it to me! Dont forget! Remind me! I got you next time! All on her own.

    So the date went on we talked about a few things for a solid hour, then she mentioned she would need to leave soon bc the roads were gonna Ice over and It's an except able excuse. So Ik that was my cue. I gave the convo about five more minutes before saying
    Me "I need to go to walmart to grab a couple things for my place wanna ride?"
    Her "Its getting late." not so blunt but kinda like that.
    Me "Ok cool."
    Get up walk out were she then reminds me to hold it against her to pay the next time so the second date is setup unofficially.
    We talk as we walk to the cars I walk to hers she gives me a story why her car had a huge dent in it. Qualifying herself so to speak.
    Things Ik I could have done better on the date.
    Made her laugh a little more.
    Been a little more flirtatious/sexually aggressive.

    I head to walmart send a quick snapchat of the huge ass valentines bears
    Me "These things are as big as me"
    Her "Ik they're like 40 to 50 bucks right?
    Me" Idk anyone worth that lol"
    Her "Me either haha"
    Me 10 mins later snapchat "Had a great time btw lets shoot for soon"
    Her " Me too very soon!"
    Me" 5 minutes later. Drive safe dont wanna scrape you off the road."
    Her "Ik I need to be looking at the road" again these are snapchat pictures
    Me "Ik I'm not that sexy you can look at the road now lol"
    No repsonse
    Me An hour or so later snapchat picture "Driving the race car prob wasnt good idea (crazy face)"
    No response so I leave it at that then say about 2 in the a.m before going to sleep I sent a text
    Me "Fwehh just getting in... Hope you made it home safe! Night punk. :P"
    About 18 hours later still no response still trying to calculate the next move! Any advice?

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    willoughbeast1 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Texting her after the 1st date? Date went good. Maybe I over gamed on t

    **Moved to correct thread area

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    Default Re: Texting her after the 1st date? Date went good. Maybe I over gamed on t

    Stop trying to win her over. I never worry about responses anymore unless it is like 10 unanswered texts in a row over a month+ then Sh!t might be getting real. Common thread of you over-pursuing and over-thinking.

    My theory is sometimes you end it
    sometimes she ends it
    but the end result is you never worry about it
    You are worried about it so stop. When you stop you will think like me going months without texting a girl making nothing of it and then boom got a number in the hole for a special night!

    saving my numbers more for hookups and meeting up and less conversation. At least for now. My date a couple days ago was stopping sending me stuff on facebook but I stopped first. Still haven't responded to her. But that doesn't mean I am done. It just means I am saving her for the next I want to get drunk. I love drunk chicks my favorite A game right now.
    When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
    Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.
    -Capn_Jack

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    Default Re: Texting her after the 1st date? Date went good. Maybe I over gamed on t

    She told me "Facebook messenger me." Have I? NO. On purpose. She said she wants space so wth would I message her. Girls can come to me now. Kinda tryin to get them to chase me rather. In truth I will FB messenger her when I want to go out!! I know spending time is better than talking online so I want to spend as much time before too much talk.

    Seeing it more as "I will talk to you when I want to see you!" I used to talk nonstop that Sh!t gets a lot of rejection mate. Hence my new theories. Also if they initiate I will talk. I never talked to the hairstylist and tried to text dump her but she wouldn't let. Boom text text text. She was texting me like a drunk whore in the day time. I only talk to the hairstylist when I need to see her and everything goes perfect so kinda testing to see if I just talk to chicks when I wanna see them.
    When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
    Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.
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