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    Default What did i do wrong? - Pickup 1

    She's 18, i got her number and texted but she stopped no responding. Below is the audio and text convo. The audio is bad so forgive me for the inaudibility.

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    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZJDMtw7hDE

    TEXT CONVO
    ME: It was nice meeting you tonight Alexis. You're eyes almost hypnotized me
    -Moses

    HER:Haha thank you

    ME: I'm gonna be in Barnes&Noble tommorow, come by if you still havn't travel back to Illinois haha.
    *No response from her, so i thought maybe i asked for the date too early. I calibrated by sending her the message below to build-rapport so i can ask for date again later*
    ME: How long have you been san diego? I hope you're liking it.

    HER: Bout 5 months I love it

    ME: Dont tell me you lived in a small farm there lol.
    ME: I say that cos i seen a show about illinios that talk about small cities there. Sounds like a chill place.

    HER: lol I didn't live on a farm but like my city was pretty small

    ME: I wish i could go there. Bring me with you next time you go there. I would make a terrific farmer lol.

    HER: Hahahaha okay

    ME: All kidding aside though, i used to live in a small city as well for a short while haha. Lincoln, Nebraska.
    But i wasnt a farmer, like someone lol.
    *No response from here, i was planning on asking for date again after this rapport*

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    Default Re: What did i do wrong? - Pickup 1

    Kinda hard to hear man, can you write up a subtitled page?
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    Default Re: What did i do wrong? - Pickup 1

    Quote Originally Posted by lifestylebible View Post
    Kinda hard to hear man, can you write up a subtitled page?
    Sorry bro, just busy right now to do that. You should be able to hear it well though if you turn up the volume to the max from both youtube player and your operating system's volume control. Let me know if you hear better now.

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    Default Re: What did i do wrong? - Pickup 1

    Quote Originally Posted by Moses C. View Post
    She's 18, i got her number and texted but she stopped no responding. Below is the audio and text convo. The audio is bad so forgive me for the inaudibility.

    AUDIO
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vZJDMtw7hDE

    TEXT CONVO
    ME: It was nice meeting you tonight Alexis. You're eyes almost hypnotized me
    -Moses

    HER:Haha thank you

    ME: I'm gonna be in Barnes&Noble tommorow, come by if you still havn't travel back to Illinois haha.
    *No response from her, so i thought maybe i asked for the date too early. I calibrated by sending her the message below to build-rapport so i can ask for date again later*
    ME: How long have you been san diego? I hope you're liking it.

    HER: Bout 5 months I love it

    ME: Dont tell me you lived in a small farm there lol.
    ME: I say that cos i seen a show about illinios that talk about small cities there. Sounds like a chill place.

    HER: lol I didn't live on a farm but like my city was pretty small

    ME: I wish i could go there. Bring me with you next time you go there. I would make a terrific farmer lol.

    HER: Hahahaha okay

    ME: All kidding aside though, i used to live in a small city as well for a short while haha. Lincoln, Nebraska.
    But i wasnt a farmer, like someone lol.
    *No response from here, i was planning on asking for date again after this rapport*

    It sounds like you're really pushing the date on her. Make it available to her but don't seem needy.

    Also build more rapport.

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    Default Re: What did i do wrong? - Pickup 1

    Quote Originally Posted by restoshaman View Post
    It sounds like you're really pushing the date on her. Make it available to her but don't seem needy.

    Also build more rapport.
    But i was building rapport, she stopped responding though...

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    Default Re: What did i do wrong? - Pickup 1

    You're investing a lot more than she is in the text conversation. Aim to text the same amount or less than what she is texting. The set up for the date in your second was a presumptuous that she would be free and didn't really illicit a response from her. A better way would be to build a little more rapport for a message or two and suggest an activity, life coffee or something. When she agrees, then you ask for what her schedule is like and pick a date when you're both free. I would just leave it for now until she responds because you would be double texting. If she doesn't respond within 2 weeks, you can send a ping text to reinitiate the conversation.
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    Default Re: What did i do wrong? - Pickup 1

    Dog, you came off way too strong with the eyes hypnotizing you line. She didn't respond because you sounded like you were in love already. I would try more of a neg (if you don't know what a neg is look up mystery method neg). You don't want to text more then she does. You should never put too much effort into text game. If she sends a long, two paragraph text, then reply with a short sentence or two. If she sends a short, shitty text, make a couple sentences or a flirty joke. Just remember, you cant let her know that you have nothing better to do then her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    Default Re: What did i do wrong? - Pickup 1

    There's a difference between building rapport and building comfort. You were building comfort and it seems that you did that before making sure you attracted her. Of course I don't know for sure, but that's what I gather from this one convo. Just ignore whatever you said and JUST read her responses.

    She didn't ask you anything. She gave the shortest version of responses. She didn't contribute to the convo in any way yet you rewarded her by pushing for a date. That's not calibration my friend. I don't think you've lost her completely. Just learn from it.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: What did i do wrong? - Pickup 1

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    There's a difference between building rapport and building comfort. You were building comfort and it seems that you did that before making sure you attracted her. Of course I don't know for sure, but that's what I gather from this one convo. Just ignore whatever you said and JUST read her responses.

    She didn't ask you anything. She gave the shortest version of responses. She didn't contribute to the convo in any way yet you rewarded her by pushing for a date. That's not calibration my friend. I don't think you've lost her completely. Just learn from it.
    You're right i probably didn't build attraction first. I'm still studying what the attraction phase is. But what you said about i built comfort first before rapport i don't understand. Because in the M3 model it says c1 - building rapport. This should mean i built rapport since rapport is the first part of comfort.

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    Default Re: What did i do wrong? - Pickup 1

    I guess for me I always tended to get rapport after building comfort. But the process isn't so strictly linear.

    Comfort to me is just getting to know her hobbies, her job, where she grew up, her favorite genre of music/movies. Anything that has to do with "getting to know her."

    When I think of rapport I think of that point where she feels you understand her world and she can feel safe making herself vulnerable to you. Like when she tells you a terrible story from her past and it's so unique that she hasn't met anyone that would understand what she went through until you come along and happen to have genuinely had the same exact experience. Then you both share something together. And understand each other a bit better and are more sympathetic towards each other. At this point you can safely absorb into each other. Like in the movies when they just lay in bed for hours and hours talking and having sex for like 3 or 4 days straight. That actually does happen in real life lol. To me that's rapport.
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