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    junglistsareyouready88 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Step one for a hardcase newbie...

    I get that making the cold approach is the first step on this massive journey for a hardcase newbie. But where and how?

    Does anyone have any advice for a guy who has literally NO experience with this and a social life that has stagnated?

    Funnily enough, there are not many women in my flat to approach! So where do I go? Do I just wander around the city approaching women? Do I go to a bar or club on my own and approach? I want to remove all my expectations, but this may feel pretty weird and disorientating.

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    Default Re: Step one for a hardcase newbie...

    Hey man,
    I remember my first time cold approaching. I said 'fuck it' and opened a set of 9s who were all sitting at a table, i think there were 4 of them. I was super nervous. I didn't know what to say. I bombed hard as fuck. I went back and chilled with my buddies. I didn't do any more approaches that whole night.

    I went home that night and asked myself "What could I have done better in that interaction?" I came up with a list of things that I did wrong, and how to improve them.

    The next day I went out by myself, to the very same bar, and cold approached literally everybody. Not just girls, but guys too. I made a bunch of new friends. I had one girl grinding on me on the dance floor, I nearly had to peel her off of me. I remember I left the bar that night with 4 numbers, and I went to an after party with a few new friends I had made. At the after party I made out with a pretty sexy chick! Being completely honest, we were all wasted af, but a win is a win!

    From there I kept practicing, and now, 5 years later, I feel like I can just stare pure lust into a woman's eyes without uttering a word.

    My advice to you would be to go cold approach and just give people some fun. Have a good time with it, and don't expect anything in return. Just give good emotions, make people laugh, tease and banter, give give give. And expect nothing.

    I know it's nerve racking. That second time I went out all by myself, I was nervous as hell! But I went out and did it anyways.

    Move into fear, trembling and shaking like a new leaf.
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    Default Re: Step one for a hardcase newbie...

    JayBee is right. Approach as much you can. Talk to everyone you meet. While you're waiting to cross the street, in line at the coffee shop, in the dentist office, in line to get into a club... If you have a lot of anxiety, work on safer openers first like asking for directions or giving a compliment. Keep it short and sweet and work on progressively making the interactions longer. It will start becoming a habit soon and you will get anxiety if you DON'T approach. Here is an article on doing pre-opens to help you get started. Good luck man.
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