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    Default Need help reinitiating and knowing when to keep going!

    What's up again, players?! I have two questions.

    So a few months ago, I approached a girl that was catching her bus. We chatted and connected a bit, so we exchange numbers. We met up some weeks later and went for drinks one night. We hooked up that same night and it was fun while it lasted.
    We still kept in contact and I attempted to meet up with her again once or twice after but was unsuccessful despite us making plans. The last time I tried, she ended up going out with some friends and she didn't respond to me until after saying "Sorry, I just got done dinner with classmates". I said it was okay, I just ended up being with a friend that night. But I guess since she didn't respond to that, I flat out stopped texting her out of frustration nor did she re initiate with me so I left it at that. This was about 2-3 months ago.

    So normally, I let these kind of things go now because I never allow myself to get hung up on women anymore. I went through a huge changing point last year where I greatly developed my inner game and started considering myself a high value man (something I struggled with for a long time); to which I can happily say that my success with woman increased because of it. But thinking back on last year, I've begun to feel like I tend to give up easier now because of it. I don't want to stop pursuing a girl because of one or even a few rough patches, but I'm not a doormat either, you know? Lol. And with this particular girl, I feel like I pulled the plug too soon or maybe it was buyers remorse on her behalf. I don't know.

    Anyway, my questions are.

    1. Should I reinitiate with the girl or leave it alone? if yes, how so? I never turned back to a girl after months of no communication, so I'm a little shy with it.

    2. Which goes along with the first question, how far should you go for a girl before throwing in the towel? I understand that persistence is key, but there comes a point IMO where a girl could be just using and/or shitting on you (not literally) so much to the point that she's no longer worth the effort. In the case of this girl I almost doubt it, but regardless I'm more interested in the lesson than I am with her. I feel like I may be missing something and I need to learn and understand where to draw the line for myself. How do you guys handle these situations?

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    Default Re: Need help reinitiating and knowing when to keep going!

    Thats a shit test and you didnt passed, but maybe you still have a chanse. Buyers remorse? Depends on that what you said and what you did, if you didnt do game good...

    1. Txt her this: "Hey, i am at this really cool bar, having a kickass time, the bartender is really knowledgeable about cocktails, hope you are well, i'll drop you a line soon.

    2. I readed posts on this forum and too much ppl bump here every few months, because they had some bad experience, looking for a way to reduce their frustrations and think some fast tricks will help.

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    Default Re: Need help reinitiating and knowing when to keep going!

    Quote Originally Posted by bojan.95 View Post
    Thats a shit test and you didnt passed, but maybe you still have a chanse. Buyers remorse? Depends on that what you said and what you did, if you didnt do game good...
    What was a shit test? not texting her? I'm not sure what you're referring to. And I mean buyer's remorse after we hooked up. It's likely in my own head, but I always consider the possibilities.

    Quote Originally Posted by bojan.95 View Post
    2. I readed posts on this forum and too much ppl bump here every few months, because they had some bad experience, looking for a way to reduce their frustrations and think some fast tricks will help.
    Err... I don't know what other posts or people you've encountered, but I have no clue how you got that impression from me. I'm asking how one decides which situations are worth sticking around for and which ones to simply move on from. Bad experiences are unavoidable, but you can always better your own approach by learning from different perspectives which isn't some "fast trick". It has little to do with frustration, if any at all.

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    Default Re: Need help reinitiating and knowing when to keep going!

    Dude, do yourself a favor and let it go ...... you got a hook up out of it, time to move on to the next one ..... and there are millions of them out there so go have fun
    "The purpose of our lives is to be happy" - his Holiness the Dalai Llama of Tibet

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    Default Re: Need help reinitiating and knowing when to keep going!

    This girl obviously doesn't perceive you as high value, hence her treating you so lowly. That's her loss. Go out approach more women. Have fun. Always be gaming two or three women at a time, that way if one drops off, or turns out to be unworthy. You can gracefully redirect your energy to more valueable girls. The more experience you gain. The better and better you're going to get.

    It's not just about 'considering yourself' a high value man - though that is important - it's about being a high value man. A high value man has options. The fact that this girl who you only met once is still playing so prominently on your mind after all these months, suggests to me that you don't, or at least that you don't have many. This in turn would suggest to me that you're probably not doing enough approaches to generate new leads.

    Perfection equals paralysis.
    Who Dares Wins.

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    Default Re: Need help reinitiating and knowing when to keep going!

    Quote Originally Posted by drgnsfire12 View Post
    Dude, do yourself a favor and let it go ...... you got a hook up out of it, time to move on to the next one ..... and there are millions of them out there so go have fun
    I know there's millions bro Lol. Like I mentioned, it's more about the lesson, not the girl. I really just needed help re-evaluating how I've been moving on.

    Quote Originally Posted by Black Wolf View Post
    This girl obviously doesn't perceive you as high value, hence her treating you so lowly. That's her loss. Go out approach more women. Have fun. Always be gaming two or three women at a time, that way if one drops off, or turns out to be unworthy. You can gracefully redirect your energy to more valueable girls. The more experience you gain. The better and better you're going to get.

    It's not just about 'considering yourself' a high value man - though that is important - it's about being a high value man. A high value man has options. The fact that this girl who you only met once is still playing so prominently on your mind after all these months, suggests to me that you don't, or at least that you don't have many. This in turn would suggest to me that you're probably not doing enough approaches to generate new leads.

    Perfection equals paralysis.
    Lol as of right now, you're totally correct about my options and her being on my mind. I do not have many hooks at the moment, but only because I haven't been out much lately which is my own fault. But either way, I really don't care about her. I only thought of her recently because I started thinking about my general output. That I've been giving up too easy sometimes, so it was bothering me.

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    Default Re: Need help reinitiating and knowing when to keep going!

    "Sorry, I just got done dinner with classmates". -shit test

    it doesnt matter how late you go out buddy, sets are everywhere.
    if you need higher value there is a great post about that, i told you, if you want to learn, search this forum deep and find someone to help you

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    Default Re: Need help reinitiating and knowing when to keep going!

    Quote Originally Posted by bojan.95 View Post
    "Sorry, I just got done dinner with classmates". -shit test
    I still don't get what you're saying. A shit test in regards to what?

    Quote Originally Posted by bojan.95 View Post
    it doesnt matter how late you go out buddy, sets are everywhere.
    if you need higher value there is a great post about that, i told you, if you want to learn, search this forum deep and find someone to help you
    LOL. Dude, I think you're totally missing the point here. I really don't need help finding "higher value" or any of that. I do fine on my own... trust me. I appreciate your input, but that's not what this is about.

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    Default Re: Need help reinitiating and knowing when to keep going!

    Once i asked a girl why is she hanging out with me, just to see how she will react. thats a shit test my friend.
    if you dont need a better way to show higher value and you are not looking for a way to improve yourself in aproaching sets, than i think you too dont know why you typed this on this forum
    you asked how to aproach that girl and i gave you tip, we sre judt chating here.
    So, if you are asking yourself should you txt again, thats dumb idea, do it, it can be fun, but worse than this? Can you loose something you dont own? No.

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    Default Re: Need help reinitiating and knowing when to keep going!

    Once i asked a girl why is she hanging out with me, just to see how she will react. thats a shit test my friend. Do you think she need a permission, haha.
    if you dont need a better way to show higher value and you are not looking for a way to improve yourself in aproaching sets, than i think you too dont know why you typed this on this forum
    you asked how to aproach that girl and i gave you tip, we sre judt chating here.
    So, if you are asking yourself should you txt again, thats dumb idea, do it, it can be fun, but worse than this? Can you loose something you dont own? No.


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