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    Question How to act when your talking to a girl and some other guy comes over...

    Last few weeks i have been going out with a group of friends i met during some night outs, there is this girl i really like and i think she likes me to by the way we talk and flirt. I got a girlfriend for 4 years btw thats not the point in my question:

    Last weekend i was talking to the girl i like and some dude she knew i think came up to us and started talking to her, i walked away from her and him and went to the bar with a friend to get a drink, is this the right thing to do or stay there and keep talking to her/ him?

    Also were going out again next weekend with some other people, i kinda want to game her and see where things go but she also talks to a lot of guy friends from "the group" we go out with. I was thinking i should just talk to other people at the club besides our own group to make her feel a bit jealous or something but maybe its better to focus more on gaming just her that night out because if i start chilling with other people besides the group she cuild think he doesn't give a fuck and leave the club with the original people i was with...

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    Default Re: How to act when your talking to a girl and some other guy comes over...

    Dude.. By leaving her there with another guy, your saying "i was never interested, try him instead". Be clear in your intent with her. Be fun and flirty, but dont go getting all emotional for her just yet; girls can pick up on this and it lowers your value. Until she is your girlfriend, you want her to think your just having fun and dont give a shit about relationships

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    furio is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: How to act when your talking to a girl and some other guy comes over...

    Quote Originally Posted by soulshine View Post
    Dude.. By leaving her there with another guy, your saying "i was never interested, try him instead". Be clear in your intent with her. Be fun and flirty, but dont go getting all emotional for her just yet; girls can pick up on this and it lowers your value. Until she is your girlfriend, you want her to think your just having fun and dont give a shit about relationships
    Ok thanks for the advice but lets say she keeps talking to the guy and your kinda the third wheel there, i rather walk away then or should i stay and mix in the conversation which is hard with the loud music there.... Also this guy was most likely a friend who she was in school with or something so i understand if she wants to talk to him and not me for a bit...

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    Default Re: How to act when your talking to a girl and some other guy comes over...

    Quote Originally Posted by furio View Post
    Ok thanks for the advice but lets say she keeps talking to the guy and your kinda the third wheel there, i rather walk away then or should i stay and mix in the conversation which is hard with the loud music there.... Also this guy was most likely a friend who she was in school with or something so i understand if she wants to talk to him and not me for a bit...

    Girls want an alpha male, especially in a club environment (I don't mean like a aggressive, tough guy alpha, but a socially swave, fun, good humored, social alpha). Don't show that your intimidated by this guy either, keep your value up by acting like you don't give a shit that hes there. I would try to LEAD her away by grabbing her hand and get her grooving on the dance floor next time he starts to chatter with her. Do this keeping in mind that you don't want her to feel like your threatened by him, ie, in a, "this is boring, lets go dance!" kind of way. Just be more fun and relate able, you got this. Remember, your a pua, hes not.

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    Default Re: How to act when your talking to a girl and some other guy comes over...

    Thanks for your advice, il keep it in mind when it happens again!

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    Default Re: How to act when your talking to a girl and some other guy comes over...

    Not sure if it's wise for him to drag her away from a potentially valued friend in the middle of the convo. He'd have to read her perfectly and make sure she doesn't want to be in that convo. If she does and valued the convo then he'd just come off as a jerk and he leaves himself vulnerable for her to embarrass him. Calibration my friend.
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    Default Re: How to act when your talking to a girl and some other guy comes over...

    I wouldn't read too much into it. The move was fine. It seemed pretty neutral to me. I think if you stayed you would've made it worse if you weren't engaged with them. You could always take "charge" by saying "I'm gonna go grab a drink and I'll LET you two talk." Notice you say you'd LET them. But again...small details.

    I feel jealousy plots should be used sparingly and with purpose. If she hasn't "misbehaved" then there's no need for a jealousy plot. If you're looking to escalate things I would recommend staying in the group. Isolate her. If you feel there could be an AMOG to ruin things for you then you need to handle that. Either by getting him to accept you as the alpha or by getting him to be ok with you and her by yourselves.
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