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    waitwhathuh is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Say nothing or explicitly say I'm leaving?

    So I'm at a point where I'm leaving a girl, and want to know whether I should make an explicit statement or let her eventually figure out. Here's the story...

    We knew each other for several months. Good times. I became weak when stressed, chased a lot, got mad when she flaked.

    She started ignoring me. I lose it. Every few weeks, start begging her to talk to me. Recently, I guess to annoy me, she just sent me this: " "

    I was content, and just said thanks and left. The very next day, she tries to get my attention back with "Goodnight (nickname)". I should've left things here, but I trusted her...and a week later offered her to do an activity. She ignored the offer, just half an hour later said "Night" and logged off.

    So, at this point I think she feels like she won the game and got my attention back, and if I leave without saying something it's over and she's won (She'll tell herself "oh he just gave up " or something). Or I can explicitly say something like well communication seems iffy, get in touch when you (blah blah) and convey I'm leaving again.

    Which is better?

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    Default Re: Say nothing or explicitly say I'm leaving?

    This its like a game ,if you play her game then she thinks that he can make everithing she wants with you .Its your decizion if you want to continue this game

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    Default Re: Say nothing or explicitly say I'm leaving?

    Yea I see your dilemma. In this particular situation you need to leave without saying anything even though I know you'd rather tell her. Let me analyze for a sec and let me know if I'm right or not.

    It seems to me that you telling her to leave would be your last ditch effort to get HER to make an effort with you or she'll lose you. Basically you're trying to get her attention. I been there buddy so don't beat yourself up. So I know you really really want to tell her you're leaving, but you really should NOT. Because you hope that it will knock some sense into her and let me tell you...it WILL NOT.

    All it will do is let her know she has all the power in the situation and she will see right through you knowing you're trying to get attention. The correct response is to leave. But that doesn't mean it's the end. For now you need to date other women and get your head straight before you go after her again otherwise you'll end up right back here. Learn about building attraction and playing hard to get. Learn about push/pull and kino escalation. Then go back to her.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Say nothing or explicitly say I'm leaving?

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    Yea I see your dilemma. In this particular situation you need to leave without saying anything even though I know you'd rather tell her. Let me analyze for a sec and let me know if I'm right or not.

    It seems to me that you telling her to leave would be your last ditch effort to get HER to make an effort with you or she'll lose you. Basically you're trying to get her attention. I been there buddy so don't beat yourself up. So I know you really really want to tell her you're leaving, but you really should NOT. Because you hope that it will knock some sense into her and let me tell you...it WILL NOT.

    All it will do is let her know she has all the power in the situation and she will see right through you knowing you're trying to get attention. The correct response is to leave. But that doesn't mean it's the end. For now you need to date other women and get your head straight before you go after her again otherwise you'll end up right back here. Learn about building attraction and playing hard to get. Learn about push/pull and kino escalation. Then go back to her.
    Thanks for your response. I guess the only question that remains in my head is why she even sent that last "Night" after I offered a plan. To rub it in?


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