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    Thumbs up Does revealing your emotions always fuck it up?

    When you meet a nice girl that you want to get serious with, your mind and body is telling you to tell her how much you like her. You want to tell her she is the one, so beautiful, so kind so perfect.... but what is your experience when you did that... to a girl.

    I have read so much here about not telling how much you love her but continue attracting her with jokes, alphamale behaviour and anything but telling her your emotions.

    Is it like a 99% fail to get a long term relationship with a girl you have been gaming a lot by telling her your true emotions or does it depend on the girl whether she already really likes the true you?

    Reason i ask is i met a cute girl who is single and everytime we meet its like fking magic but i got a girlfriend so i play it cool and just keep to flirting but i do want to tell her she rocks my world like no one else does.. please advice

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    Default Re: Does revealing your emotions always fuck it up?

    If I was you I would tell her what I feel but without expecting anything in return, I mean she can break all the contacts with me or she can go crazy in love with me I would not care much. I have pulled the hottest girls by telling them how I feel while being charming and flirty of course.
    Nice guys don't finish last, boring guys does.

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    Default Re: Does revealing your emotions always fuck it up?

    Quote Originally Posted by super_gamer View Post
    If I was you I would tell her what I feel but without expecting anything in return, I mean she can break all the contacts with me or she can go crazy in love with me I would not care much. I have pulled the hottest girls by telling them how I feel while being charming and flirty of course.
    Thanks for your advice, but this does change the whole dynamics i think as now i can flirt a lot and she might not take it serious because i got a girlfriend but after telling her "i love you/ your the one blablabla" she could not be as receptive about flirting anymore... i want things to go forward so i will take your advice and like you said if i say it like i dont care if you love me back i should be fine. Thanks!

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    Default Re: Does revealing your emotions always fuck it up?

    Also if you want to pull her into your room then this is the right time since she probably know that things could happen if she ended up alone with you. If this is not established yet then establish it ASAP by going bit sexual in your conversation. If she gives you resistance by saying something like you got a girlfriend, just say "Don't worry she won't know". Believe me this line works wonders.
    Nice guys don't finish last, boring guys does.

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    Default Re: Does revealing your emotions always fuck it up?

    Quote Originally Posted by super_gamer View Post
    Also if you want to pull her into your room then this is the right time since she probably know that things could happen if she ended up alone with you. If this is not established yet then establish it ASAP by going bit sexual in your conversation. If she gives you resistance by saying something like you got a girlfriend, just say "Don't worry she won't know". Believe me this line works wonders.
    Yeah i will tell her my feelings soon but sex is not what iam looking for yet, i really want to get her to know better in like a 1v1 setting not both drunk as fuck. She told me plenty of times but you got a girlfriend when i make a sexual joke, i always say: "iam single on saturdays" as i only see her on saturdays, she laughes and tells me "does your girlfriend also know this?" I always laugh it off and say "offcourse" in a sarcastic tone.. so far so good i think but iam tired of playing and wanna tell her it feels like were soulmates and should hang out sometime 1v1.

    I will try and say it in playful way so it seems like i dont expect anything in return. Maybe even walking away to get a drink after saying it?

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    Default Re: Does revealing your emotions always fuck it up?

    If you want to get to know her 1 on 1 why don't you just ask her out to something inherently safe like COFFEE, you'll have at least an hour to talk with her (last girl I took out for coffee, we spoke for four hours) .... and do yourself a favor and break up with your current girlfriend if she doesn't fit into your future plans ...... don't be a cheater
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    Default Re: Does revealing your emotions always fuck it up?

    Quote Originally Posted by drgnsfire12 View Post
    If you want to get to know her 1 on 1 why don't you just ask her out to something inherently safe like COFFEE, you'll have at least an hour to talk with her (last girl I took out for coffee, we spoke for four hours) .... and do yourself a favor and break up with your current girlfriend if she doesn't fit into your future plans ...... don't be a cheater
    I wish it was that easy to break-up with someone you spent 4 years of your life with and go out for coffee with another girl, before i even think about breaking up i would like to know if this "dream girl" is really as great as it seems which often is not but i do feel ya when saying dont be a cheater, in my mind asking her out for a 1v1 feels bad so yeah tough situation.

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    Default Re: Does revealing your emotions always fuck it up?

    Quote Originally Posted by furio View Post
    I wish it was that easy to break-up with someone you spent 4 years of your life with and go out for coffee with another girl, before i even think about breaking up i would like to know if this "dream girl" is really as great as it seems which often is not but i do feel ya when saying dont be a cheater, in my mind asking her out for a 1v1 feels bad so yeah tough situation.
    You're right about the "test the new girl out first" before nexting your current girl.
    Never dump your current girl over somthing unsure, unless you have some strong moral/religious rule you abide by -

    These are the 2 scenarios i see you in.

    A) You're bored with your current girl, and as time goes on, you seem less and less compatible, and are having less fun around each other. Even just meeting new women gives you a great feeling you dont get with your current girl.

    B)You're still attracted and having fun with your current girl. But like all things, after years, it gets less shiny, even a Ferrari gets old after a few hundred drives. You naturally meet other women by being open to outside female attention, and what this does is make you appreciate your current girl, shes now more attracted to you because she senses you invigorated, and you appreciate her genuinely now, even though its all because you are meeting/flirting other women.
    wether she knows or not depends on you guys.

    I am currently B - My girl of 5 years is a legit HB10. Makes living off her looks. Has rich guys with sports cars/VIP invites - chasing her all the time.
    As soon as I started "wandering" elsewhere just like you are, my girl sensed this ASAP, and started to throw more shit tests, being purposely less pleasant to be around.

    Shes doing this not to be a bitch - but is asking for the legit love/attention/desire by getting me to react.

    If you are "A" inject new girl in the equation, and you will either have "B".
    Or you will have a new relationship.

    To summarize - We almost broke up and pretty much were. But I started to date other women, some just coffee, some I was fuckin. And this made me appreciate my current girl ALOT.
    You start desiring her like before, and when she does the things that make you go MEH, you think of the other girl you're dating, and it keeps you aloof, and your girl will sense this and be wayy more attracted to you.

    Yes. If some new girl I'm dating becomes more and more serious, as in 6+ months and still going strong, then its time to consider things.

    Chances are bro, and ive been though this, this new girl might fade out in a month, maybe less, or you discover a huge incompatible aspect to her.

    Keep your current girl, date the new girl. Appreciate both.

    & yes, you have to reveal "some" emotion, to the new girl, so she doesn't think you're just gonna use her and go back to your GF. Notice "some" isn't a love confession - its you just ackowleding that she is "extra fun to be around, and she has a great sense of humor, and laughs like a cartoon, so you find it charming"

    Until you fuck her a few times, and have been out a few times together - then reveal the dream girl ' Soulmate feelings. Otherwise not yet.

    Also, never put down your current girl infront of the other girl.
    You just say somthing along the lines of, " My Gfs great, but i just have SO MUCH fun with you."
    And move to diff topic.

    Good luck - PUA advice with people in 4-5 Year LTR is unique, and rare.
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    Default Re: Does revealing your emotions always fuck it up?

    Thank you for your input, my situation is also B, i will try to get to know the new girl better and see whether my feelings change or not.

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    Default Re: Does revealing your emotions always fuck it up?

    I think it depends on a few things. It depends on how you do it, and when you do it. If you tell her you really like her too early on when she's not feeling the same way, then you'll turn her off. But if you do it when you know she's already into you, i can't see it doing harm because she feels the same way. Really though, I don't see the point of telling her you like her at all. You can show that with your actions. You don't really need to tell her. She'll know anyway I'm sure. The signs will be there and women are generally pretty good at picking these signs up from men.


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