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    Default Physically aggressive (wanna-be)AMOG

    Hello guys, I have a question about something that has happened to me some times in the past but I am also facing it right now and it is starting to bother me. So here's the situation:

    In my day-to-day social enviroment there is a guy that used to be a good friend of mines. Now he is still considering himself a friend and I dont have any problem hanging out with him but he does not have my respect and my sympathy anymore so I perceive him totally as a tool and not a friend. The reasons for that do not need to be discussed. The problem is that for the last few months he is always trying to dominate me socially. He is the type that is always moving around doing the comedian but also has a very tough self image and he is mixing the comedian with the macho in a wanna-be houmorous but in reality very tryhard way. I usually just stay still and enjoy myself, talk to my friends or look him in the eyes without saying anything and with a smile in my face while he is all around me doing stuff like he is going to beat me down or whatever. Some other times I even ridicoule him verbally ("Bravo, entertain us, good job") This way I out-alpha him totally. The problem is that a lot of times he is "patting" me with all the strength he has in various parts of my body (chest, knee, back) so he makes it extremely difficult for me to handle the situation and remain unreactive due to the physical pain. Some other times he may even lift me up.

    Any suggestions on how to counter this behaviour is really appreciated. For your suggestions please assume that I am the weakest guy on earth so that they are as tight as possible.

    Thanks a lot for your time guys!

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    Default Re: Physically aggressive (wanna-be)AMOG

    That's somewhat difficult as I am like him in some ways (although I don't physically hurt other men), especially if I've had a traumatic flashback recently that turns me from a friendlier version of Captain Kirk to a gorilla. Kindness toward him while alone may actually be the answer. If he's like me, the more relaxed he is, the less of a dick he'll probably be, as he probably forcing himself through serious social anxiety. If you help ease his anxiety, he may just end up being awesome and fun, especially if you help him build positive energy and momentum, as oppose to the current situation where he is trying to be dominant. I actually had a slight suspicion this could be me in the story until I read about him previously being a friend as I'm butting heads with another alpha in a situation on campus that I'm not comfortable in (he likes to deliberately move his desk so I'm stuck in a corner or so that I can't talk to anyone without looking awkward).

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    Default Re: Physically aggressive (wanna-be)AMOG

    Thanks a lot for the reply man. I really appreciate it. I will definitely try to befriend him and help him with his social problems cause I think there is indeed no other way of "fixing" this problem.

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    Default Re: Physically aggressive (wanna-be)AMOG

    I highly recommend you pull him to the side and have a man to man chat with him. This way his ego won't get in the way because you embarrassed him in front of others.

    Match a positive with a negative. This way you end on good terms. The art of persuasion dictates it ain't over until everyone wins. So figure something he could get out of not being that way with you as a benefit to him. Although this part is optional.

    The main thing is to establish boundaries without apology. You have to have conviction. Otherwise he'll roll right over you. Let him know that his behavior is not acceptable and although you like hanging out with him you won't be able to anymore if he continues. Which would be a shame cause you could help him get laid. Always nice to end on a joke.

    If you do everything right and approach him maturely and he doesn't respond well to it then you have no choice, but to cut him off.
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    Default Re: Physically aggressive (wanna-be)AMOG

    He wants to show he is alpha, so go ahead and show him man. He has a complex that needs to be filled, maybe when he was a kid he was always out alpha'd by someone and never wants that to happen again... so fill that complex.

    Tell him "dude, how do you do it? How are you always so alpha man, your mindset is fascinating. It's like you just know yourself in all situations."

    He's more than likely used to people being offended by his alphaisms, and having resistance. Instead flank him. More than likely he will take this compliment and show you his ways, completely flattered. You may actually learn some great inner game tactics from him as well as gain a really perfect wingman. I've had to do similar things, and the guys typically end up giving me great lessons, introducing me to hot girls, and winging pretty well.

    Don't breed resistance with him, don't try to out alpha him, you'll get egos involved and nobody wins.

    Just like the sun and the wind myth.
    The wind said to the sun " I bet I can get that guys coat off quicker than you" as the sun hid behind the clouds, the wind blew a torrential tornado.. with each harder blow of wind the man clenched his jacket harder and harder. Until the wind gave up, the sun came out from behind the clouds, smiled, and shined his warmth upon the man... who then willingly took his coat off, hung it over his shoulder, and smiled.

    The coat is the ego here, and when you use harsh wind... people will clench their ego harder and harder making both sides work harder for nothing. Come in hot with some good vibes and positivity, and he will gladly take his ego off and hang it over his shoulder, smiling.
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