Re: Need help with flirting and kino
The way I flirt is that I try to shape it like she's hitting on me and misinterpret everything she says.
Almost anything she says can be twisted into something sexual and misconstrued that she's hitting on you. Saying this with a smile and guess what....you're flirting. Of course you don't want to badger her back to back with these, but this is the way I do it. It's almost like that guy that always calls out the "That's what she said" but less annoying.
Kino: I'll give you a quick checklist, but for more in depth detail there really isn't anything better than the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder.
1st- incidental kino. Like brushing against her chest when you walk by. or stand next to her with arms touching. Only for a few seconds though. This is explained further in the dicarlo escalation ladder.
2nd - I always always always start with a soft punch to her arm when she attempts to be funny. Same as you would with any friends.
3rd - learn palm reading or grab her hands to see her nails or jewelry. notice how this is not at all sexual yet gets her comfortable with your touch. remember not all kino has to be sexual.
4th - when an opportunity arises to move her (hey lets grab a drink) put your hand on her upper back. You can also use this as a quick pat on her back as approval for whatever she said that was worth it.
5th - move her with your hand on her lower back. or walk by her and place your hand on her lower back as to kind of letting her know you are walking by and don't want to knock her over.
6th - find a way to sit next to her with your knees or legs touching.
7th - to be continued. I just realized theres so much more. But the general idea is little progress at a time so she's used to her touch.
The biggest thing you have to remember with kino ( and I cannot emphasize this enough) is that it's just as important to stop kino as it is to start it. Because each time you move away from her she will ache for your warm body next to her. Especially if she's attracted to you. So you reward her by coming back to warm her, but this time you get a little bit closer. Rinse and repeat until your close enough to kiss her. Never big jumps.
"All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."