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Thread: She friendzoned me but doesn't shut up! [HELP]

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    Default She friendzoned me but doesn't shut up! [HELP]

    So, there's this girl that works at my company. She's hot, kind of a party girl and she's older than me. 1 week ago, she was having lunch with another girl that I knew, so I sat down next to them in order to meet her. After lunch I sent her an email with jokes about something that happened during lunch, and after some mail exchanges, she asked me for my facebook and we continued our conversation there.

    She was replying everytime so I wanted to know if she had a boyfriend. After she said she just bought some new dress, I negged her saying "that dress is horrible, dont show that to your boyfriend or he will end up with you." She replied "Noooo..he is really nice and sweet and he is going to like this new dress". Ok, she has a boyfriend...damn.

    She has a boyfriend, so I am no longer interested... its like mission impossible.

    The problem is that after that she just doesn't shut up! She just keeps saying "good morning, lets lunch together, see you tomorrow kisses" everyday. She has even compared me to her sister! wtf!! ridiculous!

    When we lunch together and some other people join, we have all a normal conversation about company issues. She doesn't tell anybody that she is texting me the entire day..and neither do I. Its strange.

    So nowadays, what happens is this:


    Her: Good morning!!!

    Me(after 1 hour): Hi, good morning

    Her(after 2 minutes): This guy right next to me smells bad. I can't work!

    Me(after 30 minutes): Offer him perfume. Problem solved.

    Her(after 2 minutes): blablabla (10 lines)

    Me (after 1 hour): yeah right

    Her (after 2 minutes): at what time are you going to lunch? tell me so I can join now!

    Me (after 30 minutes): I am going to lunch now. John, Peter and Mary are coming with me.

    Her (after 2 minutes): Ok! I am going now too!!


    -- after lunch --


    Her: I really liked lunch, food was great!

    Me: Yeah it was not bad

    Her: There's this creepy guy in my room that is always looking at me. I'm scared what should I do?

    Me: Show him your boobs. You should be nice to your colleagues..

    Her: blablabla...

    Me: I can't work, you are always chatting. Stop writting things

    Her: Noooo! I want to talk to you. You're the only person here that I can talk about these things! My sister is abroad
    and I can't talk to her

    Me: (dont talk to her anymore)

    Her(after 2 hours): I am leaving...see you tomorrow!! Kisses!!




    And next day the story repeats again and again..



    I don't understand what is happening here. I guess she thinks that I am an interesting and fun person, and since her boyfriend is not paying attention to her, she "adopted" me as her little brother dont know why.

    What should I do in this situation. Stop talking to her because this is a silly situation or continue talking to her?

    When we are alone she talks about the things we've chatted before through facebook. When we are at a group, she speaks about general issues. Other people dont know we are chatting the entire day through facebook, it's like our little secret..dont know why.


    She is hot, has lots of friends and lots of guys trying to pick up her, so why is she talking to me a lot if she is not interested in me in a romantic way?

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    Default Re: She friendzoned me but doesn't shut up! [HELP]

    So why are you so caught up on her if she has a boyfriend and you are no longer interested? Just take the value she gives you as social proof for other girls. Done. Move on to someone else and forget her.

    You can still be friends with her(if your ego can handle it)but I wouldn't get caught up on her or think she has any interest other than friendship. I actually think if possible you should be friends with as many females as possible. If other women see you interacting with other women they will get curious and wonder if you are actually with them or not.

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    Default Re: She friendzoned me but doesn't shut up! [HELP]

    Quote Originally Posted by VNunez View Post
    So, there's this girl that works at my company. She's hot, kind of a party girl and she's older than me. 1 week ago, she was having lunch with another girl that I knew, so I sat down next to them in order to meet her. After lunch I sent her an email with jokes about something that happened during lunch, and after some mail exchanges, she asked me for my facebook and we continued our conversation there.

    She was replying everytime so I wanted to know if she had a boyfriend. After she said she just bought some new dress, I negged her saying "that dress is horrible, dont show that to your boyfriend or he will end up with you." She replied "Noooo..he is really nice and sweet and he is going to like this new dress". Ok, she has a boyfriend...damn.

    She has a boyfriend, so I am no longer interested... its like mission impossible.

    The problem is that after that she just doesn't shut up! She just keeps saying "good morning, lets lunch together, see you tomorrow kisses" everyday. She has even compared me to her sister! wtf!! ridiculous!

    When we lunch together and some other people join, we have all a normal conversation about company issues. She doesn't tell anybody that she is texting me the entire day..and neither do I. Its strange.

    So nowadays, what happens is this:


    Her: Good morning!!!

    Me(after 1 hour): Hi, good morning

    Her(after 2 minutes): This guy right next to me smells bad. I can't work!

    Me(after 30 minutes): Offer him perfume. Problem solved.

    Her(after 2 minutes): blablabla (10 lines)

    Me (after 1 hour): yeah right

    Her (after 2 minutes): at what time are you going to lunch? tell me so I can join now!

    Me (after 30 minutes): I am going to lunch now. John, Peter and Mary are coming with me.

    Her (after 2 minutes): Ok! I am going now too!!


    -- after lunch --


    Her: I really liked lunch, food was great!

    Me: Yeah it was not bad

    Her: There's this creepy guy in my room that is always looking at me. I'm scared what should I do?

    Me: Show him your boobs. You should be nice to your colleagues..

    Her: blablabla...

    Me: I can't work, you are always chatting. Stop writting things

    Her: Noooo! I want to talk to you. You're the only person here that I can talk about these things! My sister is abroad
    and I can't talk to her

    Me: (dont talk to her anymore)

    Her(after 2 hours): I am leaving...see you tomorrow!! Kisses!!




    And next day the story repeats again and again..



    I don't understand what is happening here. I guess she thinks that I am an interesting and fun person, and since her boyfriend is not paying attention to her, she "adopted" me as her little brother dont know why.

    What should I do in this situation. Stop talking to her because this is a silly situation or continue talking to her?

    When we are alone she talks about the things we've chatted before through facebook. When we are at a group, she speaks about general issues. Other people dont know we are chatting the entire day through facebook, it's like our little secret..dont know why.


    She is hot, has lots of friends and lots of guys trying to pick up her, so why is she talking to me a lot if she is not interested in me in a romantic way?
    Well the BF thing she said might have been a joke, but why do you think it's impossible to sleep with her if she has a bf ?:

    https://www.puaforums.com/isolating-...technique.html

    You have IOI's, Comfort is Built.

    are you pushing and pulling ? That's what I want to know. You need to push and pull her !!!and negate sexuality always negate sexuality !!! Don't stop doing these things !!!

    This seems easy to me I can help you out with it pro bono...The money's good sure, but sometimes I like to help people for the love of the game
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    Default Re: She friendzoned me but doesn't shut up! [HELP]

    You gave up too fast my friend lol. Women are more complex than you might think. It's totally possible that she loves her bf AND finds you interesting at the same time.

    Basically people like to leave options open. She may be doing that with you by friendzoning you. But that doesn't mean she's not interested.

    I think you should focus on keeping your convo innocent for now while escalating kino. If anything happens between you two it has to be an accident. Like one of those "Idk one thing led to another and BAM!". Because if you get her to talk openly about her interest in you she may pull away. But that's more of a calibration thing rather than a rule.

    Bottom line: she's interested, but not going to push anything because she's the one with the bf. It's up to you to escalate. Don't give up so easily.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: She friendzoned me but doesn't shut up! [HELP]

    Xavier, what do you mean by "negate sexuality?" Are you saying that he should come across as non sexual or not use any sexuality in his conversations? If so I'm not sure I agree with that. There's a right way and a wrong way to do that. You don't want to come across as creepy. However, if you don't ever throw in any kind of sexual vibe or throw it into the conversation(not right away of course)you will probably get put in the friend zone.

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    Default Re: She friendzoned me but doesn't shut up! [HELP]

    use kino, it is the best for avoiding friend zone. Touch her gently, feel the heat, look at her lips.

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    Default Re: She friendzoned me but doesn't shut up! [HELP]

    Quote Originally Posted by Mystik View Post
    Xavier, what do you mean by "negate sexuality?" Are you saying that he should come across as non sexual or not use any sexuality in his conversations? If so I'm not sure I agree with that. There's a right way and a wrong way to do that. You don't want to come across as creepy. However, if you don't ever throw in any kind of sexual vibe or throw it into the conversation(not right away of course)you will probably get put in the friend zone.
    I didn't mean that at all but thank you for having an opinion. Negating sexuality is saying things like: "I don't want to have sex with you ... at least not tonight...I'm not against it in general, but I think it's too early for tonight".

    This is why this works:

    The brain does not work in negation if I say don't think of the Eifel Tower....you'll think of the Eifell tower...so her unconscious brain is thinking about sex with you but her conscious brain is telling her not to worry this guy isn't a danger to your chastety...she won't understand what's happening

    Note:

    Don't be afraid if the girl says no you won't the first two times you negate sexuality it's not a big deal...just keep at it.

    I did it last week with a 3 year old milf, the one I asked my question about. I got to her appartment without her evn understanding how I kept saying it's not going to happen and kissing her passionately... I didn't plow through LMR for personal reasons, but still it works like a doozy
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    Default Re: She friendzoned me but doesn't shut up! [HELP]

    I would say "im so glad you came to lunch with John, Peter and Mary, now you can email them."

    Dude,

    1. You got disinterested by the boyfriend remark.(if you are disinterested then that means you don't want her so why invest anymore when technically you have no motive too)
    2. You have an attached chick (based on friendship, who is probably looking for a refreshing guy she can talk to who isn't trying to get in her pants) bothering you all day.
    3. The conversation is the most dry, boring, unstimulating thing I have ever read... Even I hate her.

    If it doesn't benefit you, Don't do it out of being polite. You got other girls to tune. Don't let her rob you of that time you could be investing else where. you got 3.5 billion other women you could be talking to.

    Why do we work? to get something.
    Why do we do have friends? because we get something out of it like there company that you enjoy.

    Everything you do in life has a reason behind it. So if you are not getting anything beneficial out of knowing her, why bother. You have established you don't want her. No point trying to pick her up lol. She talks about conversations you had previously with her on facebook........ really... die.
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: She friendzoned me but doesn't shut up! [HELP]

    Okay, I didn't read everybody's comments but what I want you to do is...


    Cut her off... Don't even speak to her, for like 1 week... Let her keep messaging you, because she will... about 3-5 times.

    Next, After like a week, hit her up and say "Hey Beautiful " by text/facebook, whatever, anything except a phone

    Let her say her greeting then ...


    then FLIRT with her, if you're still interesting, BREAK THE ICE past beautiful, say "I always found you interesting, We should go somewhere, just us two."

    If she say "Yes" etc, whatever else that sounds like yes then GREAT, ICE IS BROKEN AND U HAVE HER NOW.

    If she say "No", then cut her off, its over. Fuck it dude. Don't be no beta male. LISTEN TO ME, I am the master of girls.

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    Default Re: She friendzoned me but doesn't shut up! [HELP]

    Just adding to the above comment by (Imaowutcat)(if that is what you want to do)

    (say "I always found you interesting, We should go somewhere, just us two.")

    ^^^^^ Don't suggest, Command! vvvvv

    "We need to catch up, we are getting lunch today, You and me."

    If she says No. Which she shouldn't but if so...... go get lunch how you normally would and live happily ever after.
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.


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