Re: making a decision about a possible breakup
Everything is easier said then done, But if you genuinely want to fix it. You will put the time & Work in.
I wouldn't even do it for her. I would do it for yourself, You owe it to yourself to be the Best you can be. The happiest you can be. The most confident. So you need to work on yourself. Realize why you feel like this and do what ever it takes to get passed it. There are free Councillors out there, Seek parents advice, Happy successful couples. Read every book, Write how you feel, Force yourself to think without any stimuli. Sit in a room with no lights, TV, Music anything and just Think if you have too.
Heard the expression "Your biggest enemy is yourself"? That's why it takes so long.
I believe In 3 sayings.
1. You're biggest enemy is yourself.
2. The lesson repeats until the Lesson is learned.
3. You attract what you are.
So you do always need to work on yourself, You owe it to yourself to defeat yourself and reach your maximum potential.
You will continue getting girls that will make you jealous to bring your issue to the surface, so you can deal with it. lesson.
If you aren't a perfect partner or have issues/behaviours. You will attract and Imperfect person.
Alot of men are critical of there women when they do something, they treat them like children when they do something wrong ( getting angry with them). Just like a Child who has done something wrong, because you haven't shown respect or explained in the correct way, they don't learn why its bad, they just learn to hide it, like a child or dog who poos. LOL and then we get trust issues because they try to hide it (because of fear of getting in trouble or you angry) and we loose trust in them for trying to hide it, not realizing that it was our fault. Usually because of pride and anger.
When you could of been like "babe, you know this whole you talking to your ex thing. I get that it is probably innocent, but because I have the issue, It makes me really uncomfortable, The reason is that I value you so much, and although i know you have chosen me, They are your ex's which means you once Choose them, and I just don't want to loose you because you are a very important part of my life, I know you have every right to talk to who ever you like, I cannot ask you to stop talking to them, I just want you to know how it makes me feel and until I get past my issue, I want us to be as successful as possible because we are a great team."
See your a man, She is a woman - By law you are Alpha.
This means she will Respond/React the way you do.
If you approach like a child/ She will Act like one.
If you are full of pride/ So will she.
If you treat her with love, Vulnerability, Sensitivity & honesty. - She will always respond like minded but it has to be genuine.
Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.