Re: making a decision about a possible breakup
You have the trust issues not her, notice how she has no problems or there are any fights about you with the opposite sex. Its not because your the perfect loyal boyfriend, your on a PUA site lol. You have trust issues, Or your expectations of a Girlfriend Are not who she is, she is friends with her ex, She knows you are going to fight if She tells you they are ex's or fuckbuddies, so to avoid fighting she has to use words that are true, but are only half the truth because she is sick of fighting and probably fears your fighting. You're Jealous like that, So was I, if I was committed I didn't want any other guy stealing my girl, but If I didn't trust her to the point I don't think she couldn't get stolen, I ended it because I know I will make the relationship toxic and i am not in a relationship for pain, I am in it for benefit otherwise why would I be in it, These are things I had to work on, Lowering my expectations of when in a relationship not to expect a house wife ( now I enjoy the unique qualities of my partners), If she does cheat, I will never know if she is good at hiding it ( so there is no point stressing about it unless I have full proof evidence rather then based on a small thing said or done and me assuming the worst, and the most important, Don't get too Caught up on her, Yeah love her, Do nice things but don't give her everything, mentality and emotionally, they say the more you put in the more you get out (relationships dont work like that with emotions and stresses, they work on More intamcy respecting opinions and becoming the best person you can be by changing bad habbits and learning good ones). Don't care so much, you are not married, You are not proposed, so you can say all the shit you like (kids planning), but you have made no action to commit for the rest of your life ( so how is she supposed to know your commit ed or take it seriously? you have provided no security other then words and 4 years without any action to prove that) if you did actions to prove to this women via proposal etc/ but don't propose until you sort this trust issue/ expectation of change. Actions speak louder then words so then you are available.
You have to either except her the way she is, because you have no right to ask someone to change for you, Get over your trust issues, or stay single and pick up until you find the woman that fits your perfect criteria.
You aren't ready for a relationship. Once out of the denial that she is doing this and she is doing that, then realizing that you are the one with trust issue, then you can get passed it and be a better man and have better quality relationships. If you aren't going to change for her, and the relationship, to keep it going, then why expect her to change who she talks too. Double standards.
I say this for you're benefit, you deserve to be happy and complete your goal to have a wife and Kids. But the only way you can do that is too look at yourself, because I guarantee you will break up, you will get into another relationship and you will face the same problems. Only way to solve it is to learn the lesson.
Plus you owe it to yourself to become the best man you can be, that involves Learning and growing. Nobody is perfect, you simply get better.
Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.