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Thread: Ugly Chick Likes Me

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    Default Ugly Chick Likes Me

    This girl I work with told me she likes me. I was at work one day when I received a text from her saying "Can we talk sometime about something important?" To which I responded "Sure. About what?" I knew she was going to tell me she liked me. She has been giving me the 'signs' by touching me and initiating conversation all the time at work. I acted like I didn't know what it was about I suppose because I didn't want to say "Oh, you like me?" or something. Idk, and I didn't want it to happen over text.

    So anyway I haven't been showing much interest in her. I went to her birthday party because she invited me and that's the only time we hung out outside of work. Also, I haven't been kino-escalating or anything like that. I haven't even texted her since she told me she liked me 4 days ago and said she wanted to get to know me better first. She knows I've been pretty shy so I think that's why she said she likes me but wants to get to know me better outside work.

    It feels good to have a girl be into me when I haven't really had that sort of interest from girls my whole life. This girl isn't physically attractive to me at all though. That doesn't mean she doesn't have a good personality though. She does and we have some chemistry. See, I'm sort of morally conflicted right now. On the one hand, I want to give things a try with her, but my reasoning would only be to get more experience with women so I can get a better woman down the road. It feels wrong to sort of use someone like that, so I don't think I should do it. What do you think? Would you do it? Obviously you can tell I don't have many options with women in my life otherwise I would easily reject her. I could always just stick to being friends with her too though. I think I'll do that. I mean, she said she wanted to get to know me better first so I think I'll just let things happen and see where it goes.

    Do you date ugly chicks, even if they have a good personality, or is that below your standard?

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    Default Re: Ugly Chick Likes Me

    I don't date "Ugly Chicks" because I would rather date someone I'm actually attracted to (both physically and emotionally) than to settle for the "Ugly chick" just because it's more convenient.

    You could use her for practice but since you're morally conflicted about that, don't do something that you think is wrong. She actually might be even more useful to you as friend.

    Personally, I'd find something attractive about her then I'd do her but then again, my moral compass is different than yours.

    Best of luck to you
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    No one should tell you how to live your life. If you don't want to do it don't. I personally don't date or spend time with someone I'm not attracted to. As I get older I realize how valuable my time is, I am not getting any younger. I spend my time either with people I like or spend time improving my lifestyle

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    Default Re: Ugly Chick Likes Me

    There are several types of girls :

    Attractive girls with crappy personalities that you can be with because they look good and you have something to look at
    unattractive girls that have great personalities that you can be with because they are so much fun and interesting
    unattractive girls with crappy personalities that you stay far away from because there is nothing there
    Attractive girls with great personalities that you hold on to because they are the complete package
    "The purpose of our lives is to be happy" - his Holiness the Dalai Llama of Tibet

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    Default Re: Ugly Chick Likes Me

    Firstly, acting aloof is the biggest mistake you made, If you like a chick, and she not interested, does she act aloof.... No! she friend zones you. Same rule applies. When she told you she liked you "you say in respectful manner "i think your a beautiful person, we get along really well, but I dont see you that way"i know you probably didnt want to hurt, but leading her will delay the process and when she figures it out it will hurt more and she will resent you, but if your straight with her, she will be hurt or rejected, but it pass fairly quickly and then she will respect you when the next guy leads her on.

    Letting her say statements annd not rejecting them, is the same as saying you like her too and not meaning it. You need to shut down everytime, No i cant hang out with you outside of work, its un professional, No I wont come to your birthday I feel like its getting to serious and I dont see you that way but happy birthday and have a good night.

    If you are not physically attracted to her It either wont work, or maybe she reminds you of your mum if you date her.... Who knows, But men See with there eyes, Women have a whole checklist. Aslong as most mornings you wake up with a morning glory, then you a sexually driven which is dictated to the physical, Hense on "how I met your mother"The hot Crazy Scale, Basic Principle is The hotter she is, the more willing your are to deal with her psycho/Shittiness.

    Since we are dictated dramatically by the physical, basically our eyes are connected to our penis then the signal goes to the brain (not an actual fact) We are designed to procreate, women stimulate that, they provide that and they go through pregnancy, so if you are dating the one women, who does not stimulate your most primitive nature. then its not going to work.
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Default Re: Ugly Chick Likes Me

    Quote Originally Posted by Tyrone1991 View Post
    Firstly, acting aloof is the biggest mistake you made, If you like a chick, and she not interested, does she act aloof.... No! she friend zones you. Same rule applies. When she told you she liked you "you say in respectful manner "i think your a beautiful person, we get along really well, but I dont see you that way"i know you probably didnt want to hurt, but leading her will delay the process and when she figures it out it will hurt more and she will resent you, but if your straight with her, she will be hurt or rejected, but it pass fairly quickly and then she will respect you when the next guy leads her on.

    Letting her say statements annd not rejecting them, is the same as saying you like her too and not meaning it. You need to shut down everytime, No i cant hang out with you outside of work, its un professional, No I wont come to your birthday I feel like its getting to serious and I dont see you that way but happy birthday and have a good night.

    If you are not physically attracted to her It either wont work, or maybe she reminds you of your mum if you date her.... Who knows, But men See with there eyes, Women have a whole checklist. Aslong as most mornings you wake up with a morning glory, then you a sexually driven which is dictated to the physical, Hense on "how I met your mother"The hot Crazy Scale, Basic Principle is The hotter she is, the more willing your are to deal with her psycho/Shittiness.

    Since we are dictated dramatically by the physical, basically our eyes are connected to our penis then the signal goes to the brain (not an actual fact) We are designed to procreate, women stimulate that, they provide that and they go through pregnancy, so if you are dating the one women, who does not stimulate your most primitive nature. then its not going to work.
    Well, you are right. She seems to resent me now because I never told her straight up that I'm not interested in her in that way. Like I tried talking to her at work today and she was very stand-offish, whereas it was the complete opposite before. I can tell there's some sort of resentment there.

    I understand the need to shutdown right away now. It's about being direct and showing your true intentions right away in, of course, a nice way, instead of acting aloof like you don't know what you want. I suppose I didn't know what to say at first to her. I didn't want to shut her down immediately when she told me because she told me at work in front of my coworkers, which, in my opinion, was pretty unprofessional and stupid of her. Anyway, I could've still texted her later or talked to her later about it. F#*k. Oh well...it's not so bad when you make a mistake with someone you're not interested in. It's all a learning process.

    The thing though that doesn't make sense to me is that women act aloof too when they reject a guy or aren't interested in him. They don't give you the "lets just be friends speech" unless you tell the directly that you like them. But if you don't tell them directly with words, and you still show interest (like asking them to go out), they start making up excuses and saying "Oh, I'm busy" until you get the hint. That's not being open and honest and shutting it down right away like you're telling me here. Like even a girl I dated very shortly at my old job never told me 'lets just be friends or anything' even when I was gonna go for the kiss and she rejected it. She still didn't shut things down verbally. She started making up excuses to not hang out. Wtf.

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    Default Re: Ugly Chick Likes Me

    The thing though that doesn't make sense to me is that women act aloof too when they reject a guy or aren't interested in him. They don't give you the "lets just be friends speech" unless you tell the directly that you like them.But if you don't tell them directly with words, and you still show interest (like asking them to go out), they start making up excuses and saying "Oh, I'm busy" until you get the hint.

    See Buddy, If you are not direct with her when you tell her you like her, she wont be direct with you in shutting you down. Same goes with the opposite. Obviously in front of work colleges puts you in a difficult position because you do not want to embarrass her.

    But yes. You should of approached her. Now you have to work with that resentment. Just back off now, there is no need to try recover, nor make it worst. If you are going to act aloof before, probably best to continue that. Act like everything is normal.
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.


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