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Thread: She never texts back, yet she picks up my calls, the oneitis is crushing me

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    Default She never texts back, yet she picks up my calls, the oneitis is crushing me

    So... there's this one girl...

    Alright so to be real blunt with you guys I met this girl about 2 years ago, when I was completely a chump and had no idea of what I was doing.

    things happened, I actually believed "entitlement" game played a good role in this because I wasn't very good at the time but I did very well when I met her at her family home. Got all the ioi's etc.

    I did this to myself and this is real bad. Towards her my sub conscious is somewhat destroyed unfortunately and I don't know how to fix it. I actually didn't believe in myself at that time and would have done things way more differently, knowing what I know now. Worse thing is I'm a huge sucker for girls of my own country and the majority of them aren't very attractive, yet she is and neither are the guys and I happen to be lucky in that department and she knows that.

    the summer before last, the very last time I had contact with her, she said to me "aww you'd make a great hubby" as we were talking and flirting, it was easy for me to manage talking to her at the time even tho I was a real chump. That annoying @ss phrase glued to the back of my mind unfortunately.

    So several months later on valentines day I msged her on fb so like 8 month gap or something like that after I gamed other girls and got better and she responded really well, it was somewhat high energy but I was nervous af. I asked for her number and I replied like a day later and she waited hours for me to make some simple replies, and I replied "ok got it". Then when I texted her she sent me a text similar to my "ok got it"and went cold, I sent so many chump *ss texts after she didnt respond to the first 5 maybe like 7 all together 2 -3 of em were chumpy af. fast forward a few weeks later I accidently misdialed her number to which I didnt realize and she picked up with a really warm voice, and I said "wrong number" once I realized as if it couldn't get worse.

    A few months later I called her again and fucked up miserably again. Called her like 7 times in a row and said some chump @ss sh*t until the very last one she gave the phone to her father, yikes* I know embarrassing. That was like last May. Then I saw her at a festival during the end of last summer, we didn't talk at the event, I didn't go upto her as I didn't know wtf to do or say (actually went full retard nervous when I saw her) instead I was social proof dhving by gaming the whole room. Slowly as I was working my way to her group she left quickly, with this nervous look on her face. But weird enough since then her fb account has been sending me fb event invites like non stop, though they stopped last month, assuming she just got bored of waiting or they were a mistake w.e. I did send her much better texts throughout this period of time probably a total of like 11 texts within the span to which she only replied to the first one asking who this is. then cold on the other 10. So I stopped that. I know calling her is the only way to get an interaction with her.

    2 extremely bad things I did:

    1)I crept her fb page this whole time, I know I shouldn't have but f*ck all these friend zoned losers keep hitting on her and it pisses me off unfortunately. Even though this whole time her relationship status remains single, it just infuriates me.

    This whole oneitits thing is getting so bad that I've been having dreams of her like probably like 7-8 so far since I met her. maybe more, one just a few days ago.

    2)I can talk to any girl but I tried calling her last thursday I pumped myself a bit created a routine, revised shit tons of material, even went to a mall to be somewhat distracted and for an hour I walked around and realized "Sh*t I CAN'T DO IT," I can call or text any other girl but fk I put this girl sky high on the pedestal and seriously mindfarked myself. It's really now a question of inner game, this is extremely bad. If it was an in person meet up I would crush her, but over the phone she seems to just crush me I don't know why.

    I was even hesitating to not even write this post, to avoid going through the range of emotion I would have to to write this post, and instead just get my money game tight and make her regret avoiding contact with me, but THAT SH*T IS FOR F*KING LOSERS and in all honesty, I was about to crawl back into my comfort zone of not having to bother with this girl but when I realized that I said , No more of this sh*t.

    It's really fear and a sh*t ton of it. I don't know what to do, I'm very sick with this cold and I'm working to knock it out. Only thing I've done is found wingmen in my area from various forums to go out cold gaming, a dude just texted me right now for tmmrw so I will go, but how do I fix this mindset issue now? I believe putting all that pressure and prepping it all to calling her that moment really did some damage to.

    I don't give a flying f*ck if I get her or not, in a few months she will severely regret it if she passes on me no doubt about that, I'm quite the revengeful type and the way I'm going to do it is going to kill her softly to the point where she'll come crawling back to me, with the skillset I now have compared to when she met me, it'll be a mssacre <---I don't want to give into that bs however, so how do I fix this bs, only thing I'm doing is going out cold gaming but is there something you mpuas can give me insight on. I want to have a fighting chance this time when I call her, and I will if I can destroy this fking mental block first.

    All help is appreciated.

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    Default Re: She never texts back, yet she picks up my calls, the oneitis is crushin

    If this is a question of inner game and improving it, how can it be done when you're still too attached and with an agenda?

    Your point when talking to girls should be only one: having fun. So say whatever the fuck you want that you find amusing.
    Since a girl you find attractive may be fucking ugly to me, it's really irrelevant the looks department, mainly when we all know that they tend to fade away. What really matters is her capacity of fulfilling what you expect from a girl: not only about fucking, but also the qualities you find most attractive

    Anyway, stopping with inner game shit chat, if you want to get out of the friend zone, you must know that you will risk losing her as a text buddy, but you must state sexual intent, otherwise you won't get out of it.

    Text her something with sexual content.

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    Default Re: She never texts back, yet she picks up my calls, the oneitis is crushin

    One of the most basic of rules is not to be needy, and my my, you've done just that. The post above mine brings up great points, such as say whatever you want that you find interesting/humorus when talking to a girl, and if she doesn't feel the same way then fuck her so to speak, move onto the next, she's not worth your time if she doesn't have a sense of humor. Also like he's said you have to be willig you lose your text buddy and convey that you want to be more than just friends. You seem really hung up on this girl, I would say move on because theres plenty out there and you came off extremely needy which is real bad. Also if she left the group that you were gaming towards that's real bad as well. When you've come off as chumpy and turned a girl off, it takes a lot more effort to convey an alpha personality to her than once you've first met her.

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    Default Re: She never texts back, yet she picks up my calls, the oneitis is crushin

    Quote Originally Posted by lenric View Post
    If this is a question of inner game and improving it, how can it be done when you're still too attached and with an agenda?

    Your point when talking to girls should be only one: having fun. So say whatever the fuck you want that you find amusing.
    Since a girl you find attractive may be fucking ugly to me, it's really irrelevant the looks department, mainly when we all know that they tend to fade away. What really matters is her capacity of fulfilling what you expect from a girl: not only about fucking, but also the qualities you find most attractive

    Anyway, stopping with inner game shit chat, if you want to get out of the friend zone, you must know that you will risk losing her as a text buddy, but you must state sexual intent, otherwise you won't get out of it.

    Text her something with sexual content.
    Thanks for your reply lenric,

    Thing is regardless of what I text her, whether it is of a sexual nature or a teaser, the better short and packed txts etc, she doesn't reply, period.

    The thing about her is she expects me to build a genuine relationship with her thru calling and because I know she doesn't want me to play these make her wait for me mind games.

    I'm not in the friendzone, I know that for a fact, when I first met her she was hard sh*t test land, sh*t testing me every 5 minutes. This is a hardcore sh*t test.

    My problem is being able to pull the trigger and just dialing the dam number, to fcking nervous...

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    Default Re: She never texts back, yet she picks up my calls, the oneitis is crushin

    Quote Originally Posted by Bluenose10 View Post
    One of the most basic of rules is not to be needy, and my my, you've done just that. The post above mine brings up great points, such as say whatever you want that you find interesting/humorus when talking to a girl, and if she doesn't feel the same way then fuck her so to speak, move onto the next, she's not worth your time if she doesn't have a sense of humor. Also like he's said you have to be willig you lose your text buddy and convey that you want to be more than just friends. You seem really hung up on this girl, I would say move on because theres plenty out there and you came off extremely needy which is real bad. Also if she left the group that you were gaming towards that's real bad as well. When you've come off as chumpy and turned a girl off, it takes a lot more effort to convey an alpha personality to her than once you've first met her.
    Yes I agree bluenotes,

    Daaaaaam I *WAS* chumpy, I'm not even a text buddy at this point in time, almost like I'm talking to myself, but I know she's reading them.

    "You seem really hung up on this girl," unfortunately yes, but I know I did this to myself, creeping her fb and continuosly creating bs scenarios in my head.

    The thing about the group thing is that, she seemed really nervous when she saw me, I was dhv land when I went there continuously building social proof, when she left I know for a fact that it was out of pure nervousness, not wanting to be confronted, or having an awkward interaction ( I'm kind of glad cause I had no game plan and would have made things worse)

    Sh*t If I saw her today though daam, she'd be in real trouble, but like I don't understand why I can't call her, past fears of failures got me shook.

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    Default Re: She never texts back, yet she picks up my calls, the oneitis is crushin

    So you guys are saying I should just forget about her/ give up on her and just move on?

    If I were to try in the future, I need to detach myself completely and go out gaming?

    Idc about her anymore, I realize I did this to myself I mindfcked the life out of me, all while not going out/gaming and creeping her fb and letting it all get to me


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