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    Default Re: Still a shot, or in the friendzone?

    You already said what your problem was, you barely speaked with her, and you was rude dude "screw work" that means you are a no life dude with a lot of free time, that doesnt sound interest...
    I will sugest you to change your stile and read a book, and move on

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    Default Re: Still a shot, or in the friendzone?

    Quote Originally Posted by DirectIsBest View Post
    You've already lost if you think you need to "save" this. There's nothing to save and having this mindset will make it certain that you screw up. You haven't lost your opportunity at all. You've made a few mistakes that were pretty minor but you have a shot if she's into you.

    Your first mistake was your second text "screw work" that was lame. You should have said something like "Right on. I was thinking of (some activity you like). We'll have to get together sometime when you're not so busy." That's it. Simple and to the point. If she likes you she'll want to spend time with you.

    Second mistake was not talking to her at the game. You should have made an effort to at least flirt with her a little when you saw her.

    Neither of these things are a big deal, but if you continue to do them they become a big deal strung together. If this girl touches you when she talks to you (or does things to touch you) she's totally into you. Quit worrying about it and try to hang out with her again.

    I almost forgot, don't tell her she's bad at answering texts. That tells her that it affected you when she didn't text you back. I have girls I'm dating tell me that all the time, and all that tells me is they're more invested then I am. Next time you text her start up a new conversation.
    Alright, great points. Thank you for that! So how to proceed then, some say dont text others like you say to text her. If im to text her, any hints on a starter or should i just some random "hey, whats up" text and try to work it from there? If so, how to move from "hey, whats up" to "lets do that on that day"?

    If we meet rather than that i text her, what then? Proceed as Jironasaurus said, part on a high and later text her, or just ask her out when we meet? If so, do i need to isolate her from the group and what are some good ways to do that then? If to part on a high, any good examples?

    Thanks!

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    Default Re: Still a shot, or in the friendzone?

    Quote Originally Posted by bojan.95 View Post
    You already said what your problem was, you barely speaked with her, and you was rude dude "screw work" that means you are a no life dude with a lot of free time, that doesnt sound interest...
    I will sugest you to change your stile and read a book, and move on
    Thank you for your reply, but i think that i have pretty high value here as i have a job where i travel the world and make decent money as well. She knows this, so i do not think that she thinks that im a no good bum that does nothing all day.

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    Default Re: Still a shot, or in the friendzone?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mr. Assertive View Post
    And for the love of god if there is alot of hugs and touches... build some sort of sexual tension.
    Thanks! Any good guides on doing this?

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    Default Re: Still a shot, or in the friendzone?

    Alright friends,

    an update. Im most certainly gonna meet her, together with some other friends, tomorrow again for some drinks in a park somewhere in the town we live. Any pointers, besides my other questions, that i should take notice of?

    Thanks!

    k

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    Default Re: Still a shot, or in the friendzone?

    Quote Originally Posted by Kissekatt View Post

    If we meet rather than that i text her, what then? Proceed as Jironasaurus said, part on a high and later text her, or just ask her out when we meet? If so, do i need to isolate her from the group and what are some good ways to do that then? If to part on a high, any good examples?

    Thanks!
    There is really no one way that you have to absolutely follow. What I gave you, was a very general guideline. You can do the "ask her out when we meet" as well, so long as you did enough homework prior. That is, you plant the idea of hanging out on a 1 on 1. Ideally, you should already be talking about it.

    You don't have to "isolate" her per se. You just need to ensure you get to talk to her without the group being a part of it. No good ways, really. Just be proactive and approach when you guys meet. You don't need an opportunity nor an excuse.

    As for parting on a high, focus on the energy of the interaction. When you get her laughing, that's a high point. You can then say, "Nice talking to you by the way. We should definitely do more of this, none of that strangers-forever nonsense. But let's get back to our friends before they discover us missing / think we're ignoring them".

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    Default Re: Still a shot, or in the friendzone?

    Quote Originally Posted by Kissekatt View Post
    Thanks! Any good guides on doing this?
    Yes. Through flirting (verbally) and body language.
    About the last, check Vin Di Carlo escalation ladder.

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    Default Re: Still a shot, or in the friendzone?

    Lesson: If you are going to be Kryptic/Mysterious wether intentionally or not which is what probably got her into in the first place. That only works to get her attention, Once you meet her you must escalate. The first weekend you met up when she seemed heaps into was the time, to Isolate/Flirt/Build Intimacy & Kino and probably Kiss her atleast.

    Lets go get a drink at the shop (isolation) Put your hand on her back to guide her in that direction (kino) start talking to her/Flirting with her on the walk while touching her every time you talk. Then Stop her and tell her you are going to kiss her and before she answers just do it.

    Let me paint this picture for you:

    After 2 days of her showing you signals you clearly identified enough to write in this thread. You do nothing. So in between that and the 3 days between you texting her. She has come to the conclusion, you are either Gay, Retarded, or not interested in her in that way.

    She 90% made up her mind before you sent that texts, thats why she said she was busy all week until Sunday. The other 10% was the "what did you have in mind" Which was your chance to recover by showing her your attraction by saying something like "I'm attracted to you, So i'm seeing you without all our friends around, Do you like Italian food"

    Jiro (guy commented above me) is right when he said you should of focused on giving her more attention, if she is interested she attracted to you already, the hard work is done. Just needed to Encourage her Expressed behavior by responding in a similar fashion.

    Fuck texting now, if she is at the game, walk up to her and put your hand on her tricep to isolate and say "Can we talk?"
    Once Isolate just say " I've been wanting to ask you for weeks(this lets her know that her feelings towards you were reciprocated), but there is always friends around.(this gives a semi valid reason as to why you were a retard) Lets do something, Just us two, Yeah?" ( this shows confidence, Interest, Intension, and my favourite part ˙eah?"is a prompt, you are setting her up to say yes)

    When she says " Yes"

    Say " Great, I will text you the details" While Kino ( hand touching her tricep leading her back to the group).

    and then all you have to do, is not fuck it up again.

    If she isn't at the game, which I recommend this because She could die/get a boyfriend, be attracted to someone else, move to africa in 9 days is call her and say the same thing. Like do it now.
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.


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