Re: Mixed Signals.
Simple answer: You need to play hard to get. (But not negatively, You need to be completely your fun self, even to her, but only give her 20% of what you have been) The reason I say Hard to get is because Sexual harassment at work is huge these days. This avoids that while forming her obsession of you.
Basic rules of playing "hard to get"
1. Hard to get & being an arsehole are 2 different things. (Hard to get should not show any difference, its simply a reduction in attention applied on target in order to get her slowly crave it more and more.) Dont treat her any different, just give her less amount/duration of time/ Amounts of contacts.
2. Hot & Cold is necessary, Hard to get is the Cold part of this, You will have to apply Hot. Which means draw her back in So lets say for the first 2 times she tries to get your attention and you Give her only 20% (she will feel this/Her pride will build up) so you need to randomly engage her but the good thing about this is that she is expecting you to avoid her so you can surprise her. Example: She has tried to get my attention by saying a joke to me (I laugh, but cut the conversation by not adding to the joke) that is the Cold, Do things like that a couple of times, then a few hours later, walk past her desk and say " I like what you are wearing" Hot, (this basically breaks her defenses/pride/rejection - whatever is going on inside her and opens the door for her to reengage) - but when she re-approaches you can Smooth it over by giving her say 70% attention, then the next time reduce it to 50%, then 20% and go Hot again it all again.
Warning: This game is the equivalent of rape.... but to the mind, She wont be able to figure it out and because of that, she will become obsessed, with you. Depending on how much attention she will normally seek from you in a day will depend on the duration required. If she requires it once a day, it will take forever. 5 times a day, probably have her finding excuses to talk,question and even touch you by the end of the day.
Flirting is this techniques best friend. Using Negs, Qalifiers, Kino have to be used correctly. If you Neg at 20% there is an 80% chance she will get offended rather then see it as flirting. So do them and your qualifiers when you are giving her 70/50% attention and on the 20% just smile and give a very short answer, or laugh if its a joke. When making it Hot again use Kino for example: "Dude, you smell amazing(touches her), What is that called? (she gives answer) I'll buy that for my next girlfriend."
Drinking is where you seem to screw up. If she ask for you to get drinks again thats the perfect time to Neg/Qualify.
She: Hey, lets get drinks tonight.
You: (playfully/smiling) Again! i'm checking you into rehab. ---- (that is a Neg/Qualifier)
You: Talk to me when there is food involved. (playfully/smiling) [End line]
You:Thanks but I'm already going for drinks tonight. [End line]
You: I would but I have a dinner thing on tonight, by the way, how do I look? [End line]
Basically if you get drunk and say something like "I got a little tipsy and told her that I think a lot about her." you have to start again. everything is lost at that point and you will feel like crap for screwing it up.
Then you can Change the way you meet outside of work while still flirting.
You: Lets get lunch, but I warn you, we wont be drinking (cheeky smile). Then use the Lunch for light Kino, Negs and Qualifying.
Qualifying is the best when a girl is already chasing you. Use your culture versus hers, if she is into you she will ask questions about your type etc which will set you up for Qualifiers. If she is white say something like "White girls, you know, they look so beautiful, so sexy, like barbie dolls, But the know nothing in the bedroom, Makes me miss home abit" - your basically saying she is shit in bed, she will say some bullshit like "you obviously haven't slept with the right white women" and then ask her straight up "Whats the difference between your sex and theres" ( she should blush, get shy and say some answer like ï dont know" and thats when you say "Thought so"(smile). Then change the subject, say "lets go for a walk/lets order food/ I'm getting another coffee, you want one?"
Then go back to the office and Keep doing all of this until she looks like she is going to explode, and take her out for a drink (you may want to stick to light beer) Kiss her/Bang Her.
If you start on Monday, Be Kissing/Banging her by Friday if done properly.
Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.