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    Hey guys, I have a female friend I known for 2 years now and I'm attracted to her now. We hang out once in a while and always take her to nice dinners and stuff and activities after. Here's the situation, couple weeks ago I ask her schedule this week and she said she's working everyday but she's free next week. So I booked a nice dinner and show for us and it cost $200 cause I want us to have that experience together. Then she posted a pic of another dude that looks like me and doing all the activities that we normally do like dinner and bowling. She even told me before that she doesn't want to do those activities except with me. So, it kinda bothered me cause first of all she said she's not available then later found out she's with another guy. So I texted her the next day saying that she found another version of me but jokingly, but I was honestly calling her out for that, then she said it was her friend back in college that she hasn't seen for a while. I know I shouldn't be but I feel disrespected for some reason. Now, I don't feel like going out with her anymore and cancel on her that same day were going out. I will lose $200 cause it's non refundable. What's your advise guys cause I need opiniins from you guys. Should I still hangout with this girl or just completely forget about her?

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    Default Re: Expert advice please

    She did nothing wrong. You, on the other hand, got emotional and called her out for no reason. She doesn't owe you any explanations about her life.
    You were the one who screwed up.
    Keep hanging with her, she's your friend.

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    Yeah you are right. But she still explained herself because she's really close to me. She even lrioritize hanging out with me first. I just want to take her to the next level tho, like turn her into a girlfriend. I touch her a lot everytime were together and she's letting me and I know she enjoys it. I'm not really a good talker more like a quiet guy but I know how to sexualize a woman to turn them on just by touching and moving a bit closer to them. Yeah I guess I become emotional on that situation

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    Default Re: Expert advice please

    If you know how to sexualize, then do it. Make your intentions clear.

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    Yeah I have too. I put myself in the friendzone cause I wasn't attracted to her at first so I treated her as a friend when I first met her. Now's different, I want to close this woman so yeah I will sexualize but not too agressive that I'll creep her out. I know her touch boundaries right now and I respect that but I think I'm getting closer to the finish line

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    I'd rather loose $200 before then half my house, wealth and car in a divorce later. If you have made your intentions clear, and she said "no" then fuck it and find another chick. If you haven't made your intentions clear, you deserve it.
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.

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    Update:
    I know and have a feeling that I'm gonna get burned for this from you guys but this is what happened. I planned to take my ex to that dinner and show cause were still good friends however on that day of the dinner, her mom got rushed into the hospital and she's the only support person so she have to stay with her mom. It left me no choice but the call the girl I mentioned on the previous post that if she still want to go and she said yes, cause I don't want to waste my money if I don't go. It was going great at first but all of the sudden for celebration announcement during the show, they announce my ex's name and greeted belated happy mother's day and things got really awkward after that. I totally forgot that when I rebooked the tickets they asked me for special announcement and that's what I've told them. She knows my ex and she asked me why did they mention her name? she was so puzzled. All I said is I don't know maybe she called and tell them to announce that cause she knows were coming here and she's the one supposed to be with me (I honestly don't know what to say so I just bs my reason). We finished the show, but while driving her home, I wasn't in the mood at all cause I kinda get pissed in the situation so I wasn't talking at all and I was just ignoring her, stopped touching her, I didn't show interest on her anymore. And she can vibe that cause she looks worried and I'm not answering back when she's talking it's like she's a ghost. I was driving fast to drop her off cause I just want to get out of that situation. I didn't even said bye to her I just drove off right away as soon she as she gets out my car. I know it bothered and puzzled her for that. Question is, should I apologise to her about my actions or just leave it like that?

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    Default Re: Expert advice please

    You're questioning what you should do?
    You were an asshole to her with no excuse, you'll say you're sorry obviously. But in a funny way.

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    Default Re: Expert advice please

    On your most recent date with the girl, did you make your intentions clear that you're not interested in a friendship but rather a romantic relationship (whether it be exclusive or open)? Yes, apologize for your sporadic and mean behavior...you were in a weird place/mood yada yada yada, apologize, be cocky / funny and move on.

    You didn't ruin it, you just need to handle these situations a bit better.

    - SHoreguy
    "She'll forgive you for being a man...but she WON'T forgive you for being a p*ssy"

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    I know exactly what you have to do to get this girl to forgive you, date you again and get her. But you need to decide what you want here and now. You need to do it exactly what I say, you will grow and gain empathy, you will feel shame and you will drop your pride, just to be a man, then we focus on your girl. But don't say yes if your going to do something like this again because I helped opened up that opportunity for you. I will put your name in flames. So decide if you 1. Want to be a man. 2. Earn her forgiveness. 3. Get the girl.
    Men, we need to value our time more then we value women. This isn't to say women are not valuable. But who are we to believe in something so illogical, as men we should realize that without our time(life), we would not even be able to pursue women, but only our mother who gave us life. Why do we think we should prioritize them over our time(life) unless she is the one who gives me/my children life. Man is Sovereignty.


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