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    Boneidle is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Unblocked.....now what?

    ok, I was seeing this girl, everything great, few weeks later she leaves me for some unfinished business with an ex. she had previously dumped him for cheating on her.

    I handled the break up well enough, I have been no contact since (2 months). as soon as she left me (we were only dating/fucking, not really in a relationship at that point) she blocked me on facebook and whatsapp even though i was making no attempts to contact her.

    anyway the other day I noticed on whatsapp she had randomly unblocked me, her status was changed that day to something like 'its a brave smile when the heart is crying' so I assume she and he guy have broken up, or had a fall out.


    I know you guys will say forget her, but she was actually the first girl in about 4 years ive met that I could actually see some potential long term with. she seemed pretty into me until the ex came back.

    my question is, whats my play here? its been 3 days since she unblocked me, (still blocked on facebook) she has made no attempts to contact me.

    do I continue no contact and just wait for if/when she contacts me? Or shall I send her a message or some sort?

    my concern about staying N/C is that some other guy may swoop in first?

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    Default Re: Unblocked.....now what?

    How do you know that you're blocked/unblocked ? I hope you're not stalking her

    It's the only girl you met in 4 years you have long term potential with ! Where are you going out ? dive bars ?

    She's not going to contact you...
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
    _Xavier.

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    Boneidle is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Unblocked.....now what?

    Didnt stalk her, thread was still in my whatsapp and noticed she now had a profile picture ( they dont if you have been blocked)

    Haha no im just very fussy when it comes to relationships.

    Why dont you think she will contact me?

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    Dugly is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Unblocked.....now what?

    Dude, don't contact her. Don't actually care about her. She hás allready proven herself worthless for dumping you and going back to her ex. Now that she is single again she hasn't even tried to get in touch.
    You don't wanna be the guy orbiting her. Move on, meet other girls and if one day you stumble into her and she is alone, she will probably talk to you.
    There are many girls out there with long term relationship. Maybe you are setting your values extremely high or you are really going to the wrong places.
    Wish u the best mate

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    Default Re: Unblocked.....now what?

    Hi Boneidle

    She may well have blocked you, not for personal reasons but as the result of pressure from her BF, who may have demanded that She blocked guys She had been talking to. (emotional blackmail)

    Some girls find it very hard to break up with their Ex and as a result can end up on some sort of emotional 'roller coaster' where they don't quite know which way to jump, or what to do for the best.

    So contrary to what some others have said, I don't see any harm in making Contact, as after all I cannot see that you have really anything to lose and who knows She may be longing for you to get in touch.

    Someone needs to make the first move, so why not let that be you.

    If it doesn't work out then move on and find someone else.
    The Power in a Relationship always goes to the one who cares the least


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