Re: Need Help Getting Girl After Bad First Date
You say you like her but....
Originally Posted by AlphaMale22
But you ACTUALLY don't like her (speaking in reverse psychology) you actually NEVER liked her. This is the way you you should look at it from now on (not just her but ALL women) because in fact......
Texting blow ups fade away
Attraction tends to wane
Dates don't guarantee it will pave the way
But there is one thing YOU CAN DO
ONE THING you can prove
Now this is entirely new something a new attitude I have created just last night.
Thinking about the ditching, the flaking, the lying. I thought I get mad great I am better at channeling my anger SO GIRLS STILL keep talking to me and seeing me when I tell them I am mad for ditching or whatever but does that help ME?
DOES IT HELP ME?
DOES IT EMPOWER ME?
Then I thought payback,payback, payback
But I'm too much of a nice guy to be careless to be heartless so I said payback but be nice about it.
So I messaged the girl I was mad at for ditching me earlier this Spring (we haven't talked in a few months) she said she can't go can't go can't go. Then popped up at HarryPotterVille, with friend's at Restaurants, etc So I said you don't want to hang out with me do you? She was like no I do but I need a better schedule let's hang out this Summer blah blah, that's how I got on Tinder and met the Stripper which is besides the point.
The point is she was ditching me and I was mad and I even vocalized my sadness and my anger. But instead I killed it with kindness but in a way it was payback for the ditching.
I KNEW SHE WAS GOING TO DITCH but I did this on purpose to make her feel the pain I felt
So I said....
"I'm going downtown next weekend to hit up the bars for drinking and aimless wandering if you want to join me."
She was like
"This weekend or next? I am working this weekend and all July 4th weekend which really blows. Maybe a Friday"
I was like
"Yeah that blows a bunch of bad apples I really wanted to see you. July 4th weekend I meant. Sure any friday you want."
What did I do there? I TOOK BACK THE POWER. I have a plan to meet up with the Stripper next weekend but I know how bad girls are these days so I am pre-planning the ditching from now on. So I was basically setting up a thing with 2 chicks on the same day. The Stripper at the Strip Club and then my homegirl for later that night since I think they both might ditch.
Anyway I was cracking up at how well it played out. Because I pushed the dagger in a fresh wound. Before I was sad and depressed about her doing all this fun stuff without me. But then I was like do fun stuff without her. Let her reject herself basically which will make her sad. Basically doing what she did to me in a crafty way. Now she is all bummed out see that she can't hang with me. So I made it seem like it was this great thing without making it seem like I was all hung up on the outcome.
She must be hating life she can't hang with me hahaha and that was my goal since I knew she was going to say no I wanted her to suffer for her choices. In other words it worked.
If you play me prepare to pay me.
So in that way I killed her with kindness. I was over the interaction mad at the 3 ditches. Then I just made her head spin thinking that way it sounds like she will have a rough weekend for sure without me and my plan is to recruit some new betches while I am out after meeting up with the stripper.
So that is my new plan. When getting ditched.
To kill em with kindness
Put down the weapons I am fighting and be like
Go ahead go ahead go ahead now woman do what you came to do. If she wants to ditch me I'll make sure she ditches me right and encourage the ditching. If she is out screwing around on me then I will encourage her and tell her to whore around more. I will tell them do it better do it faster. If they ditch me next time oh boy.
Prepare for the apocalypse of nice because I will break it down like
"Oh you can't make it" Yeah yeah no problem you need time off? I need some major time off!! I am going buck wild tonight!! Anything goes!!" time to get in on the action.
That's what I am talking about being a super a-hole but being nice about it so it looks like I am being nice so I am putting out the fire before it is started because I will feel good while she will feel like crap for being a betch but I will only deploy this secret weapon upon the ditching and flaking that I often face.
If I am thirsty and there is no water I will make them pay and there is something that hurts more than blasting some broad. Something that has always hurt me the most. Being hurt by the ones you love with the...truth. So I will give them the truth.
When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.