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Thread: From texting to dating

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    Default From texting to dating

    Hi guys. Brand new to the forums. Have been wanting to take the plunge into the world of Pick Up Artistry for a long time, and finally have the time and energy to do so. Forgive me for my lack of knowledge of terminology and overall strategy. My goal is to learn the fundamentals over the next months and improve in both areas.

    My first question is this:

    Do you guys have any specific suggestions for transitioning from texting to dating, while maintaining an alpha, cocky comedic image?

    Background:

    Quality target (who loves to play coy and like she doesn't give a shit) expressed interest via FB (we went to the same high school), and sent a friend request. I accepted and messaged her and she slowly but surely started messaging me on a regular basis. Since that time (about 3 weeks ago), it's progressed from chatting on FB to now texting with daily 'good mornings' and 'good nights' and everything in between. My gut says she's definitely interested in getting together, but I'm not 100% sure how to close it without coming off needy or like 'I want her more than she wants me' type of thing. She hasn't asked me out, and I haven't asked her either. But she continues to show interest, and has sent some scantily clad pics recently, so I know she's thinking of sex. Just seems like she's in no hurry to get together, which is slightly frustrating. I'm usually pretty good at closing but this one has me perplexed.

    Any feedback appreciated! Thanks very much.

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    Default Re: From texting to dating

    I don't quite get how you can be chatting with her for so long, without talking about meeting up at all?

    Even as she's sending you a pic, you can actually start planting the seeds for meeting already. For example:

    HER: [Pic]
    YOU: Nice. I wonder how that looks for real ;-)

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    Default Re: From texting to dating

    Hi Sameltopia

    It sounds like She wants you to chase her until She's caught you! (Lol) nowhere near as unusual as you may think.

    But from what you say, it seems like She is very interested, or She wouldn't text you as much as She has done.

    So ask yourself the question, how many times do you want to hit the ball back?

    It may be fun for both of you to do that but if you don't make a move on her, I rather feel She's going to lose interest if someone else turns up in her life in the flesh.

    Girls like guys to be direct and it seems pretty obvious that She wants you to want her, as Girls love to be desired and as such have guys chase after them.

    So you can either continue to play this Texting Game where you are not risking rejection, or else you're going to have to man-up and then ask this girl out.

    There is no 'Silver Bullet' approach that's guaranteed to work, as over time we each have developed our own styles, though personally speaking I much prefer the very direct no nonsence approach, where I will go straight up to a girl and then say 'I'm taking you out' (Big flirty smile)

    Its a great conversation starter, that really comes in from 'left field' then once I have engaged her and built up a rapport, then I will say something like where are you off to now, then before She has time to answer, I take her by the hand and say 'I know you're coming with me for a Coffee'
    I want to hear all about what you've been up to (and then go)

    Though just bear in mind that She may be a 'tease' who just loves the attention (like all girls do) and may not want to follow through with an actual date.

    So you can 'either travel hopefully rather than arrive' or ask her out.
    The Power in a Relationship always goes to the one who cares the least

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    Default Re: From texting to dating

    Jironosaurus, the reason it's taken this long to make the transition is because the interactions started really slowly. It took her a couple days to respond to the first message I sent, and has slowly picked up speed. She's a few years younger & we didn't really know each other in high school. I got a random friend request from her via FB, and I reached out to her with, "Hey, do I know you from somewhere? You look really familiar." Lame, but it got the job done. The conversation started from there and has progressed slowly but surely. I haven't pressed going on a date because I didn't want to seem in a hurry or even interested in dating her. I wanted it to come off as natural, fun, no pressure conversation. The topic of getting together has indirectly come up, but neither one of us has actually asked the other out.

    I like your suggestion a lot. And I will definitely use it. Thanks for responding.

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    Default Re: From texting to dating

    You're exactly right AlphaBeta. She definitely wants me to chase her. And yes, I agree, she's interested. She's not the type to bother texting if she's not interested.

    You really made me think with your post. How many times do I want to hit the ball back? Great question. I've never thought about it that way.

    Your approach methodology has me thinking too. Overall, I definitely need to be more direct and creative.

    I think if she has any interest whatsoever in meeting in person, that she will most likely say yes to whatever method I use to actually ask her out. Of course, like you said, there's always the chance that she's just showing interest for her own selfish desire of attention. I won't know until I ask her out!

    Thanks very much for your feedback and suggestions.

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    Default Re: From texting to dating

    You are important enough to her to chat DAILY, she sent you racy pictures and you have questions??? Really? ASK HER OUT. Sheesh.


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