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    Default She 'totally forgot' our date

    I have been out with this girl 6x's already. I text her on a Wednesday to make plans for Saturday. She enthusiastically responded with exclamation points, emojis, and how that 'sounds fun'. I set things for Saturday, she said she can make it (though I didnt give a specific time yet) and she continued the conversations asking me about things giving emojis etc. All seemed good.


    There is no contact between us until I message her early Saturday letting her know what time I can pick her up that night. She replied "ugh I totally forgot " and then "im sorry' nothing else. I replied "its ok no worries" (trying not make a big deal out of it) and nothing else from her. No suggestion for rescheduling, or saying some other time, or asking when Im free. No signs she wanted to converse or see me after 'forgetting'. There was no contact either way for a week after this until I text her a pic today that was an inside joke between us to test the waters. Her response "aww thats great haha!". Her reply didnt suggest she wanted to engage in convo so I didnt reply.


    So it appears her interest is dropping. But I'm confused why when we're dating, things are going well, and she eagerly accepts the next date she all of a sudden 'forgets' our date and goes cold. Should I actually believe she forgot? (she is busy starting a brands new full time job beginning September and takes classes 3 nights a week also so shes a lot busier now then when we started dating in the summer). Regardless if you are truly feeling someone you don't 'forget' when you can see them again. Is she just too busy with other things in life that dating isnt a priority now? I plan to leave things alone and not message her until she reaches out to me. Any other insight or advice how to proceed would be appreciated. Thanks guys.

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    Default Re: She 'totally forgot' our date

    I assume that after 6th dates you are together so the best way to solve this would be to talk with her about it(personally). If you are not together after 6th date than she probably friendzoned you already.

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    Default Re: She 'totally forgot' our date

    Ugh I guess guys still don't know so here's the deal mate. Chicks they upped their game dude. They have so far out leveled us on the dating game it's ridiculous. I have chicks telling me they "don't date anymore" yeah how the f do you deal with that get back to be on that. Or why the f they cling to the ugly lurker that "just happened upon them" but a good looking guy like me they fight tooth and nail to get the f'ng date? Feel your pain bro. I upped my game by getting girls to ask ME out but now? They figured that sh!t out and like friend zoned the hell outta me. I am so deep in the friend zone with so many chicks. But look what you said "you tried to set something up for Saturday" nah bro you can't do that no more. You can't set sh!t up anymore well at least not intentionally and sporadically I mean you know not like a pattern. Like you are trying to "maintain that sh!t" stop trying to maintain. We all do it and it is fvcking weak so I stopped maintaining and yeah I go on a lot less clingy dates but I am happier and richer. Anyway I have a weekend date in Vegas set up with a chick. Like a for instance but I ain't trying to maintain sh!t with her. Next Summer and idgaf. That's what I am getting at. Keeping getting at new chicks eventually some will stick around is what I am getting at. And they will be there when YOU need them is what I am saying and not only that but they are too smart now. They know we are trying to date them and they make it fvcking impossible to maintain. So stop giving a f like me. Go for the good sh!t make it count, I gotta make every date a fvcking blast from the past why I said fvcking vegas baby. Maybe I'll relearn some game in the meantime.

    In other words stop trying to date her and friend her. Then strike whenever you feel the urge but remember don't maintain. This is how you last for YEARS with a chick by not being overbearing
    When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
    Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.
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    Default Re: She 'totally forgot' our date

    There is simple solution called NEXT. Focus on improving yourself or focus on another girl. Simple as that.

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    Default Re: She 'totally forgot' our date

    Get her on the phone. ask her what happened. If you can't get her on the phone she's not interested.

    shes losing attraction, and you can stop it, but do you really want to invest that much time and effort to get somebody to like you again? Be real with yourself. 10000s of hotties walking around.

    (Cat string theory, push pull, disqualifiers, then escalation when you do see her will fix this scenario if you really think it's worth the emotional effort )

    My honest advice?

    Move on man. Cut off all contact, absolutely nothing. Text her in 4-8 weeks asking to catch up as friends. Don't make a move, just have fun and catch up. This will surprise her. Then re-start attraction as friends if you even care still.

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    Default Re: She 'totally forgot' our date

    JackSarge and Kyl3 are both right to move on. This bridge is burnt, but take a set back after every failure or success and look at what you did wrong and how you can improve. Other wise, you're just going to make the same mistakes again and again.

    I use Adam Lyon's technique when it comes to girls flaking, and it isnt 100% full proof but it keeps you from looking like an idiot or needy when you come across with the desperate line "are we still on for tonight?" F that!

    Lets say your making plans with her via txt to go out on Saturday night? in those texts ask her what she likes or what her idea of fun is, then immediately find something around YOU to do that meets that requirement. Now while having that same conversation when she says that sounds fun, right then and there narrow down a time and place and leave it at that.

    The morning of that arranged date, shoot her a txt saying hey just a heads up i have a meeting or this thing and I'm going to be 10 minutes late. This gives her one of two options, the first option is she will confirm the date; "okay, not a problem same place?" or she can bail. But if she does bail your not standing there looking like a fool..

    Bonus:
    Now to counter the flake so it doesn't happen again with her. Make her QUALIFY herself. If she says "oh sorry i totally forgot" or w.e lame excuse she can concoct, my point is it doesn't matter....ehh well maybe it does, if she comes across with something like my dad died this morning or w.e then leave that alone lol! but getting back to the point immediately use this line "oh god.. you aren't one of those are you?" and hold. Because whoever speaks next looses!

    9 out of 10 times I've found she reply's back with this exact txt "one of what? "
    Your next line is; "the type of person to make plans and then bail on them the last second..that's a huge turn off for me, nothing else pushes me away further" at this moment in time she will start qualifying herself to you, because you've now made it socially unacceptable to flake and that's the one thing that 99% of all women crave in this life. Social acceptance. My friend, you have just flipped the scales of power and you now have preselection over her..

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    Default Re: She 'totally forgot' our date

    Sear is right. He did that to a girl last week

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    Default Re: She 'totally forgot' our date

    Sears way works to prevent flakes. This is better, Batman, one of my favorite experts back in the day posted it and I've used it countless times because it's the shit.

    Best way to find out if she's gonna be a flake over text, or to confirm a date; text her this 2-12 hours before you're supposed to see her.

    Me: "hey I really wanted to see you today but something came up and now I can't. I'm sorry."

    if if she doesn't reply, now you know if she was gonna flake, and her interest level, which rarely happens.

    When she DOES reply, I've never had a girl not reply to me canceling like that.. (It's okay, no biggie. Awe okay, whatever she says it doesn't matter)

    Me: "Sike! Just teasin. I hope you weren't too heartbroken. I'll see you at (whatever time you planned) dork. "

    girls will always confirm the date, or switch the time to see you if that time doesn't work. You've got them committed at that point. If she doesn't, then she's not the slightest bit attracted and you have ALOT of work to do. I'd just cut her off lol.

    there ya go, now you know the secret!


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