I had sex with a chick back in December. We've hung out as friends and been flirty and hand holding type stuff, but there hasn't been any kissing or more. Now we're talking about giving it another shot. She's open to having sex again. But there are some issues.
She developed a cold sore after we had sex. It's since cleared up, but we're waiting until next month to kiss again. I realize that 50% has the HSV-1 that causes cold sores. It's still not something that I want. How long do you wait? How do you address this?
She didn't tell me before sex that she has the dormant human papilloma virus (HPV). I think that can cause cervical cancer for women. We used a condom. It bothers me that she didn't tell me. Would you consider this a breach of trust?
She tells me that she has an anger management issue and expresses poor boundaries. I don't know about the anger thing beyond what she says. She's really sweet when I'm around. The poor boundaries include introducing me to her friends and acting like we were dating at my company party and sending mixed signals.
My big concern is that my scarcity mentality is rearing its ugly head. I've been on about ten first dates since the start of December. I feel like I'd be able to meet a woman as attractive and fun if I tried for six to eight weeks, but it's hard to sustain the forward momentum to find someone.