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  1. #1
    taelco1976 Guest

    Default I need some advice please

    Hey everyone! I posted this in a different board and didn't have any luck. I'm just going to tell you the situation I'm in, what I've done so far, and what I've learned since. Hopefully I can get some good feedback.

    My girlfriend has been acting more and more distant lately. She kept saying it feels like things have changed and what-not. I approached her to get to the bottom of why she's been acting that way. We were only seeing each other about twice a week, but she thinks we are spending too much time together.

    I asked if she wanted to break up and she said no. I said we should take some time apart. She said that we didn't have to stop talking all together, but I flipped it around. I told her I need some time to think about things and figure out what I really want. The next day she asked what my schedule was this week. I said I'm working Sunday, so you can get anything of yours from my house you might need while I'm at work. She said she no, I wanted to know your schedule so we could talk about things. I told her I wasn't really in the mood to talk and for her to let me take my break from the relationship. That was 2 days ago.

    I have not called or texted her or anything. Since then I found out that she has been thinking about this for a few weeks. An old boyfriend that lives 2 states away has been texting her recently. I think having him to fall back on gave her what she needed to make a move. She also was thinking about visiting him. I also saw a message where she told him she had been thinking about him and misses him. Her plan was to be distant and bitchy to me & thought I would break up with her. I guess that would make her not feel as guilty about going to see him.

    She has no idea that I know what her plan was or that I know about her ex or any of the messages. I'm trying to figure out what to do now. I DO want to be with her and would hate for it to end. What should I do going forward? I will be out of town next week anyways, so I was planning on not seeing her in person until I get back in 2 weeks. I don't think her ex-boyfriend matters, because it's really about what's going on with our relationship that started that one up. I'm only going to use that info if I decide to break up with her, so I have a solid reason of her going behind my back to see him being her mistake.

    This morning she texted "Happy Valentines. You don't have to say anything back. I just wanted to tell you." I replied and she said, "Sorry i disrupted your break."

    I really don't know where to go from here. I'm not sure how long I should wait to send her another message or try to meet so we can talk about things. I want to make sure she is without me long enough to really miss me. I would love some good feedback. I think I've played this out pretty well so far. Thanks in advance!!!!
    Last edited by taelco1976; 02-14-2011 at 02:38 PM.

  2. #2
    Rippemapart Guest

    Default Re: I need some advice please

    from my limited understanding,, it sounds like you have played your part well....

    from what i know about girls,, it sounds like , for the most part your doing the right thing.

    prehaps the next stage would be, making her beg to start hanging out with you???.... not sure really... hopeful some one with more expertise can help you out
    Last edited by Rippemapart; 02-17-2011 at 12:38 AM. Reason: spelling


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