Hi, I'm new here, I told my friend about my ridiculous situation and he recommended this forum. I'm desperate for some proper advice.
I'm going to try to keep this as brief as possible:
So back in early December I met a girl in my class at university. We met a few times for coffee on campus and she was always very friendly and I thought she might be into me, so once I casually told her to text me if she's out during the weekend...
So that same day she did, and we met up in a club, she bought me a drink, and within minutes we were making out. We spent about 3 hours together, just making out, grinding, and I even grabbed her cunt from underneath her dress. It was all very hot. And extremely uneexpected.
Within two weeks, she's already talking about "introducing you to my mother" and calling me "sweetheart" and so on. SHe's introducing me to her friends, and so on.
After around a month I still "don't know where I am" with her. We still didn't fuck (or ANYTHING) and she occasionally started to seem distant. I concede it's at least partially my fault, although this was triggered by the fact that two weeks into the "relationship" she told me, in passing, that she didn't want a boyfriend and enjoyed being single. Nevertheless she kept calling me "sweetheart" and baby" and she eventually even introduced me to her mother and I felt she was treating me like a boyfriend. It was all very confusing.
Some time later, I decide I want to break it off. I just couldn't take her incongruent behaviour any longer. She gets all upset and tells me "What's wrong"... and she confesses that she was acting that way because she was afraid I'd reject her, and that she's been hurt too many times, and that I was treating her like I just wanted sex because I never tried to officialize the relationship and I never really asked her out on a real date. Fine. So I tell her that I did want to be with her. She seems happy.
Within the next few weeks I ask her out a few times on dates, and she always finds some excuse. I ask her if she's free tonight, and she's all like "I don't know, I'll call you later" or "Maybe, I'm not sure I'm meeting my friends first." Obviously I was never a faggot: I never told her "yeah okay I'll wait at home for your call them". I always just told her that I'm gonna make other plans then.
So she's still distant, non-committing, and weird, and Whenever I confronted her about it she's like "what's wrong????" and "why do you exeggarate?". Ultimately she admitted to me that she had restarted doing drugs during the weekend and she didn't want me to get into that shit,and that's why she was refraining from meeting me during the weekend. After that I ended up fighting with her again because I again felt she was ignoring me and shit. I'm not going to go into great detail... but it's basically the same old story.
Ultimately I met her a few weeks ago and I indirectly tell her that it's up to her, and I tell her that I care about her. She tells me that she loves me and that she really wants to be with me and that she just needs some time because she's going through a lot of stress.
Since then we met a few times but we haven't even kissed in ages. But she still keeps treating me like a boyfriend: holding my hand, kissing my neck, touching my face.
I'd just like to know if anyone's ever experience such an inconsistant woman in their lives. I'd like to know what on earth is going on. And please don't just tell me "dude she's clearly not into you, get over it." Fine she probably isn't.. but if that's the case I'd just like to know why she's been pretending to for such a long time. Why does she introduce me to her mother? Why does she tell me she wants to be with me? Why does she tell me she loves me? WHY?
Oh, and also, what should I do?
Ps I tried to keep this as short as possible, if you'd like more details I'll be happy to oblige.