It's probably both. Overnight stocker Day 1: I asked how she got started. I mentioned a "friend" ; who's indi-paki like her that needs help. She said her mom works there plus she's in school. I said good because she's too pretty to stay there. I got a thank you. Day 2: I asked for shopping advice. She laughed when I said something looks gay. Both times I pushed the conversation. I notice she seems awkward like she shat her pants. So I cut it short. I've yet to see her socialize. But it got to me so much that I returned an hour later to see what was the deal. lol Yeah I know..I asked if she was having a good day and left saying to smile more, it's okay to appreciate niceness..arggh I screwed up there. But, wasn't I facing an uphill battle to begin with (culture; insecure)??