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Thread: I need help, my girlfriend of 12 years left me, she was the only girlfriend I've had

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    Default I need help, my girlfriend of 12 years left me, she was the only girlfriend I've had

    I need alot of help. If someone like me is even possible to help. I feel like I'm about ready to give up on all of life all together. I'm 36 years old. I've only had ONE girlfriend my life. We were living together for almost 12 years. She left me a month ago.

    I want to be able to date & have sex with other girls. But I feel like I am too ugly to ever have another girl I'm sexually attracted to actually have sex with me, without me having to pay her.

    I feel like I'm the ugliest most repulsive guy on the planet.

    I even went to this site to analise my face last night I uploaded a pic and it told me I'm about a 7 as far as face symetry, which is not very good, it said my face is too long and narrow. And my ears are longer than they should be compared to my nose. And my lips aren't as wide as they should be.



    People have told me I'm ugly my whole life, even my girlfriend I was with for 12 years got mad at me one time and wrote me a letter detailing how I am so repulsive looking, I don;t think she was just mad either, I think she was being honest.

    Is there anyone here in Austin, TX (south austin) that maybe could meet me in person to hang out with me on weekends or something to show me some tips on street game or day game etc, watch what I do, give me demonstrations, tell me what i do wrong, basically just help me and mentor me???

    These are pictures of me from a few weeks ago:



    this next one was from last september



    This is me & my ex girlfriend 1 year ago


    here's another from 2 months ago



    and a few older ones







    I work at a call center here so I don't make much money.
    I play guitar, paint paintings, write & record music and write poetry.

    I am so afraid I'm going to be alone the rest of my life.

    My ex girlfriend always did tell me that I would never be able to get another girlfriend because she's the only one that would ever have me.

    I feel very insecure & hopeless. I know these are not traits to ever let a potential date see, because confidence is key, but I'm trying to be hones with you guys so maybe you can help me, hope I don't make anyone upset by me posting so many pics of myself, I just wanted you to see how ugly I am.

    I mean just tell me the truth. If you think I don't have a chance in hell of getting a pretty girl to want me sexually, then tell me and I will accept that and just give up.

    I'm sorry, I don't know what else to do.

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    Default Re: I need help, my girlfriend of 12 years left me, she was the only girlfriend I've

    for some reason it wouldn't allow me to insert pictures of myself it kept saying urls not allowed, but i wasn't entering urls in the text.

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    Default Re: I need help, my girlfriend of 12 years left me, she was the only girlfriend I've

    trying to attach photos of myself here
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    Default Re: I need help, my girlfriend of 12 years left me, she was the only girlfriend I've

    resized pics because they were not able to be posted that big, well it still won't let me upload those, so i give up on posting the other pics for now.

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    Default Re: I need help, my girlfriend of 12 years left me, she was the only girlfriend I've

    Is nobody going to give this guy some help? I just registered to give you some amateur advice cos I felt pretty sorry for you.

    It's no wonder your self esteem is shot if you've spent 12 years with some bitch who tells you how ugly you are. Despite everything you might be thinking right now, you're better off without someone like that.

    Your situation isn't that desperate though. For one, getting a 7 on some digital judgement is surely encouraging? (Assuming it was out of 10, not 100). Far more important is that fact that looks aren't that important when it comes to guys getting girls. It's also far easier for a guy to pull a couple of tricks and make yourself far more visually appealing. Workout (you can absolutely transform your body in a matter of months with dedication), Dress well (read some books on fashion and tailor it to what looks good on you), play to your strengths.

    You seem pretty intelligent, and are into artistic things, this is often interesting to women provided you detail it in the right way. Money is a little harder to fake, but at 36 I'd just lie about it - say you had some corporate job when you were younger and made heaps of money, but you found it so materialistic and unfulfilling that you sacked it off and started working for a charity. You don't seem like the person who is after some gold-digging ho with a cracking rack anyway.

    12 years out of the game, you're gonna have to bite the bullet and re-introduce yourself by getting it on with some solid 4 and 5's. That's just par for the course I'm afraid - they'll be good for practise.

    Well, I'm no pick-up expert - but hopefully there's something useful there. Just don't lose hope, and man up.

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    Default Re: I need help, my girlfriend of 12 years left me, she was the only girlfriend I've

    First off looks are really inconsequential once you know how the game is played. I would go out and read The Game and The Rules of the Game by Neil Strauss, and read up on some other stuff like David DeAngelo. That is a good place to start. If you read that stuff they will help you out A LOT!

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    Default Re: I need help, my girlfriend of 12 years left me, she was the only girlfriend I've

    Quote Originally Posted by hopelessromantic View Post
    I need alot of help. If someone like me is even possible to help. I feel like I'm about ready to give up on all of life all together. I'm 36 years old. I've only had ONE girlfriend my life. We were living together for almost 12 years. She left me a month ago. Why did she leave you?

    I want to be able to date & have sex with other girls. But I feel like I am too ugly to ever have another girl I'm sexually attracted to actually have sex with me, without me having to pay her.

    I feel like I'm the ugliest most repulsive guy on the planet. Which is what you will project.

    I even went to this site to analise my face last night I uploaded a pic and it told me I'm about a 7 as far as face symetry, which is not very good, it said my face is too long and narrow. And my ears are longer than they should be compared to my nose. And my lips aren't as wide as they should be. Slap youself for even going ot a site like that; pick yourself up and vow to never do something stupid like that, again. Typically, those sites are funded by ads. If you were a 10, you wouldn't need any of their products. You set yourself up for failure and probably got the same score as everyone else gets. Consider this, if they gave everyone a 3, no one would have hope; if they rated everyone a 9, no one would need the advertised products.



    People have told me I'm ugly my whole life, even my girlfriend I was with for 12 years got mad at me one time and wrote me a letter detailing how I am so repulsive looking, I don;t think she was just mad either, I think she was being honest.
    Wow, you missed what a girlfriend is for; they are to enhance most areas of your life, not degrade them. She sounds like a world-class asshat.

    Is there anyone here in Austin, TX (south austin) that maybe could meet me in person to hang out with me on weekends or something to show me some tips on street game or day game etc, watch what I do, give me demonstrations, tell me what i do wrong, basically just help me and mentor me???
    I'm not even close, but we have the WWW.

    These are pictures of me from a few weeks ago:



    this next one was from last september



    This is me & my ex girlfriend 1 year ago
    I do wish the GF pic was up...

    here's another from 2 months ago



    and a few older ones







    I work at a call center here so I don't make much money.
    I play guitar, paint paintings, write & record music and write poetry.
    Nowadays, having a job is a plus; not making much money means you have to be more money conscious and manage it better. You are interested in (and hopefully, good at) creative things. This is good, since you can make creative dates that are financially cheap.

    I am so afraid I'm going to be alone the rest of my life.
    Women will read this like a neon "LOSER" sign.

    My ex girlfriend always did tell me that I would never be able to get another girlfriend because she's the only one that would ever have me.
    Asshat

    I feel very insecure & hopeless. I know these are not traits to ever let a potential date see, because confidence is key, but I'm trying to be hones with you guys so maybe you can help me, hope I don't make anyone upset by me posting so many pics of myself, I just wanted you to see how ugly I am.
    That's good. You are at least honest with yourself and us; however, you are going to have to get past this. You care both what people think of how you look and what they think of you for even posting the pic. Don't care. Why would you? None of us know you; our opinions on your looks should rate somewhere around what we believe the best food is for a blue whale.

    I mean just tell me the truth. If you think I don't have a chance in hell of getting a pretty girl to want me sexually, then tell me and I will accept that and just give up.
    Right now, you don't. It has nothing to do with your looks and everything to do with your outlook on life and your self-esteem. Don't give up. You can turn this around. However, every moment you wait longer, it will be harder.

    I'm sorry, I don't know what else to do.
    I've made some comments in blue. While they may seem harsh, pleae don't give up. Read up on "inner game" (PUA term). Essentially, it's how to feel better about yourself.

    How you feel about your looks is how you look.

    Members on this board have make comments on wearing clothes that make them stand out. The ones that have problems, are uncomfortable in the new threads and it is projected ahead of them wherever they go. If you can's embrace who you are; why would any woman?

    Good news: Men fall in love with the women they find beautiful, women find beautiful the men whom they have fallen in love.
    Reread that, over and over. It is the truest statement I have made (in a long list of true statements).

    You don't have to buy love or be good looking; as crazy as women are, their whole existence is propelled by how they feel (usually, at that moment). By relation, how you make them feel.

    Why does a woman, who loves her husband, leave with some guy at a bar only to regret it later? Becasue that guy at the bar made her feel something (good) she had never felt before or was missing in the relationship between her and her husband.

    People are inherently limited by a lack of positive self-esteem. Women, moreso than men. If you can make a woman feel good (non-sexually); she may fall in love with you.

    Looks do matter, in one respect. EFFORT. If you put no effort out, you will get no return. You may be the ugliest man earth has ever beheld, however, if you maintain good hygeine and make a real effort to look decent, you will actually be better than a great number of men.

    I'll check this thread out for a response from the OP before I delve any deeper.
    I have failed more than most men have tried.

    Every woman you pass up is a woman you will never have.

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    Default Re: I need help, my girlfriend of 12 years left me, she was the only girlfriend I've

    I'd really like to get a response from this guy.
    I have failed more than most men have tried.

    Every woman you pass up is a woman you will never have.

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    Default Re: I need help, my girlfriend of 12 years left me, she was the only girlfriend I've

    Wow. I really felt bad for this guy. Lookwise-he has a thing going like Mystery (VH1 Pickup Artist). So he has the tools. I'm just curious what made her leave after all this time..?

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    Default Re: I need help, my girlfriend of 12 years left me, she was the only girlfriend I've

    You're a handsome man! Don't let anyone tell you different! Ratings are over-rated to begin with. I agree with the above poster, Nik. Get yourself some help, talk to a close friend, work out your fears and find your inner gold. Once you shine, the women will see what a great person you really are, and the attraction gets easier.
    I'm still reeling from a divorce a year ago, but I put those fears behind me and I am meeting some great gals lately. Good skill!
    SMILE , and Don't care.


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