Here's my background...
I am still married, legally, and will be for some time (6+ months) for financial reasons. We have a child together, almost 2yo. We are completely out of love, and friends at best. She's setup a mini apartment in the basement of our house until she can move out. She is currently dating another guy for like 4+ months... like I said we're done.
Anyway, I just started a new job, and have been there almost a month. There is a girl who works in my department who completely and utterly blows my mind, makes my heart beat faster, etc etc... She's very pretty and has a simply amazing personality. I have been trying to go out of my way to talk to her, but have a hard time keeping the conversation going and I bail before it gets awkward. We work on different projects so there really isn't to much in the way of work I can chat with her about. She's been very friendly and smiley, laughs at any jokes that I make so on and so forth. I personally think she is just being friendly at this point.
From what I can tell she is single, I haven't gotten a confirmation on this, but she's got no ring on her finger, and listening to her talk I believe she lives alone.
From the first day I've started working there, I've not wore my wedding band. I have mentioned that I have a son, but avoid mentioning or saying anything about having a wife, although it's quiet possible she knows that I am, in some sense of the word, married.
Here's the issues I got...
1.) What girl in her right mind would want to date a still married (even if only legally) guy? However, I've never met a girl like this before, I can't explain it, she literally gives me butterflies...
2.) How can I find out if she's single or not w/o being creepy? I was thinking of sending her flowers anonymously to work and having it say it's from a co-worker. Then I could approach her and be like, "Cool... flowers from the bf!" and find out like that.
3.) I almost just want to ask her out to diner... just to talk and get to know her, because I really don't know all that much about her and would love to find out more. But being we work together, I don't think I've established myself enough as a friend to not make things awkward if I am shot down.
4.) How do I address my situation? I am not a liar and refuse to lie about my home life, but I don't want to take myself out of the running just because I got some loose ends to tie.
It's not like I am trying to wife her up or anything... but I would really like to start a friendship, going to the movies together, out to eat... stuff like that. By the time things actually got serious, I would be divorced. I don't want to sit this out until I am divorced because I don't want to miss my chance if infact she is single, and she might not be, and in that case this whole message is moot!
I know a lot of people are going to think that I should just suck it up and wait, but I can't explain it... this girl literally has me entranced...
Thanks in advance,