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    Default Old let's just be friends

    Last year I asked an HB9 out and she said yes at first. But she had to go on vacation first and would come back two weeks later after which we would set the date.

    But when she came back and I brought up the topic she said it was probably better if we remained friends. I said sure and acted mature about it. This was before I discovered the PUA community.

    She seemed really into me before that. She never looked at me without smiling and would wave at me as soon as she saw me etc. I always acted as the nice guy I am just talking in a friends way to her etc.

    So my question is: What did I do wrong? Should I not have given her those two weeks?

    Basically in between the "yes, let's go out" and "let's just be friends" nothing happened. I only saw her once and we had a normal chat.

    By agreeing to remain friends I obviously failed a shit test, though I never heard of that before at the time. And I must say conversations were kinda awkward after I asked her out, and tension was released immediately after being turned down.

    Also I wonder if, a year later, I would still have a shot with her? And what to do? I see her like once a week now.

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    Default Re: Old let's just be friends

    So this happened last year correct?

    Have you kept in touch with her after those couple awkward incidents?

    Are you guys still close such as "bestfriends" would be?

    need those couple details so I can further help you out.

    *~Geo~*

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    Default Re: Old let's just be friends

    Yeah, it was last year.

    I see her like once a week now, when she's at work, usually bored. She works at an ice salon at my old workplace so I always get in through the back and talk to her behind the counter.

    We've never been like best friends or stuff. But we had a lot of non-verbal contact when I still worked there. She couldn't stop smiling when she talked to me back then. But I didn't have the balls to walk up to her for months, when I finally drove myself crazy and asked her out. When she sees me now, she waves or hunks her scooters horn or whatever.

    Though she always used to have a big smile when I saw her, with her eyes almost closed (I couldn't even see them). Even after her canceling the date and awkward moments she kept doing so. But she looks at me with a normal face nowadays. The smile is gone.

    We used to have each other's number and BlackBerry PIN, but her phone got stolen and I she never told me what the new ones were. I didn't bring it up 'cause I didn't want to seem like I still liked her (still trying to act as mature as possible) and have her freaked out.

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    Default Re: Old let's just be friends

    I would move on, stop seeing her for a while. Work on meeting other people. After a few weeks of this try initiating communication with her, this is if she doesn't try to communicate with you first.

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    Default Re: Old let's just be friends

    I agree with Foxy here, I did not think you saw her once a week since that point. It sort of kills your obligations here, but what you can do is freeze her out for a while, work on other girls in mean time and come to her as the guy with balls that was almost there when you asked her out. Except play the game right this time and learn from your mistakes.

    best of luck

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    Default Re: Old let's just be friends

    All right, will do. Thanks for the advice, guys


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