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    Default The wall of protection

    I’m not considering myself as a trained player, so I would like to ask your opinion about what happened to me recently. English is not my first language, so I hope you will excuse me for the mistakes I make. Btw, it’s a long story, so grab a drink and make yourself comfortable.One month ago, I (29y) was sitting in a cocktail bar with some friends, when all of a sudden two girls came in. I immediately said to one of my friends, that one of them was definitly my type. It was a 9. My friends ran up to the girl (27y) and tried to seduce her, but one by one they came back without result. So I went to her and just talked about nothing in particular, but we had a really nice chat. After half an hour, I left her with her friend and went home. She was quite surprised because I didn’t ask for her number, but I said that destiny would bring us back together. So she said: “well…. Untill never again I’ll guess.”Two days later, I received a long mail from her. In fact, after I left, she went up to my friends to ask them my mail adresse. It was a long mail, but the most important thing in it, was the fact that she just came out of a long relationship of 5 years and a lot of guys were chasing her over the last months, almost stalking her and begging her to go out with her. But she was enjoying her refounded freedom as a single and was not interested to date. But she said I was different. Bij being so calme and not showing any interest to please her and the fact I didn’t ask her number, was intriguing for her.I replied to that mail by saying she should indeed enjoy from the freedom she has as a single and the best thing she could do, was just enjoy life, go out with friends, go to the gym, … One day later she texted me that, despite the fact she normally is very reserved when meeting interesting guys and is not the one who puts the first step, she wanted to meet me. So the day after, we were having diner in a fancy restaurant and it was a lovely night. When the bill came, we both had no cash with us and only visa cards. I said to her, she should pay the bill. She was quite shocked, but I added she should take the risk and maybe I would take her to a better restaurant next weekend.And indeed three days later, we were sitting in one of the best restaurants in the city, once again having a fantastic evening. After that we went to a bar and we ended the night in her appartement, drinking a bottle of wine. Three dates in one night, perfect.Four days later I was working till 11pm. When I went home, I sent her a message that I was passing by for a drink after a long day. She was a little bit scared when I entered her appartement, because the day before, she had sent me a messsage in which she blamed me of something. I was already forgotten that incident, but she thought I was angry, since I did not replied on that message. But me, I was already forgotten what was happened. But I took advantage of the situation and acted like I was angry at her. After 15 min I stopped the act and said she did the right thing. I rather have a girl that once in a while gives me a kick in the ass, than a girl that always agrees with me. She was releaved, came sitting very close to me and 10 min later she was laying in my arms and I kissed her for the first time.From that moment on, everything went perfect. I took her to my hometown (Bruges, you should visit it ;-) ) and had the time of my life: sun, romantic places, historical places, parks, told her about the history of the town, showed her were I grew up, … and at the end of the day she said she was so happy and speechless. She (as a manager) talks so much, but when she was with me, she only wanted to listen to all the great stories I had to tell her. “you are so interesting and I love spending time with you. My ex-boyfriend was always trying to please me, had no ideas of his own, you are so different.” She told the whole world, she had a new boyfriend. Her mother, father, sisters, colleagues, friends even her ex-boy friend were informed by her how happy she was in this new relationship. She was surprised that after only three months, she found someone like me.After that weekend, we were sitting at her appartement on Monday evening, chatting, kissing, having a great time, … but she was seducing me, she talked about sex, she was horny, but I slowed her down and went home. “I’m a though one honey, I’m not that easy you know. With me, you need to wait at least two months” and of I was. She stared at me from her doorway while I left and shouted. “Damn, you weren’t joking? But I want you, now!” and she shut the door.5 min later she texted me to say she was sorry for her behaviour, but she was so horny she wasn’t thinking straigth. Three days later, the same story. I enjoyed playing with her like that. She even asked if she is not pretty enough for me (she’s a 9 for god’s sake!) because she told what happened to some male friends and they all said it would be unable to control themselves if they were dating her (that’s why I’m dating her, dumbasses ) and again I went home, leaving her, screaming for some.One day later, on Friday, she came to my place. We watched some movies, we drank some wine and at 2am we were so tired we took off to sleep, together, for the first time. We kissed, but I said again that she still needs to wait one month and a half. But after 2 hours of kissing, … you know, I can be strong, but not that strong :-DThe day after, we took lunch together, she was teasing me while driving… everything was perfect. She said she had something in mind for my birthday, which was in one week.Three days later she came to my appartement, very late, because she had a meeting till 10pm, but she acted different. Distant, businesslike, … different. She still played with my hair and kissed me, but I felt she was acting differently. But she was very tired, so maybe that was the explanation, so I let her go home so she could sleep.The morning after, I sent her a message: “hope you have new energy after a good night and otherwise you can come playing with my hair, I know it makes you feel good.”Her answer: you are so sweet, but you better check your mailbox.I didn’t need to check my mailbox, since I knew what just happened. She dumped me, by mail, saying she was sorry, but her feeling for me were reduced and she didn’t know how this relationship should continue. What went wrong? I still don’t know. But I texted her: I already felt you were acting strange. Call me. She called me that night. Was surprised I was mad about her. Break up by mail,that is so childish. “but you don’t have to see this as a break-up, I just feel less attracted to you.” ‘What’s the difference?”“This afternoon I was thinking, maybe we should have a drink together tonight, no?”“sorry, I already have plans. Beside, it’s your yoga evening”“I don’t want to go to that, I want to talk to you, but no problem if you have other plans”That night she texted me: she was sorry to hurt me, but she wanted to be honest with me. “My feeling has reduced, but it’s not gone. And no, this has nothing to do with “not being over my ex-boy friend” like you said on the phone, I am completely over him.”I didn’t text back.One day later, she texted me again: “I understand you are mad at me, but I swear, those moments with you were fantastic, I really had feelings for you at that moment. Maybe we should meet face-to-face, but only if you want to.”I didn’t text back.Nothing on Friday, nothing on Saturday, untill middnight: my b-day. Exactly at midnight she sent me a message. The content was not important, but I found it hopefull she sent me a message exactly at 12pm. To me that means she was waiting till that moment to text me, meant she was thinking at me that evening so she wouldn’t miss that exact moment…So for the first time in 4 days, I replied: “thanks, your timing is perfect, just at midnight ;-) “Her cell phone was off, cause the message didn’t arrived untill the next morning. Immediately after receiving it, she texted me back. “hey, thanks for texting me back. I felt guilty over the last days and I missed you. It would be regretable if we wouldn’t meet each other. Although I would understand it if you are no longer interested to see me. Hug xxx”Wow, I had the reply I was hoping for in those four days in which I didn’t contacted her. Maybe it wasn’t over after all…I didn’t reply to her all day long, but in the evening I sent “can’t promise anything, but maybe we can have a drink later this week.”She: “ok, How was your birthday diner with your family? I presume they hate me by now, no? :-D * I hope we still can be friends, we share a lot in common after all. Sweet dreams.”*Strange, since my parents don’t know anything about her. Only some friends know about herWhat the hell, friends? I thaugth I was back in the game, but she started talking about being friends? No way. My answer: “you are mistaken. I had diner with them yesterday”She: “sorry”Me: “no problem. There are worser things you could do”She: “I get the message.”Me: “no you don’t, not yet.”She: “???. Someone planning for revenge?”Me: “revenge, lol. Those guys chasing your ass must be really freaky :-D “The last message didn’t arrive, it was around midnight, she turned her cell phone off and went to bed. At 1.20am, a message from her, I presume (or hope) she couldn’t sleep and put her cell phone back on to check my answer. “You are right, I know you are not like that. Wanna meet tomorrow eve? Hug”Me: donno, I will see.So that is where we are right now…About the friends thing. I’m not thinking about that, I’m not talking about that. If she brings that one back up, I will use her own words against her. “you said about yourself, it is impossible to put you in a specific box, so why are you trying to put me in the friends-box?”But what went wrong? The only thing I can think off, is the fact she was unhappy in her last relationship and very happy being single after 5 years of relationship. Maybe she freaked out after waking up next to me, thinking she was back in a relationship (and in her memories, that is something bad, while being single is so nice) that is why I was really easy wit her from the start: do your hobbies, go out with your friends, do whatever you want to do (I trust her, eventhough I know ten or twenty other guys are chasing her) and in 6 months or one year or whatever we will see if we still like each other. She was only single for three months, so starting a new one so soon, can be breath-taking. But she should know I give her all the space she need, as long as she is my girl at the end of the day.Advice, anyone? And if possible, do it fast. This shit is going on at this moment, not in 3 months time
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    Default Re: The wall of protection

    Two thoughts.

    1. Can you edit that post and add some breaks.. it is really hard to read a wall of text.

    2. She loves the attention from other guys and loves being single. So let her have that. Maybe try not to let her stay over as much. Also - don't act like a BF. Don't be overly nice and clingy or jealous AT ALL. Be more of a bad boy (help with that here: The Bad Boy Formula).

    3. Make her your Fark buddy. (seriously - that part of your relationship sounded good and she enjoyed it - she just doesn't want a BF and I don't blame her).

    4. Never question where she was or who she was with (or where she is going) - be 100% indifferent.

    5. You also might want to check out my product as it addresses this topic: The Get Her Back Formula

    Let us know how it goes.

    BP

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    Default Re: The wall of protection

    Thanks!I added breaks, but for some reason, they are not in my post :s


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