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    Blue123 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Failed Number Close

    Hi,

    I was in the supermarket at the deli counter getting served by this attractive girl. While I was ordering and she was preparing the food, I started talking to her and we had a bit of a joke and banter, but obviously this was very brief due to the situation Then, after she had served me and I was about to leave, I said to her something like “you know, it would be good to continue this conversation sometime”. All I received was a blank expression (at this point I knew she probably would say no but still went for it) so I asked “you wanna give me your number then?” With her body language she indicated no and then said “not gonna happen” (ouch!). I could she was very confident and probably gets asked for her number all the time.

    I’m not too bad at striking up a conversation with a lady (on the train etc), but I’m horrific at closing because I’ve never really gone for it before due to always bottling it. Also, the better the conversation goes, the more I’ll be thinking that I should ask for her number and the more nervous I’ll get during the conversation! There have been times in the past - not often but a few - when I’ve had a really good conversation with a girl (longer conversations and much better than the one mentioned above), was too scared to number close and then come away thinking “I think she actually quite liked me, damn it I really should have asked for her number!”. Only when it’s too late though do you realise what a lost opportunity it was. For example, when you get a really nice extended smile when you leave and/or the girl actually seems kind of surprised that you haven’t asked for her number. Therefore, I thought if I don’t just go for it nothing will change. This leads me to several questions:

    Where did I go wrong?

    In order to save face when she so ruthlessly rejected me, what would be a good comeback to her to show I don’t really care or would it be better to bow out gracefully and say something like “well, nice talking to you”?

    When you’re in a situation such as mine in the supermarket where you have a significant time constraint, how would you attempt to number close? In hindsight, and unless I just “clicked” instantly with that person which is extremely rare, my conversation wasn’t really long enough to build up any rapport.

    I guess my philosophy from now on will be that it feels better to ask and get rejected, than to not ask at all and go away thinking “what if?”.
    Any other helpful advice for my situation would be appreciated.

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    Default Re: Failed Number Close

    Check out mystery method for hired guns . . .


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    Default Re: Failed Number Close

    That's my current sit. I'm experimenting with direct.

    Babes on the go seem ideal because you'll probably never see them again. So you shouldn't care again.

    I'm just trying to calibrate what is TOO SOON? the time of talk to number close
    Last edited by Morrisb; 06-09-2011 at 08:41 PM.

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    Default Re: Failed Number Close

    My blog in my signature can teach you a few things too

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    Default Re: Failed Number Close

    Jack your posts are becoming less content and more promoting your tumblr site....

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    Morrisb is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: Failed Number Close

    I actually went there. I just didn't see where specifically it could have helped.

    I don't know if Blue has the time.

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    Default Re: Failed Number Close

    Quote Originally Posted by admin View Post
    Jack your posts are becoming less content and more promoting your tumblr site....
    I apologize, not trying to advertise at all. Won't happen again.

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    Default Re: Failed Number Close

    So much for this guy getting help. lol


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