*I'm new here so if I put this in the wrong place, could a mod move it to the right place.
She works at my dentists office. I remember seeing her a little over a year ago and thinking she was really cute, she did my x-rays and I talked to her for a little. I didn't see her again until the other day.
Anyway so I took my mom(she has MS, I take care of her) to get a cleaning and went to the book store down the street. I got back early and sat down in the lobby, she was at the front desk.
HB9 - "I haven't seen you in a while, aren't you ***'s son?*
HB9-"You take care of someone or something right?"
Me-"Yeah I take care of her"*
HB9- "Were you wearing a hat the last time I saw you?"
Me-"I don't remember. Maybe but I don't usually wear hats, my younger brother does."*
HB9- "Your name is ***** right?"
HB9-"My name's *****"
Me- "Nice to meet you"
HB9- =D "Nice to meet you. So how old are you then?
(I'm thinking, wow she remembered my name.)
(Then I start doubting that and thinking maybe she's seen my chart or my mom mentioned me.)
She asks if I'm going to school and I said I'm not right now but I want to be a Vet Tech or X-ray tech.
Me- "So do you want to be a dentist then?"
HB9- "Ohh god no, I couldn't. I'm actually in school right now getting a degree in psychology so I can go to ministry school"
(Hmmm I think this could be a problem.)
I tell her my cousin was going to school to become a pastor, she asks if I go to church. I do. I tell her*
I go to a Catholic church by my house cause I just moved but I'm actually Christian.*
I go to that church cause I haven't found a good Christian church and I like it because at a Catholic church they leave me alone to do my thing.
HB9- "I knew there was something I really liked about you".
The dentist, who is a natural Alfa(loves to assert dominance by putting his hand on your shoulders/back) comes out.
Dentist- "hey did you see the flowers *****'s boyfriend sent her?"
I think I have an idea why he did this. I think he was threatened by me talking to her.
She makes a point in looking at me when she says,
HB9- "Ex boyfriend, he's trying to get back together."*
HB9- "Do you have friends that go to church?"
Me- "Nope, just me.
HB9- "What about girls do you like girls that go to church?"
(So she keeps reinitiating conversation when it drops)
(At this point I'm thinking these are major IOI's but she might just be really nice, she wants to go to ministry school. AFC thinking?)
Me- "It doesn't matter to me as long as she has morals and self respect" (Not really a lie, I just usually don't find out if a girl has those for a while)
HB9- "Would you want to go to youth group with me and people your age?"
Me- "what do you guys do usually?"
HB9- "Well my pastor let's me use his big screen to watch movies."*
(I'm thinking does she mean her or all of them?)
Me- "Yeah that sounds cool"
HB9- "We also go to the lake.."
HB9- "You'll know me and I'll introduce you to people, it's cool and everyone's really nice, they don't care what you look like."
(Me not having self esteem takes that last part and thinks, What is that supposed to mean?)
We talk a little more but nothing significant. I leave with my mom and I know I have to take her back the next day for another procedure.*
I engage the other receptionist who was there the other day and is really cool. She's older and HB9 mentioned she's her "work mom"/WM.*
WM- Hey cutie, how's everything?
I tell her I made an appointment at this place I was supposed to...blah blah..
I make small talk and after a few minutes I turn to the HB9
Me- "Hey you"
HB9- (smiling) hey *****.
She then shows me a post it note with my number on it and says*
HB9- "Guess who's number that is?"
Me- "It looks like mine."
HB9- "I got it from your mom, so I'm gonna be bugging you soon"
I laugh, she laughs.*
More small talk and then she shows me a picture of her kid, who is 11.
I have no problem with that, I was with a girl who had a kid before, a much younger kid. I found her less into all the mind games.
At this point though I thought she was my age or close to it.
I know now that's not possible.
Me- "aw she looks like you except cuter"
HB9- "That's my little monkey"
Me- " I didn't think you were that old" (I know, could have back fired)
HB9- "How old did you think I was?"*
Me-"I thought 24." (I actually thought younger)
HB9- "Aww I love you"
HB9(to my mom)- I love your son, he's my favorite patient"
Do you think she showed me the picture of her daughter to gauge my reaction?
It caught me off guard big time so I don't know what my face looked like at first.*
Only because if you saw her there's no way she's 27.
I find that out later on the way home.
She was on the phone when I left so I said "bye girls", I didn't make a point to get her attention or anything.
So when I found out her age, I start thinking I didn't calibrate right.*
When I was 18 I dated a 32 year old but that could have been a fluke.
Let me also tell you I'm not trying to "hit and quit" or any of that so I don't need any moral lectures. Everything I said to her was 100% true.*
She seems like a quality girl, but I'm not fixated on her. I just think of it as a nice challenge.
That said can you guys tell me what you think?*
Where do I need work?*
Things I could have done differently?*
And do you think I might have mistook kindness for attraction?
Bottom line I need help bad. I know I didn't do a lot of standard PUA but at the time I felt good.
Thanks in advance guys.