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    Default How do I make the girl I am seeing into my girlfriend?

    Ok so I've been seeing this girl for about a month now. I'm really into her, and I know she's really into me. We send like 1000 texts a day. We are sleeping together, the sex is great for both of us. But she keeps reminding me every so often that she absolutely does not want a relationship, that we are just friends with benefits. I play Mr. Cool to this, of course. But really i DO want to be in a relationship with her, and I find it hard to believe 100% of her does not want to be in one with me.... maybe part of her doesnt but not all of her. The writing is on the wall, she is clearly into me. I tend to think she is fighting her emotions with her logical mind, she is very opposed to relationships at this point in her life. I know she isnt seeing anyone else, but shes met a couple clowns who have goofed it up right off the bat and makes fun of them to me. Its established that we are free to see other people, but I have calibrated and I know that it definitely would not be good here to use the jealousy angle. Anyway, I'm a stand-up guy and she knows this... I know part of her knows we are really great together. We have a really crazy psychic connection and have so much in common, and we relate intellectually and goals-wise and on many other levels, we finish each others sentences as if we've been dating for years.

    So my question then, is how do I get over this hump and turn her from being "whatever we are now" into being my girlfriend? Especially when she is saying she wants no relationship. Can someone point me to some material somewhere that deals with this topic, or just give input and advice?

    Thanks in advance.

    - "Rizzle"

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    Default Re: How do I make the girl I am seeing into my girlfriend?

    My advice.

    1. Stop thinking so much.
    2. Don't change a thing (the more you push for anything more, the more she will pull away).
    3. Casually start seeing, dating other girls (you don't have to tell her - just do it). If she finds out - no biggie as she is doing the same. The key is not to rub it in her face - you are just acting the way a high value guy would in an open relationship.

    The play here is that she will decide other guys are lame and that she doesn't want you to see other girls as she wants you for herself.

    But the ONLY play is to do what I say... anything else will drive her off.

    BP

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    Default Re: How do I make the girl I am seeing into my girlfriend?

    Basically don't push things, keep it the same, keep going out with her and etc.. Spend more time together. As time passes she will begin to like you more then other guys and shows that she's serious.

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    Default Re: How do I make the girl I am seeing into my girlfriend?

    Thanks Bill and Jack for the advice. I need some more of it now. Ok, so I know she is seeing someone new now, and it seems she is into him. She doesnt text me nearly as much anymore, and interest level seems to have dropped. She told me a week or so ago that she was going out on a date tomorrow. Then she asked me "would you rather me tell you these things or not tell you?" Truthfully I dont know the answer, part of me wants to know but part of me doesnt. She told me that if I was dating other chicks she would rather not know about it. Anyway I saw her briefly before she had to go to work the day after this date. I didnt ask any details. Tonight she called me up and said "did you come by my work and leave something on my car?" I said no. She said she just wanted to make sure before making an idiot out of herself. Obviously it was the other dude. And she knows I would figure that out. I dont think she is playing games, as she as always been very upfront and straight up about everything from the beginning. But she knew I would figure it out of course. I told her "nope, wasnt me, must have been your other boyfriend." "Very funny," she replied (whats funny about it? clearly thats exactly correct).

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    So I guess the question now is what do I do? The very same night she told me she was going on a date with another guy, I went out and met someone new and already had a date with her. But I like the original chick better, at least so far. Part of me thinks she maybe saw me out with the other chick and thats whats going on, but I cant be sure about that.

    <br><br>Freakin women!

    <br><br>Help me out here guys, what should I do? Thanks. -Rizzle

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    Default Re: How do I make the girl I am seeing into my girlfriend?

    Dude I'm in a similar situation. SOOOOO similar.

    I wish I had some magic advice but I don't. Only thing I can think of is I should be more picky with who I choose next time. Don't go after girls that are willing to put out so soon and have higher values and such. Only thing I can think of. It sucks.

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    Default Re: How do I make the girl I am seeing into my girlfriend?

    girls like to make themselves look equally competant to guys, as in if we move on and date, they like to do the same, they may not 100% like the guy, just to show us, it's all fair game play.

    I feel that you are over-analysizing slightly, she clearly likes you and wants to make it clear that it hurts her to know you are dating around (because indirectly speaking she is selfish and wants you to herself).. there is 2 ways to approach it in a PUA way, display higher value but continue doing what you do, but still give her time. BUT at the same time, don't act like you are doing it to make her jealous, be carefree, relax and enjoy the ride. She likes you enough, so don't go over the limit.

    you had a good line of "must be your boyfriend" .. she clearly said what she said because she knew she was booked by giving you "information" she didn't want you to know... so she was sarcastic.. don't be uptight, loosen up!

    to ask her out, just one night you can be like "I want to take you out to a nice dinner and spend some quality time together".. if it goes well, say you are ready to settle down and pop the official exclusive question... if not, then just go with the flow of things.


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