Ok so I've been seeing this girl for about a month now. I'm really into her, and I know she's really into me. We send like 1000 texts a day. We are sleeping together, the sex is great for both of us. But she keeps reminding me every so often that she absolutely does not want a relationship, that we are just friends with benefits. I play Mr. Cool to this, of course. But really i DO want to be in a relationship with her, and I find it hard to believe 100% of her does not want to be in one with me.... maybe part of her doesnt but not all of her. The writing is on the wall, she is clearly into me. I tend to think she is fighting her emotions with her logical mind, she is very opposed to relationships at this point in her life. I know she isnt seeing anyone else, but shes met a couple clowns who have goofed it up right off the bat and makes fun of them to me. Its established that we are free to see other people, but I have calibrated and I know that it definitely would not be good here to use the jealousy angle. Anyway, I'm a stand-up guy and she knows this... I know part of her knows we are really great together. We have a really crazy psychic connection and have so much in common, and we relate intellectually and goals-wise and on many other levels, we finish each others sentences as if we've been dating for years.
So my question then, is how do I get over this hump and turn her from being "whatever we are now" into being my girlfriend? Especially when she is saying she wants no relationship. Can someone point me to some material somewhere that deals with this topic, or just give input and advice?
Thanks in advance.