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    jmartin is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default How to compete for her?

    Ok, first off sorry for the long message. This has been bugging me, and this seems like the best place to get answers from. Ok, my exgirlfriend and I were hooking up decently when I came back from college.
    After a couple of months, she says tells me this guy from Scotland she's met is coming to town for 2 weeks and will be staying with her for 1. Her and he both have feelings for each other, they just talk through facebook. She tells me once he gets here that she doesn't know if she feels the same way as she used to about me and we should stop. After going to college, I'm aware of a way I act differently, that I didn't want to do in the first place. So I've gotten to stop. But when he was here, she didn't really talk to me and I didn't see her.
    Now that he's gone, she's been really stressed out because they want to date, but he lives in Scotland....across the ocean. She told me that, and has said we're only friends, but I know her too well for that. Whenever we're actually together, I can tell without a doubt that she still has feelings for me. I think she knows that too. She's careful about being alone with me.
    So anyways, its pretty much just a competition for her between me and the other guy. I think I have a leg up considering a live nearby, but I still take this seriously. How should I go about this?

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    Default Re: How to compete for her?

    wou wo wait dude!
    she talked with him on facebook and ...
    apart from facebook what do / did they have?
    When you say you two were hooking up, did you f her or?

    She doesn't know if she feels the same for you when he comes? hm... it's almost like I'm that other guy
    How bonded were you two? Was there romantic things or are you just her f buddy?

    from general point of view, no matter how hard it is to start, you should fool around with other girls
    in which ever way you can to start with

    from my own point of view that suggestion goes times three (even more sure about it)
    it aint easy, but its for the "sake of your own sake" and hers even, and his :0
    cuz you might even get her to change her mind if you show determination, dominance and ability to attract other chicks

    break a leg!

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    jmartin is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: How to compete for her?

    Thanks for the reply!
    Anyway, they met when she went to Scotland about a year ago. So yes, until he came over here, the only contact they have is through facebook messages. They have not had sex I am sure of. And my mistake, by hooking up I did not mean f close. I've dated her a decent bit in the past(officially), and even then we did not. She wasn't ready and so I respected it. We did and (I believe) do have a solid emotional connection too. We were incredibly bonded. And I still know her better than anyone else I believe. The most difficult thing I find about the other women thing, is how can she find out about them? She doesn't go to parties really. So when around her should I get them to call or text? And finding the other girls isn't much of an issue. I've got a solid track record dating, but I just like this girl enough to forgo that. Hope this helps in your reply. Thanks again!

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    Default Re: How to compete for her?

    Just a reminder, I'm not an expert, not in a least I only post here since no one else does.

    So, they met where? (oh edit: ok so she went to Scotland first, met him and then came back home)
    And after that they were apart but remained contact over facebook?
    Then he came over, they just had a mild romantic thing going on, and now he's away again?
    Did I got it right?

    From my standpoint of view, "I am not ready" means no one with enough skills came along yet. Sure, it could be some other thing, but it's probably that.

    To put the linguo(sp?) for a moment aside here:
    If you had enough game and experience you would have already have slept with her. Ask yourself whether or not you really want it. If the answer is yes, you either try your best to come up / learn the way to do it on her, or b) you go and practice your game (whichever the first comfortable way would that be for you) on other chicks.

    Flashing the fact that you have other options... hm that would look obvious. I mean, trying to make her find out.
    I believe when a guy does have enough other options it's just something that is visible on a general level. He might even find out that he doesn't have that special feeling about her anymore.
    If you have her on some social network she will see it somehow.
    Lol, or if you really wanna show her, talk to someone else from another room or be very joyful when texting when around her

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    Thumbs down Re: How to compete for her?

    Quote Originally Posted by jmartin View Post
    Ok, first off sorry for the long message. This has been bugging me, and this seems like the best place to get answers from. Ok, my exgirlfriend and I were hooking up decently when I came back from college.
    After a couple of months, she says tells me this guy from Scotland she's met is coming to town for 2 weeks and will be staying with her for 1. Her and he both have feelings for each other, they just talk through facebook. She tells me once he gets here that she doesn't know if she feels the same way as she used to about me and we should stop. After going to college, I'm aware of a way I act differently, that I didn't want to do in the first place. So I've gotten to stop. But when he was here, she didn't really talk to me and I didn't see her.
    Now that he's gone, she's been really stressed out because they want to date, but he lives in Scotland....across the ocean. She told me that, and has said we're only friends, but I know her too well for that. Whenever we're actually together, I can tell without a doubt that she still has feelings for me. I think she knows that too. She's careful about being alone with me.
    So anyways, its pretty much just a competition for her between me and the other guy. I think I have a leg up considering a live nearby, but I still take this seriously. How should I go about this?
    You have to dump this girl. Let her stew in her on shyt.
    Seduction Is Art. If you want to have CONTROL you MUST be able to walk away.
    Noble Casalupus away advises - IF a women is giving you problems and doesn't want to play ball,...GET A NEW GIRL. or enjoy your invisible leash.


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