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    AZPUAGuy is offline PUA in Training
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    Default A serious text I just sent, was it a bad idea??

    I have been with this girl for a while, long story short, we had alot of fun, but things were heading in the bf-gf and serious dating area too fast I think. Plus, I am pretty religious and basically cant get serious with woman that dont believe the same way so its hard for that ever to work. Another thing is that we havent had sex, things have escalated close, we took showers together, went in the tub, rubbing her body, touching her boobs, etc. But sex hasnt happened yet, not oral or straight up sex...I think after we talked about why I couldnt get serious, things changed... I have also noticed myself getting too AFC, im making myself always available to hang out, I always am the transporter, I always pick her up, try to make her happy (im happy too, but I am not the challenge to her that I used to be). I think its some inner game problems I am having, ive never been this far with a girl soo damn sexy. So i am sorta worried she is getting a little bored with our relationship, she hasnt really showed signs yet, but I wanna act on this before anything does happen...We are back to FWB now i think. So, we hung out last night and I still got a good vibe from her (kissing, biting/licking necks, etc) but I was sorta confused, and I told her we needed to talk about one more thing, mainly about sex stuff...

    So today I sent her a text, usually we talk face to face, sometimes we text it out. Maybe I shouldve thought about the situation in her shoes, and thought about the consequences of sending it, but I just wrote what I felt..Here is what I said:

    "I think we should take a short break from seeing each other, get some space to think...I dunno I've been thinking about the whole thing, and it seems like it moved way too fast, in the direction of getting serious, and not been the suual fun times. Getting serious wont work, based on how we believe and stuff right now, you understand that, but I don't know how interested you are in it, so it could be a loong time before you actually care. So I say we take a break, think about it, and go back to fwb status for the time being. I dont want you to feel like im the only guy you can talk to either, if were not serious right now, an open relationship is best. And about sexual things, my standing with you is I am comfortable with you and trust that if we did anything, it wouldn't be regretted, seeing that were fwb and know and trust each other. The only reason I've been holding back (and its hard to with you being soo hot) is because you told me a long time ago that you dont want to do anything, and I dunno if you feel the same way, so thats why the black bag is still unopened lol."

    -By "black bag" i mean a bag that she is storing at her house (I live at home still) that is full of goodies from Fascinations (sex store).

    I would love some feedback, tell me what is good and bad about the text, just so i understand more, for the future with other girls, and how this girl may react or whatever.

    I really appreciate it!

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    Default Re: A serious text I just sent, was it a bad idea??

    I don't really consider myself an expert. (You posted this question under Ask An Expert.) But I feel like I owe you one after reading your amazing Facebook Game post with the "Out of 10" gambit.

    First off, I'll say that as a young professional in my mid-20s I'm probably gaming different women. It's seems like the younger gals don't care about grammar and spelling, but the geeky young professionals that I like would have a fit over the typos and lack of punctuation in your message. I'm assuming that this is an email, and probably one that you wrote on the fly. In the future, I recommend saving stuff like this in the draft folder, re-reading it a couple of time and re-wording or re-considering what you are saying.

    I've been reading a couple of posts about MLTR, FWB, open relationships, remaining non-exclusive and so forth. From reading the back story, it's not even clear that she's looking to be exclusive with you, but your message makes it look like this is a big deal for you. Everything that I've read points toward keeping it simple and making it seems like you have that conversation with lots of gals: "I really enjoy spending time with you. Right now I'm in date-mode. I'm not looking for anything exclusive, but I definitely want to keep seeing you."

    Search on Google: PUASaintP MLTR

    PUA Saint P is a young guy who has been studying this for many more years than me. He lays it out pretty straight-forward in his "speech." Where is the field report about what happened after you met up with the Facebook girl?

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    Default Re: A serious text I just sent, was it a bad idea??

    After reading that, I would think that sets off the vibe of you breaking it off with her. For FWB, it would have to have been established way earlier in the relationship, plus you would have had to had sex with her early (and been extremely good, to make her want more) to pull off FWB. Holding off on the sex put what you have between her and you more into a potential relationship frame in her mind, and after reading that text she is probably thinking "oh, another guy that just wants me for sex, thought this guy may have been different but I guess not". I may be wrong, and would be interested in finding out if that text led to anything.
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