I have been with this girl for a while, long story short, we had alot of fun, but things were heading in the bf-gf and serious dating area too fast I think. Plus, I am pretty religious and basically cant get serious with woman that dont believe the same way so its hard for that ever to work. Another thing is that we havent had sex, things have escalated close, we took showers together, went in the tub, rubbing her body, touching her boobs, etc. But sex hasnt happened yet, not oral or straight up sex...I think after we talked about why I couldnt get serious, things changed... I have also noticed myself getting too AFC, im making myself always available to hang out, I always am the transporter, I always pick her up, try to make her happy (im happy too, but I am not the challenge to her that I used to be). I think its some inner game problems I am having, ive never been this far with a girl soo damn sexy. So i am sorta worried she is getting a little bored with our relationship, she hasnt really showed signs yet, but I wanna act on this before anything does happen...We are back to FWB now i think. So, we hung out last night and I still got a good vibe from her (kissing, biting/licking necks, etc) but I was sorta confused, and I told her we needed to talk about one more thing, mainly about sex stuff...
So today I sent her a text, usually we talk face to face, sometimes we text it out. Maybe I shouldve thought about the situation in her shoes, and thought about the consequences of sending it, but I just wrote what I felt..Here is what I said:
"I think we should take a short break from seeing each other, get some space to think...I dunno I've been thinking about the whole thing, and it seems like it moved way too fast, in the direction of getting serious, and not been the suual fun times. Getting serious wont work, based on how we believe and stuff right now, you understand that, but I don't know how interested you are in it, so it could be a loong time before you actually care. So I say we take a break, think about it, and go back to fwb status for the time being. I dont want you to feel like im the only guy you can talk to either, if were not serious right now, an open relationship is best. And about sexual things, my standing with you is I am comfortable with you and trust that if we did anything, it wouldn't be regretted, seeing that were fwb and know and trust each other. The only reason I've been holding back (and its hard to with you being soo hot) is because you told me a long time ago that you dont want to do anything, and I dunno if you feel the same way, so thats why the black bag is still unopened lol."
-By "black bag" i mean a bag that she is storing at her house (I live at home still) that is full of goodies from Fascinations (sex store).
I would love some feedback, tell me what is good and bad about the text, just so i understand more, for the future with other girls, and how this girl may react or whatever.
I really appreciate it!