Re: opinions on what to do next.
She needs a strong man and you're being a p*ssy.
How old are you and her?
Not very many really nice tens don't have a plethora of well-qualified options when it comes to men. While some on here would have you think that no ten gets hit on, ever, that is simply not true. In fact, the few that hit on them and make a sought after impression are the men with the best game or a natural connection with that particular woman.
How have you been a p*ssy and what should you have done and what should you do to fix it?
Originally Posted by Garrick
1. Twenty hours in a week, that isn't significant in any way. You can spend one rocking hour with a woman she'll never forget or a hundred hours where she just gave you more chances than you deserved or she was just bored, looking for someone to kill time with. There are 168 hours in a week, you spent less than 12% of the week with her. If it was twenty hours in a day, that may mean something.
Originally Posted by Garrick
2. All of these things you didn't like, you probably let her get away with. You should have called her on her sh1t and made it clear you were a commodotiy worth fighting for, that must be fought for. You are just reaffirming your position as her bitch.
3. You've built her up to an unreasonalbe level. You better show her you can handle being her man. Thus far, you've let her run all over you and it has gone without anything being done except you getting mad and finally deciding to post on here. The most attractive women require a strong man to be their man.
4. So, two women watched you sit unhappily during your "date" and you did, I presume, nothing about it. You should have told the third wheel you were on a date and wanted some time with ten. If not that, you could have started hitting on the other woman, creating some tension and maaking them compete for your attention. The only thing that could hurt you more was to just sit there and let your date get ruined.
5. Did she just happen to text you back or was it because you said/did something to make her realize she was losing you and better get to trying harder?
6. Next time a ten suggests you go to a club together, make and actual date to pick her up and take her. However, a club is a horrible place ot take a ten when you're unable to keep her attention.
With this ten, you should have just said, "okay, we'll see." She knows you are just sitting around wating for your call and it makes you look like a whipped little dog wanting a bone. At first, the dog is cute, but it doens't take long to look down on the dog.
7. Two options: 1. Pretend like her blowing you off didn't ruin your weekend and act like you had a great time without her. Show her, don't tell her, you have a great life without her.
Option 2. Call her out and tell her she sucks for inviting you out and bailing. It will be hard to do this without sounding like a whining bitch, but it can be done. Make a spectacle of it. If you pull it off, it will boost your social status. Most likely, you will look like a whining bitch; especially, if it doens't go the way you planned in you head (like she tells everyone how many times you called and texted her).
8. No, I don't care. Why? Because she knows how to treat men. You are the weak one in this relationship.
9. Bomb? Yes, it will bomb. It will make things awkward and she will think much less of you for it. Friend's zone until she doens't have to see you on a regular basis.
10. Also a crap plan, at this point. Get your game together with some less attrative women. You're already hurt by this one and with some short term successes, will only manage to get yourself in deeper and hurt more.
So, what should you do?
Be seen having a good time with other women. Really hot women do not like losing attention to any woman, especially, one they see as less attractive than them.
Keep this one close enough to reengage, but far enough away to have appreciated the time you two had shared together. The foundation has already been laid; albiet, not a good one. It's too late to change that.
You can change her memory of you. If she starts hearing other women talking about how awesome you are, she will think of you that way and will want you back.
Having a hot woman as a girlfriend, or even a date, takes a strong amn who is confident and capable. You may get there some day, but you aren't there, now.
I'll explain more after you reply.
I have failed more than most men have tried.
Every woman you pass up is a woman you will never have.