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    airsoft_marine13 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default How to get her interested in me again.

    I met a girl on a dating site, and we messaged back in fourth for a while, and it never escalated from there. About 2 months after I contacted her again, and come to find out her bests friends fiance went to school with me, so she gives me her number. I texted her a couple different days and nothing really happened, finally she texts me the 4th of July saying she heard I was a really nice guy and wants to hang out. She texted me everyday for a week and finally she wanted to make plans for Saturday, but I told her I was busy and could do Friday instead. We had met for Ice Cream,and right from the start she was super interested in me, she wanted to know everything about me and we were laughing and having a good time. Then we drove down to the beach and hung out on the swings where we talked for another hour, someone how we started talking about scars and touching each others hands looking at each others hands, and mentioned through out the night that I was funny, finally she said it was getting late and she had to work the next day, so we drove back to the Ice Cream shop and she said she had fun and then just hopped out of my truck and got in her car and left. The next evening (Saturday) she texts me around 7:00 pm asking how my day was, I texted her back about an hour later, and ended up calling her around 11:30 and we chatted for 10minutes , she said her phone hasn't been working and she didn't get my text , she was being funny and making dirty jokes towards me. Sunday I didn't hear from her at all, Monday I text her saying I had fun friday and that we should hang out again and she sends me a text back saying sounds good. I text her back asking what her schedule is like and she texts me about midnight saying " sitting at home with no power, turning my phone off" I don't even know if she received my text i sent earlier or not, that was on Monday, it is now Wednesday I haven't heard from her. Where do I go from here? I know she was showing some IOIs on Friday night, and I didn't really escalate it much but I am wondering If i should continue to pursue her, maybe calling her or if I should just wait it out. Any advice would be appreciated.

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    Default Re: How to get her interested in me again.

    I think you are doing awesome, but you are making a few mistakes of overanalyzing.. there will be some natural moments of touch each other innocently and seems like flirting because you are blinded by the situation... she IS interested and lost it simply because everything is too .. "by the book"... do somehting more original.

    You asked, how cna I get her interest back? you can't.. but know that like when we like a girl.. we always have a bit of interest in them.. so you have that to your advantage.. just start escalating your approach and don't sound like you are so uptight about seeing her. Text her a few jokes, then pop a question randomly to see her, that way, you are a surprise to her, because she can't read what you want.. and that makes girls increase attraction for you.

    enjoy that.

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    Default Re: How to get her interested in me again.

    I agree with studmuffin52. I can tell you clearly are really interested in this girl because you are overanalyzing everything she does, you do, etc.
    I probably do the same thing when I like a girl a lot, but you have to realize that overanalyzing can ruin everything. You end up asking all the she did this, what did it mean, why this, why that, does she like me, what did that mean?

    I have come to a realization with women. Whenever I want to see them again, I used to ask what was good for them. I would ask what their schedule was, etc. Every single time I would do that, I would get the similar response of uncertainty, and it would lead me to trying to guess what she wanted.
    Screw all that man. Girls HATE making decisions. And, from experience and just talking with other guys, almost every single guy has asked her what was good for her, when she was available, etc. Girls are used to the usual, so you have to be the unusual. Be direct... "So, Friday night, I want to see you. Is 7 o clock good to pick you up."

    It may not work for all cases, but being more direct in that kind of sense is better than overanalyzing and leaving it up to her. You have to be in control.
    Perfect example is my buddy met a girl Saturday night. She was with 2 friends, and I was wingmanning it for him with the one chick. The other chick was pre-occupied by my other buddy (who actually almost ruined it all for us because he has NO game whatsoever). Anyway, he wanted to meet her up. He said she "might" be able to Thursday. I told him text her back and tell her forget Thursday because you are busy. I then told him to tell her to come out Monday night at this bar me and him go to to play some darts and have a few beers. He TOLD her to come. He said, come by Monday night to this bar, bla bla bla... well it worked. She said yes.

    You have to be direct, random, and spontaneous. Girls try to figure us out. And once they think they have us figured out, they lose some interest. That is why if and when you do text her to hang out Friday night, she will ask what you want to do or something along those lines. Just tell her to look pretty and not to worry. Don't even tell her. Just have something planned.
    She actually may be busy Friday night or whatever, you just have to make her realize that you are better than whatever she has planned. And if that don't work, tell her Saturday no exceptions. If she still won't budge, screw it and on to the next one.

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    Default Re: How to get her interested in me again.

    Thanks for the advice, I will text her tomorrow and try the more direct approach. Was thinking taking her to dinner, then the drive in movie theater, and since she loves wine I was thinking of picking up a bottle of her favorite wine to take with to the theater to surprise her with. What do you guys think? Or any suggestions for a second date? and what about flowers delivered to her work after the second date? Or no? I have dated plenty of women in my past, but this one is different and I really felt a connection with her. I don't want to let her get away nor chase her away either.

    Thanks Again.


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