So here's the situation, sorry in advance for the length, but I want to provide as much detail as possible.
So I traveled with this random girl I met through a ride-share to a music festival, and we got to know each other quite well, got along great etc., she's single. So far so good.
One thing I noticed being around her is that she has a LOT of friends and is very touchy/feely with all the guys. The insecure part of me thinks she's screwed them all, but the other part of me thinks they're just friendly (she has an incredible personality).
Anyway, we get stranded for an extra night traveling back (just the two of us), and end up having sex (amazing, btw). However the next day, while I'm showing her affection she tells me she's seeing some guy (long distance relationship). I basically just say "that's understandable" and we don't mention it again.
After we get into town she drops me off at work, then picks me up after and I stay at her place (we do everything except have intercourse, as I had been given advice not to as to make her want it more).
We spend the night apart then the next night I stay at her place again (this time we do have sex). The next day as I'm showing her affection again she says that she's available for the next two weeks but when she comes back from this next festival things will have to be totally different and she doesn't want me to get hurt. I'm already hurt at that moment as I really dig this chick, but I don't press the issue.
The next night when we go to this party is when things really got messed. It was a HUGE party and we barely saw each other. At the end of the night I see her sitting by herself, all sad looking. She's drunk, tired and says she just wants to go home (it's only 12:30am, before the big after party). She's planning to take the bus and I wanted to go to the after party (probably a mistake there).
Then while I'm sitting with her some guy comes and sits on the other side of her and starts rubbing her back. They made plans to leave in the same direction as he apparently lives not far from her and they're talking about snuggling (I'm right there, FFS!). Then some other dude comes up and starts talking dirty to her, they talk about snuggling too, but he can't that night cause he already has plans. I'm right there the whole time, a little drunk, pretty high with my heart crushed feeling like sh1t.
I probably should have ditched her right there, but I knew I wouldn't have been able to enjoy the after party as all I would be thinking of is her 'snuggling' with some other dude.
The guy she was originally planning to leave with goes to say bye to some people and I made the the AFC move of offering to pay for a cab back to her place if she'll snuggle with me and she agrees, but says she's not farking as she's really tired. As soon as we get back she crashes right away. We fool around the next morning but no sex.
We hang out for quite a while the next day then she drops me off at home. That night I go to a house party at one of my friends house's and she surprisingly shows up (even though she said she wouldn't be coming, and doesn't know anyone there). Things are a bit awkward as I'm still a little mad/hurt/pissed from the night before. She leaves with her chick friend a bit early and I stay.
The next day I see her at this place that serves free lunch (we mentioned going, but never confirmed it). It's a little awkward still and she doesn't look very happy to see me. Afterwards we chat for a bit and she leaves with her chick friend and I go home.
Today she messages me on FB sending me some music I wanted. I ignore her for 5 hours then reply with a quick thanks, log-off and here I am.
The thing is I really like this girl a lot, and she gives me lots of IOI's as well (talking about things we should do together etc), but I really don't know how to handle the situation right now. She's had a number of boyfriends in the past so it's not like she won't have a relationship, which is ideally what I would like, but she could also be a great friend with benefits if I could just get my heart off my sleeve and my head in the right place...
My plan at the moment is to freeze her out (we've spent a LOT of time together since meeting), then when she contacts me and asks whats up I'll be honest with her. I'm thinking of saying something like "you're obviously free to snuggle with or fark whoever you want at this point, but you kind of lost me the way you threw it in my face that night", but I don't know how that would work. Freezing her out could also backfire as there a probably any number of people that could take my place in an instant.
What's up with this chick? How should I handle her, and if it's obvious it could never be anything serious how can I stop feeling like AFC and retain a friendship with benefits AND my dignity?
thanks in advance!