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    Default Re: Social Anxiety

    I would recommend something which you can do regularly or when the social anxiety comes with in your heart area as a bad feel,been there,you be nodding here,it worked for me.You can search google for some relaxation breathing excercises,and practice atleast once before sleep or whenever its an emergency case.But follow other advices too,do not totally rely on it.

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    Not everyone is built the same way. And not every technique or setting works well for all people. I have been considering the efforts of a friend of mine. I have been posting a bit about him recently because he has had serious success in the online world. And, I was wondering if anyone out here has experienced the same--or even close to it. It has really captured my imagination.

    My friend is bald, overweight, not rich and not much to look at. He is also shy and has suffered serious approach anxiety over the years. Because of these "limitations" he never felt comfortable sarging in the brick and mortar world.

    But, from the comfort of his own home, safe and anonymous, he was able to write some pretty hot stuff. He found that with time--and no pressure from the immediate needs of 3-second eye-contact and on-the-spot approach--he could edit and refine his words. Eventually, he took all those communication skills to craigslist and found a whole world of chicks local to him.

    He has picked up and nailed more than 100 of them. I have met some. They are not hookers or dudes. Some are smokin' hot.

    This guy has so much knowledge as to how to achieve this success, that he is talking about blogging about the subject. He says it's a sure-fire way to overcome shyness and anxiety. I am curious to learn more and am encouraging him to share his wisdom.

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    Default Re: Social Anxiety

    Anxiety is the key killer in men's efforts to get girls. It stems from plain fear. Fear is just a natural reaction/feeling which, like any feeling, can be overcome and controlled. It just takes time and some thinking. As TangoFoxtrot said, not everyone is built the same way. Everything will work differently from one individual to the next. Not everyone is adept in bar/lounge situation. Some are better in the online community. However, learning to control what you are good with, and applying it yourself, you can adapt to any circumstance and environment.
    Read up on conquering fears and anxiety. Use what you read or heard or whatever and apply it to your own circumstance. I always say, "the only person who is getting in the way of you and your goal is you." You know yourself better than ANYONE out there. You know what can work for you, what you want to become, and what needs to be done.

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    I agree with Hyde. But, I find that shy guys / people with social anxiety need more practical help. Not to take anything away from the advice being offered here....but, telling someone who is shy to work to overcome it and to keep approaching people until they develop a thick enough skin to handle public rejection is a pretty tough sell. This is why I am seeking advice from people who have overcome shyness and achieved success in different ways. This is why I am encouraging my buddy who has scored online to post some of his strategies.

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    I actually have a good buddy of mine who I keep taking out. What I do is I will open a set, and just have him introduce himself. I do a majority of the talking, but I include him into it. Afterwards, he realizes how at some points it just becomes natural to just talk with a girl.

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    That's cool. Not everybody has a good friend / wing man, though. What can these guys do to get into the game? It's tough for shy guys to just do it.

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    Default Re: Social Anxiety

    I completely agree it is tough to go out there in the game when you are shy. Especially if finding a good wingman is difficult.

    I can't say I know the best answer to it. But, it just simply taking those baby steps to get over it, bit by bit.

    I read something recently that said that most of our natural "game" comes from within. We all know how to do it, we just need to change that feeling of "fear" into understanding it as just "nervous excitement". All in all, it goes back to those days when we all had our first kiss, etc. We can read all we want on how to do it (the first kiss), but once you did it, you weren't thinking steps or manuals or blogs we read (not saying everyone read how to kiss). Instead, you kind of just did it.

    So it's just on the person to just commit themselves to go that extra step towards becoming that person they want to be. It's a journey, not a quick trip to a 7-11.

    I am sure there are plenty of people around on this forum who may live in the area that are more than willing to just go out and help out too. If a wingman is needed, asking won't hurt.

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    Default Re: Social Anxiety

    REvamp yourself to get some confidence boost. Change your hair style or shave or clothing get a proper makeover.... This actually helps. Trust me.

    Wah! you already did kick-boxing which is great! Continue into new things and events and you will enhance your confidence levels!
    Cheers. Knight

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    Default Re: Social Anxiety

    The biggest problem is that I dont have occasions or friends that go out to the right places to get in the game.. I would like to go with a wing man but dont have anyone..

    All I do is go to work, gym and go home almost everyday..

    You start to feel the sexual frustration and the lack of interest. You notice that you actually live in denial just for the sake of not putting any effort or the fact its really hard to play the game.. Im not sure but I find that I dont have any problem living like this for now..

    I used to go to salsa classes, where the competition is heavy there but I managed go out on a date with a girl who really liked me but later rejected me during that date cuz she lost interest.. That wasnt a problem..

    I actually plan to wait till the end of the year where I could go back to college and start meeting people there.. As bars and clubs i barely touch due to the boring nature of the people I hang out with..

    I plan to figure out ways to open with people in less occasional places like malls, work or such.. Every girl that passes me feels like a miss..


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