Howdy guys, first post here so I'm pretty green...
I go salsa dancing. Love it. I've been doing it about six months by now and I'm pretty much a natural - girls are impressed when we dance.
I met a Spanish girl at a salsa club a couple of weeks back. She doesn't speak good English. Enough to get by, but far from fluent. Luckily I speak Spanish, slightly better than her English but not fluent either.
We danced, talked, flirted, I took her number. On the dance floor it's great - lots of touching and a sexier dance than I have with anyone else.
But off the dance floor and I'm back to being a doofus again. It's not the same, the rules are different. We went for a drink last night and I ballsed it up. First thing was I let her sit opposite me rather than by my side - there was only one table left but that didn't go well. Then we just talked, mostly in Spanish. Lots of laughing (a lot of it at my accent!). She was visibly tired after a long day at work and after a few hours I took her home in the car. A kiss on each cheek was all I got.
But we were never in a 'date' kind of frame.
This isn't the first time, either. I've been out with other dancers and after a few hours hit the friend zone. Booo.
How can I change that?
There's a sexual energy when I see her out dancing, hand holding, hugs... None of that was there outside of the salsa-zone. I want it back! How do I get it back!?